Parenting Quotes

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“Menjadi panutan bukan tugas anak sulung-kepada adaik-adiknya, tapi tugas orang tua kepada semua anak”
― Adhitya Mulya, Sabtu Bersama Bapak

“Children make your lives a mess and set your priorities straight.”
― Adrianne Simeone

“I won’t do that when I’m a parent. I’ll make different mistakes, of course.”
― Adrienne Stoltz

“Today’s troubled homes are made by parents who want to have children but don’t want their children to have parents”
― Agona Apell, The Success Genome Unravelled: Turning Men from Rot to Rock

“You can’t predict the outcome. You can’t raise a child and then tell them what to think.”
― Aimee Bender, The Color Master: Stories

“Most kids act out because they want your attention. Don’t spank your child show them some attention.”
― Alcurtis Turner

“Sure, I’d like a child of my own. I’d also like a laser pistol, that doesn’t mean someone should give me one.”
― Alex Bosworth, Chip Chip Chaw!

“Whatever I haven’t accomplished biologically obviously wasn’t all that imperative.”
― Alex Bosworth, Chip Chip Chaw!

“She brought a chair into the room and placed it alongside the top of his bed. Then she held his hand as he drifted off to sleep. It was so small in her own hand, and it felt warm and dry. She pressed his hand gently, and his fingers returned the pressure, but only just, as he was almost asleep by then. She remembered, but not very well, what it was to fall asleep holding the hand of another; how precious such an experience, how fortunate those to whom it was vouchsafed by the gods of Friendship, or of Love. She thought she had forgotten that, but now she remembered.”
― Alexander McCall Smith, Bertie’s Guide to Life and Mothers

“When our feet talk to us, we listen.”
― Alexander Nestoiter

“Imagine what it must be like for teenagers who don’t feel they have room to breathe in their own homes. If you are a parent reading this book, you care about your child. If she is quirky, unusual, or nonconformist, ask yourself whether you are doing everything you can to nurture her unusual interests, style, or skills, or whether instead you are directly or subtly pushing her to hide them.”
― Alexandra Robbins, The Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth: Popularity, Quirk Theory and Why Outsiders Thrive After High School

“Too many parents fail to understand that there is a difference between fitting in and being liked, that there is a difference between being “normal” and being happy. High school is temporary. Family is not.”
― Alexandra Robbins, The Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth: Popularity, Quirk Theory and Why Outsiders Thrive After High School

“What is called family pride is often founded on the illusion of self-love. A man wishes to perpetuate and immortalize himself.”
― Alexis de Tocqueville, Democracy in America Volume 1

“The more we want our children to be (1) lifelong learners, genuinely excited about words and numbers and ideas, (2) avoid sticking with what’s easy and safe, and (3) become sophisticated thinkers, the more we should do everything possible to help them forget about grades.”
― Alfie Kohn

“Like any other tool for facilitating the completion of a questionable task, rewards offer a “how” answer to what is really a “why” question.”
― Alfie Kohn, Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A’s, Praise and Other Bribes

“Many of our elected officials have virtually handed the keys to our schools over to corporate interests. Presidential commissions on education are commonly chaired by the executives of large companies.”
― Alfie Kohn, The Schools Our Children Deserve: Moving Beyond Traditional Classrooms and “Tougher Standards”

“How we feel about our kids isn’t as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.”
― Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason

“In short, with each of the thousand-and-one problems that present themselves in family life, our choice is between controlling and teaching, between creating an atmosphere of distrust and one of trust, between setting an example of power and helping children to learn responsibility, between quick-fix parenting and the kind that’s focused on long-term goals.”
― Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason

“so your husband’s home with the little ones?—it’ll be good for him, let him see what it’s like with kids all day, right? men never understand until you ask them to do it and then they say, Well, the kids only act like this with me, it has to be much easier when you’re with them, isn’t that the truth? They’re really thinking, You can’t possibly put up with this day after day, can you?”
― Alice McDermott, Charming Billy

“Child abuse is still sanctioned — indeed, held in high regard — in our society as long as it is defined as child-rearing. It is a tragic fact that parents beat their children in order to escape the emotions from how they were treated by their own parents.”
― Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self

