Being left alone with a kid may seem like a complicated and impossible task. Often times it is, but there are ways with coping and overcoming obstacles by yourself and here is how:
Learning to Let Go
You are only one person, and realistically you can only be one person. Sometimes this means you have to reprioritize things. Let go of the guilt, because sometimes things are not in our control. Let go of having to clean every inch of the house every day, which can seem impossible when you spend your day working as many hours as you need to, have to attend one child’s play or another’s football game, and then be sure to have supper on the table. You have to learn to let go of parts of the to-do list that is able to be neglected. Most importantly, you have to let go of the anger you have with the situation of being a single parent.
The most important thing you may need to do is find support. You can easily find single parent support groups to find other people like yourself. This can help ease any stresses you may have by bonding with people in your similar situation. It can be easier to deal with issues if you realize you’re not the only one. You can also find a nice support group in your friends and family. They are willing to help you; you just need to swallow your pride and ask for it. Finding support is a great way to help you replace your missing partner or to help you deal with your issues that you are struggling with. It takes a village, no?
Don’t Forget About Yourself
This is good advice for any parent, not just single parents. When we become parents, our children become our everything and this makes us neglect ourselves. You need to take some time for yourself every now and then, just like every other parent. Your child will understand, and taking moments to yourself here and there will help you de-stress and this can help you be a better parent. Your children want you to be happy.
Ignore Your “Single Parent” Guilt
It’s easy to fall into the trap of looking at couples out with their child and feeling guilty that your child does not have that. You have a kid and you’re raising it by yourself. You deserve a medal for taking over two roles in the household and still being sane. Your child is not going to grow up broken just because they are from a single parent household. Many children of single parents grow up to thrive as adults. You just keep raising your child the best way you see fit, and ignore any of the guilt being alone can bring you.
An important thing to remember is to not be afraid to ask for help. It’s easy to think that you are alone, but you’re not. Sometimes swallowing your pride and admitting that you can’t do something is difficult, but it’s for the best of everyone if you take a step back and let someone else stand in for you.
It also helps to find a role model; someone who has handled this before. They can help you during difficult situations that you may be uncertain how to handle. They can be vital in giving advice about raising a child by yourself.
It is normal to feel guilty about being the only one there for your children. Just remember that children are happy as long as they are loved and cared for. They don’t care that you’re a single parent; they just care that you are there for them when they need it and that you love them unconditionally.