“If a child sees something in a parent that the child aspires to, he or she will copy that parent and be content. If a children feel that a parent is living a life that shows compassion and understanding, patience and love, that child will not have to reach a stage of rebellion against that parent. Why rebel against someone who has listened to you and wants to help you fufill your dreams? A parent who has proven time and again that growth and happiness of his or her children is priority number one does not have to worry about where these children are heading in life. They will be sensitive and productive members of society for as long as they live.”
― Alice Ozma, The Reading Promise: My Father and the Books We Shared

“You lose a child and you do understand each other’s grief at first, but if you get out of step with each other, it’s all over. Suddenly each of you is alone.”
― Alison Bruce, Cambridge Blue

“All fathers are liars . . . If you want to be a father, you have to be prepared to become a liar.”
― Alison Espach, The Adults

“Honor your relationships by developing listening skills.”
― Allan Lokos, Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living

“It’s hard to look at it like that, isn’t it? Because if you can be a better parent than the ones you had, you have to face the fact that your parents had that choice too. If you’re not fated to be an awful parent, they weren’t either. And,” I said feeling my throat tighten, “it’s easier to believe that we’re all just [f*’d] than it is to know there are choices.” I rubbed my hands together to try to get my fingers to warm up. “It hurts less to think they couldn’t have done any better than they did, doesn’t it?”
― Allie Larkin, Why Can’t I Be You

“Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry.”
― Alvin Price

“…failure promotes success only if you actually take the time to analyze your mistakes..” “Failure has to be separated from fault, and for many people that requires a bit of deprogramming, as we learn early on that they are one and the same.” “In this framework, intention is extremely important.”
― Amanda Lang

“This communal parenting brought me out of the privacy of our foreign enclave and into the public life of the community. Here, parenting was everyone’s responsibility; all adults were “aunties” and “uncles”.”
― Aminta Arrington, Unsavory Elements: Stories of Foreigners on the Loose in China

“Unfortunately, we spend more time teaching our daughters how to avoid becoming rape victims than teaching our sons not to become rapists.”
― Amir Clayton Powell

“When the gardeners are good, the flower will bloom.”
― Amish Tripathi, The Oath of the Vayuputras

“If our children were to grow up truthful they much be taught by those who had a regard for truth; and not just a casual regard, a delicate regard. On this point we were adamant.”
― Amy Carmichael, Gold Cord

“The fact is that Chinese parents can do things that would seem unimaginable-even legally actionable-to Westerners. Chinese mothers can say to their daughters, “Hey fatty-lose some weight.” By contrast, Western parents have to tiptoe around the issue, talking in terms of “health” and never ever mentioning the f-word, and their kids still end up in therapy for eating disorders and negative self image.”
― Amy Chua, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother

“Raising teenage sons and daughters is a long and tiresome journey. With God’s help the final outcome will be worthwhile.”
― Ana Monnar

“I raised my three teens with love, perseverance, tenacity, sweat, tears, prayers, lighting candles, and the list could go on.”
― Ana Monnar

“In retrospect, it seems obvious that my research about parenting was also a means to subdue my anxieties about becoming a parent…. I grew up afraid of illness and disability, inclined to avert my gaze from anyone who was too different – despite all the ways I knew myself to be different. This book helped me kill that bigoted impulse, which I had always known to be ugly. The obvious melancholy in the stories I heard should, perhaps, have made me shy away from paternity, but it had the opposite effect.”
― Andrew Solomon

“To look deep into your child’s eyes and see in him both yourself and something utterly strange, and then to develop a zealous attachment to every aspect of him, is to achieve parenthood’s self-regarding, yet unselfish, abandon. It is astonishing how often such mutuality had been realized – how frequently parents who had supposed that they couldn’t care for an exceptional child discover that they can. The parental predisposition to love prevails in the most harrowing of circumstances. There is more imagination in the world than one might think.”
― Andrew Solomon, Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity

“Embrace your beautiful mess of a life with your child. No matter how hard it gets, do not disengage… Do something—anything—to connect with and guide your child today. Parenting is an adventure of the greatest significance. It is your legacy.” – Andy Kerckhoff, from Critical Connection”
― Andy Kerckhoff, Critical Connection: A Practical Guide to Parenting Young Teens

“Ever seen a two-year-old tattering around a garden? There might be a poison ivy, or rose bushes or Hawthorne around the edges. There might be spades or secateurs lying on the lawn. The kid doesn’t care. He just wants to play with all those brightly colored things he sees. To him, the world is a safe place. And you might want to rush out and cut back all those sharp spiky plants so they can’t hurt him, and you might want to clear away all those dangerous tools just in case, he picks them up and cut himself on them, but you know you shouldn’t because if you keep doing that then he either will grow up thinking the can never hurt him, or he might go the other way, and think that everything is dangerous, and he should never go far from your side. So you just watch. And wait. And if he does get rush from the poison ivy or if he does cut his fingers off with the secateurs, then you get him to the hospital as quickly as you can, in the reasonably sure knowledge the he’ll never make the same mistake again.”
― Andy Lane, Slow Decay

“Relationships are built on small, consistent deposits of time. You can’t cram for what’s most important. If you want to connect with your kids, you’ve got to be available consistently, not randomly.”
― Andy Stanley, Ask It: The Question That Will Revolutionize How You Make Decisions

“Author has developed a routine of daily emotional debriefing with his kids as he tucks them in at night. To encourage the habit of keeping uncluttered, open heart, he starts with basic questions asking whether anyone has hurt them or made them angry to help them process at an age-appropriate depth. As they mature, he will add questions.”
― Andy Stanley, Enemies of the Heart: Breaking Free from the Four Emotions That Control You

“What a funny girl, I thought, and then I realized something. To the three-year-old ye, and maybe even to the thirty year old eye, weeds and grass look very similar. Same color, same feeling, same texture.”
― Angie Smith, Mended: Pieces of a Life Made Whole

“I would have stayed forever within the garden of Re-mose’s childhood, but time is a mother’s enemy.”
― Anita Diamant, The Red Tent

“Until we accept that our children have much more of a risk of being sexually abused than drowning in a pool, being struck by a car, stricken with cancer, hurt by a vaccination, or diagnosed with Ebola, we contribute to a culture of panic and ignorance.”
― Ann Brasco

“Having a child who is struggling doesn’t make you a bad parent, just as being a child who is struggling doesn’t make your child a bad kid.”
― Ann Douglas

“… be radical about grace and relentless about truth and resolute about holiness…”
― Ann Voskamp

“The parent must always self-parent first, self-preach before child-teach, because who can bring peace unless they’ve held their own peace?”
― Ann Voskamp, One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are

“How can I help this son of mine see when I can’t see? The parent must always self-parent first, self-preach before child-teach, because who can bring peace unless they’ve held their own peace?”
― Ann Voskamp, One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are

“I mark my years or parenting by the people who stepped in and forced me to abandon my inclination to meddle, micromanage, and coddle, beginning with my children’s father, who sat me down and told me in year two that I was going to create a little monster if I continued to act as though “no” and “I don’t love you” were synonymous.”
― Anna Quindlen, Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake

“The first night in the hospital with a snuffling baby girl, I learned that my family was not the only thing that had expanded. There was now a whole new world of opportunities for judgment and self-doubt.”
― Anna White, Mended: Thoughts on Life, Love, and Leaps of Faith

“My husband says this longing for isolation is not a good quality, that if I wanted to be a hermit I should have moved to the West Coast and adopted a lot of cats, not gotten married and had children that demand to be fed several times a day.”
― Anna White, Mended: Thoughts on Life, Love, and Leaps of Faith

“It is a beautiful and scary thing to sit open-handed and let all your plans float away like dust.”
― Anna White, Mended: Thoughts on Life, Love, and Leaps of Faith

“One reason we have children I think is to learn that parts of ourselves we had given up for dead are merely dormant and that the old joys can re emerge fresh and new and in a completely different form.”
― Anne Fadiman

“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.”
― Anne Frank

“There are really places in your heart that you don’t know exist until you love a child.”
― Anne Lammot

“I don’t remember who said this, but there really are places in the heart you don’t even know exist until you love a child.”
― Anne Lamott, Operating Instructions: A Journal of My Son’s First Year

“It is a violation of trust to use your kids as caulking for the cracks in you.”
― Anne Lamott, Some Assembly Required: A Journal of My Son’s First Son

“You’ve got to learn to let go and let your children fall, and fail. If you try to protect them from hurt, and always rush to their side with Band-Aids, they won’t learn about life, and what is true, what works, what helps, and what are real consequences of certain kinds of behavior. When they do get hurt, which they will, they won’t know how to take care of their grown selves. They won’t even know where the aspirin is kept.”
― Anne Lamott, Some Assembly Required: A Journal of My Son’s First Son

“It’s so awful, attacking your child. It’s the worst thing I know, to shout loudly at this 50 lb. being with his huge trusting brown eyes. It’s like bitch-slapping E.T.”
― Anne Lamott, Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith

“Morality in the general is well enough known by men, but the particular refinements of virtue are unknown by most persons; thus the majority of parents, without knowing it and without intending it, give very bad examples to their children.”
― Anne-Robert-Jacques Turgot, Turgot Collection Pocket Edition

“Adelaide believes that all children should have enough grown-ups around who love them so that one can tell them to fight, one can tell them not to, and one can tell them not to worry so much.”
― Ann-Marie MacDonald, Fall on Your Knees

“A daughter,’ Rowley scooped up the child and held her high. The baby blinked from sleep and crowed with him. ‘Any fool can have a son,’ he said. ‘It takes a man to conceive a daughter.”
― Ariana Franklin, The Serpent’s Tale

“Parents can tell but never teach, unless they practice what they preach.”
― Arnold H. Glasow

“As an individual, you are entitled to your time of grief, process of grief, and right to grieve.”
― Asa Don Brown

“Spanking a child is about the parent not the child. The child will learn more from positive correction than physical manipulation.”
― Asa Don Brown

“As a father, we need to actively listen.”
― Asa Don Brown

“Raising Black children — female and male — in the mouth of a racist, sexist, suicidal dragon is perilous and chancy. If they cannot love and resist at the same time, they will probably not survive.”
― Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches

“It is as hard for our children to believe that we are not omnipotent as it is for us to know it, as parents. But that knowledge is necessary as the first step in the reassessment of power as something other than might, age, privilege, or the lack of fear. It is an important step for a boy, whose societal destruction begins when he is forced to believe that he can only be strong if he doesn’t feel, or if he wins.”
― Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches

“The innocence of a child is an astounding quality which if not withered away as they grow can spread love and happiness everywhere”
― Aura Of Thoughts

“Even if i’m setting myself up for failure, I think it’s worth trying to be a mother who delights in who her children are, in their knock-knock jokes and earnest questions. A mother who spends less time obseessing about what will happen, or what has happened, and more time reveling in what is. A mother who doesn’t fret over failings and slights, who realizes her worries and anxieties are just thoughts, the continuous chattering and judgement of a too busy mind. A mother who doesn’t worry so much about being bad or good but just recognizes that she’s both, and neither. A mother who does her best, and for whom that is good enough, even if, in the end, her best turns out to be, simply, not bad. ”
― Ayelet Waldman, Bad Mother: A Chronicle of Maternal Crimes, Minor Calamities, and Occasional Moments of Grace

“From the time he was young, he dressed the way you told him to dress; he acted the way you told him to act; he said the things you told him to say. He’s been listening to somebody else tell him what to do… He hasn’t changed. He is still listening to somebody else tell him what to do. The problem is, it isn’t you anymore; it’s his peers.”
― Barbara Coloroso, Kids Are Worth It!: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline

“Too bad for any parent who has become accustomed to ruling by force, because at some point the kids just get too big to slap around.”
― Barbara Ehrenreich, Living with a Wild God: A Nonbeliever’s Search for the Truth about Everything

“God, why does a mortal man have children? It is senseless to love anything this much.”
― Barbara Kingsolver, Animal Dreams

“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.”
― Barbara Kingsolver, Homeland and Other Stories

“Parenting is something that happens mostly while you’re thinking of something else.”
― Barbara Kingsolver, Homeland and Other Stories

“But kids don’t stay with you if you do it right. It’s the one job where, the better you are, the more surely you won’t be needed in the long run.”
― Barbara Kingsolver, Pigs in Heaven

“In a culture which holds the two-parent patriarchal family in higher esteem than any other arrangement, all children feel emotionally insecure when their family does not measure up to the standard. A utopian vision of the patriarchal family remains intact despite all the evidence which proves that the well-being of children is no more secure in the dysfunctional male-headed household than in the dysfunctional female-headed household. Children need to be raised in loving environments. Whenever domination is present love is lacking. Loving parents, be they single or coupled, gay or straight, headed by females or males, are more likely to raise healthy, happy children with sound self-esteem. In future feminist movement we need to work harder to show parents the ways ending sexism positively changes family life. Feminist movement is pro-family. Ending patriarchal domination of children, by men or women, is the only way to make the family a place where children can be safe, where they can be free, where they can know love”
― Bell Hooks, Feminism Is for Everybody: Passionate Politics

“Much of life, fatherhood included, is the story of knowledge acquired too late: if only I’d known then what I know now, how much smarter, abler, stronger, I would have been. But nothing really prepares you for kids, for the swells of emotion that roll through your chest like the rumble of boulders tumbling downhill, nor for the all-enveloping labor of it, the sheer mulish endurance you need for the six or seven hundred discrete tasks that have to be done each and every day. Such a small person! Not much bigger than a loaf of bread at first, yet it takes so much to keep the whole enterprise going. Logistics, skills, materiel; the only way we really learn is by figuring it out as we go along, and even then it changes on us every day, so we’re always improvising, which is a fancy way of saying that we’re doing things we technically don’t know how to do.”
― Ben Fountain

“Screaming at children over their grades, especially to the point of the child’s tears, is child abuse, pure and simple. It’s not funny and it’s not good parenting. It is a crushing, scarring, disastrous experience for the child. It isn’t the least bit funny.”
― Ben Stein

“I’ve realised now that the reality of children is you have to be in the right place with the right person.”
― Benedict Cumberbatch

“Educate your children to self-control, to the habit of holding passion and prejudice and evil tendencies subject to an upright and reasoning will, and you have done much to abolish misery from their future and crimes from society.”
― Benjamin Franklin

“Parenting the outside of the child is as useless as polishing a rotten apple.”
― Benjamin Lotter

“If parents were as concerned about raising their children as they are about the outcome of their sitcom or sports game, this nation would thrive.”
― Benjamin Lotter

“If you’re not parenting on purpose, don’t be surprised when you get chaos from the children.”
― Benjamin Lotter

“You don’t gain authority by raising your voice. You prove you don’t any.”
― Benjamin Lotter, Parenting Pitfalls: Common Parenting Mistakes and Common Sense Solutions

“You don’t gain authority by raising your voice. You prove you don’t have any.”
― Benjamin Lotter, Parenting Pitfalls: Common Parenting Mistakes and Common Sense Solutions

“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”
― Benjamin Spock

“In automobile terms, the child supplies the power but the parents have to do the steering.”
― Benjamin Spock

“Rejection is an opportunity for your selection.”
― Bernard Branson

“One of the greatest things parents can do for their children is to believe in them(their uniqueness) and help them realize their own God-given dreams”
― Bernard Kelvin Clive, How To Do It At Any Age

“Whether you’re explaining where pets go when they die or teaching your child to recycle, your philosophies have ramifications. For the rest of history, echoes of your voice will be heard.”
― Beth Ann Fennelly, Great with Child: Letters to a Young Mother

“With toddlers around, times are always interesting.”
― Beth Ann Fennelly, Great with Child: Letters to a Young Mother

“When sharing your news, you might come across some disgruntled parent-folk. You know, the kind who snort and say ruefully, “If there’s any place you want to travel to, go now.” Don’t let them squelch your joy, dear K: these are the kind of people who never went anywhere before they had babies either.”
― Beth Ann Fennelly, Great with Child: Letters to a Young Mother

“That’s a parents’ job, isn’t it? To raise a child strong enough to leave and break our hearts?”
― Beth Groundwater, To Hell in a Handbasket

“If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent.”
― Bette Davis

“If you’ve never been hated by your child, you’ve never been a parent.”
― Bette Davis

“Each suburban wife struggles with it alone. As she made the beds, shopped for groceries, matched slipcover material, ate peanut butter sandwiches with her children, chauffeured Cub Scouts and Brownies, lay beside her husband at night- she was afraid to ask even of herself the silent question– ‘Is this all?”
― Betty Friedan, The Feminine Mystique

“But she needs me more than she needs him and I guess being needed is almost as good as being loved. Maybe better.”
― Betty Smith, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn

“Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.”
― Bill Ayers

“No matter how calmly you try to referee, parenting will eventually produce bizarre behavior, and I’m not talking about the kids. Their behavior is always normal.”
― Bill Cosby

“Parents are not really interested in justice. They just want quiet.”
― Bill Cosby, Fatherhood

“New Rule: Don’t name your kid after a ballpark. Cubs fans Paul and Teri Fields have named their newborn son Wrigley. Wrigley Fields. A child is supposed to be an independent individual, not a means of touting your own personal hobbies. At least that’s what I’ve always taught my kids, Panama Red and Jacuzzi.”
― Bill Maher, The New New Rules: A Funny Look At How Everybody But Me Has Their Head Up Their Ass

“Do your kids see your kindness or are you always telling them. “NO?”
― Brenda M. McGraw, Joy Beyond: 28 Days to Finding Joy Beyond the Clutter of Life

“What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.”
― Brené Brown

“One of the reasons we judge each other so harshly in this world of parenting is because… we perceive anyone else who’s doing anything differently than what we’re doing as criticizing our choices.”
― Brené Brown

“[I] never talk about gratitude and joy separately, for this reason. In 12 years, I’ve never interviewed a single person who would describe their lives as joyful, who would describe themselves as joyous, who was not actively practicing gratitude.”
― Brené Brown

“Caring about the welfare of children and shaming parents are mutually exclusive endeavors.”
― Brené Brown

“The real questions for parents should be: “Are you engaged? Are you paying attention?” If so, plan to make lots of mistakes and bad decisions. Imperfect parenting moments turn into gifts as our children watch us try to figure out what went wrong and how we can do better next time. The mandate is not to be perfect and raise happy children. Perfection doesn’t exist, and I’ve found what makes children happy doesn’t always prepare them to be courageous, engaged adults.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting. In terms of teaching our children to dare greatly in the “never enough” culture, the question isn’t so much “Are you parenting the right way?” as it is: “Are you the adult that you want your child to grow up to be?”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“I’ve found what makes children happy doesn’t always prepare them to be courageous, engaged adults.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Fear of the Dark I’ve always been prone to worry and anxiety, but after I became a mother, negotiating joy, gratitude, and scarcity felt like a full-time job. For years, my fear of something terrible happening to my children actually prevented me from fully embracing joy and gratitude. Every time I came too close to softening into sheer joyfulness about my children and how much I love them, I’d picture something terrible happening; I’d picture losing everything in a flash. At first I thought I was crazy. Was I the only person in the world who did this? As my therapist and I started working on it, I realized that “my too good to be true” was totally related to fear, scarcity, and vulnerability. Knowing that those are pretty universal emotions, I gathered up the courage to talk about my experiences with a group of five hundred parents who had come to one of my parenting lectures. I gave an example of standing over my daughter watching her sleep, feeling totally engulfed in gratitude, then being ripped out of that joy and gratitude by images of something bad happening to her. You could have heard a pin drop. I thought, Oh, God. I’m crazy and now they’re all sitting there like, “She’s a nut. How do we get out of here?” Then all of the sudden I heard the sound of a woman toward the back starting to cry. Not sniffle cry, but sob cry. That sound was followed by someone from the front shouting out, “Oh my God! Why do we do that? What does it mean?” The auditorium erupted in some kind of crazy parent revival. As I had suspected, I was not alone.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

“Teaching our children to live a quiet, sane, and balanced life is one of the most important parental tasks of our day.”
― Brent L. Top, Finding Inward Stillness: Practical Applications of Christ’s Atonement in Everyday Living

“I used to believe my father about everything but then I had children myself & now I see how much stuff you make up just to keep yourself from going crazy.”
― Brian Andreas, Story People: Selected Stories & Drawings of Brian Andreas

“We should never permit ourselves to do anything that we are not willing to see our children do. We should set them an example that we wish them to imitate.”
― Brigham Young

“To gain the spiritual ascendancy over ourselves, and the influences with which we are surrounded, through a rigid course of self-discipline, is our first consideration, it is our first labor, before we can pave the way for our children to grow up without sin unto salvation.”
― Brigham Young

“If you can give your son or daughter only one gift, let it be enthusiasm.”
― Bruce Barton

“We ignore the emotional needs of young children at our peril.”
― Bruce D. Perry, Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential–and Endangered

“One of the things that happens in the world is that people try to avoid conflict. Whereas in the home, you can’t. You’ll end up getting divorced or becoming estranged from your kids. Keep in mind, the hardest part of any negotiation is agreeing to start it. Once you’ve gotten past that emotional barrier, the solutions usually present themselves.”
― Bruce Feiler, The Secrets of Happy Families: Improve Your Mornings, Rethink Family Dinner, Fight Smarter, Go Out and Play, and Much More

“Kid’s don’t care how many sermons you preach to them. The only sermon they’ll hear is how you live your life in front of them.”
― Bruce Van Horn

“As children we are taught, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me!” As adults we teach those same words to our own children while simultaneously we sue one another for defamation or verbal assault. Ah, the naked leading the blind.”
― Bryan Oftedahl

“As children we are taught, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me!” As adults we teach those same words to our own children while simultaneously we sue one another for defamation. Ah, the naked leading the blind.”
― Bryan Oftedahl

“We must imbue our children with principles of the higher-self, principles which see all people as true equals, and above all, which are sensitive to the delicate and fragile balance of life.”
― Bryant McGill, Voice of Reason

“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms, allow them to take the subway… let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Don’t box your children in and tell them that everything is a sin. You’ll produce either rebels, or very boring people.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“I truly am %100 convinced that, if you want to raise knights and noble women, you must teach your children the philosophies of old. I have been teaching my son ancient philosophies since he was nine years old. It becomes a thought pattern, a way of life, an ingrained character. The philosophy of old is the stuff of knights and queens! If I can one day, I will put up a school dedicated to raising young children in the ways of old, from a fresh young age!”
― C. JoyBell C.

“The problem with parenting today? Children are not raised! They are just born and fed and clothed. Then upon them are placed ornaments for the eyes of others to see: superficial actions and ways, all of which pass away as sure as the sun sets every evening! Why are you not raising nobility? Why are you not raising Knights and Queens? Feed those souls, give them character!”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Education is only the most fully conscious of the channels whereby each generation influences the next.”
― C.S. Lewis

“The worst attitude of all would be the professional attitude with regards children in the raw as a sort of raw material which we must handle.”
― C.S. Lewis, On Stories: And Other Essays on Literature

“we (modern society) make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful.”
― C.S. Lewis, The Abolition of Man

“Parents drinking is the reason you came into the world, and if we didn’t keep doing it then, by God, it would be the reason you went back out of it.”
― Caitlin Moran, Moranthology

“School plays were invented partly to give parents and easy opportunity to demonstrate their priorities.”
― Calvin Trillin, About Alice

“When do you become a man? When you become your own man. When other men trust you to do a man’s work. Trust you with their name, their reputation, their thoughts. Trust you to watch their backs and trust you with their lives.”
― Carew Papritz

“Don’t have kids until you’re ready. And when you do have them, have them all the way. They aren’t like some Cadillac that you can turn back into the dealership after three years.”
― Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: His Wife, His Children, His Final Gift

“Remember, Little Ones, everything is not important all the time. Only living is important all the time. Not things. Not money. Not more things and more endless money. Spend well the quality of your time. And yes, be greedy with your hours. If only to then give those hours away as the most precious gifts you have to offer to yourself, your family, and your friends.”
― Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: His Wife, His Children, His Final Gift

“It’s a fool who thinks having a kid is a right, which is the biggest crock of fish heads I’ve ever heard.”
― Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: His Wife, His Children, His Final Gift

“Love your kids and just be there for them. You don’t have to eyeball their every moment or to orchestrate all their comings and goings. They know this. They know that’s too much.”
― Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: His Wife, His Children, His Final Gift

“I want to remember warming your two a.m. bottle, clipping your locks, watching you be baptized, bathing you in the big porcelain sink… how I often laid you against my chest and felt the cradlesong of your tiny breaths as you fell asleep . . .”
― Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: His Wife, His Children, His Final Gift

“Kids. They’re not tin cans or sheetrock. They’re laughing machines. Wind them up and watch them go.”
― Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: His Wife, His Children, His Final Gift

“KIDS. They know a BRIBE when they see one. They want a PARENT, not a PAY-OFF. They don’t care if you’re Jack-King-Rodeo or Mister-You-Own-New-York. All they understand is time spent WITH YOU or WITHOUT YOU. It’s that SIMPLE.”
― Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: His Wife, His Children, His Final Gift

“Money-it can buy your kids anything, but it cannot teach them love, respect, and the true value of living life without things.”
― Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: His Wife, His Children, His Final Gift

“Remember, Little Ones, everything is not important all the time. Only living is important all the time. Not things. Not money. Not more things and more endless money. Spend well the quality of your time. And yes, be greedy with your hours. If only to then give those hours away as the most precious gifts you have to offer to yourself, your family, and your friends. And yes, to my Little Ones.” –From The Legacy Letters–“The Everything and Nothing of Money.”
― Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: His Wife, His Children, His Final Gift

“It’s a fool who thinks that having a kid is a right, which is the biggest crock of fish heads I’ve ever heard. You have a responsibility, not only to a person but also to a spirit because that’s what a child is. A pissing, crying, yawning, giggling, laughing package of spirit that is looking for you to take the lead. It’s a heck of a responsibility to look after a spirit.”
― Carew Papritz, The Legacy Letters: His Wife, His Children, His Final Gift

“She heard him speak, but did not recognize the problem in his voice – only later did she realize it was that thing he’d been concealing – known as guilt.”
― Carla H. Krueger, Sleeping with the Sun

“If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning. That way, their children don’t have to be slaves of praise. They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence.”
― Carol S. Dweck

“A child has a greater chance of being sexually abused than burned in a fire. Along with stop, drop, and roll we must teach them to yell, run, and tell.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch

“The only secrets that are good are the ones with an ending. Keep surprises instead of secrets in your home.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch

“I was just four when a hired teenage field hand attempted to molest me. Miraculously, I got away, and I told my dad. My father made three important choices that day: He listened to me, he believed me, and he took action. I was one of the fortunate ones–I had a childhood.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch

“When we talk with our children about sexual abuse, we are not only taking a proactive step toward protecting them, we are building our relationship with them–grounded in honesty and trust. It’s a win-win situation.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch

“Build a bridge over shame by teaching kids about sexual abuse. Give them a chance to run to us should they encounter it. Be their hero.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch

“Adults need to teach the children they love about sexual abuse so they know what to do if they encounter it. We need to prepare them so they know who to tell, should a violation occur, so they don’t have to live with a painful secret, long into adulthood.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch

“Protecting our kids from sexual abuse is not accomplished in a single conversation, but in ongoing conversations grounded in honesty and trust.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch

“Don’t put your child at risk. Limit unsupervised one-on-one time between your child & another adult or another child.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch

“Sometimes I hesitate to use the term sexual abuse. It conjures up worst-case scenarios in our minds, and we think, “That will never happen to my kids.” And we never begin the conversation regarding sexual abuse with our children. But one violation left in secret can cause significant pain.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch

“And Ana remembered her father’s words, “Say no! Run! Tell me!”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch, Rise and Shine: A Tool for the Prevention of Childhood Sexual Abuse

“Imagine, pretend, and play so you can become anyone you want to be. You don’t need to be afraid.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch, Rise and Shine: A Tool for the Prevention of Childhood Sexual Abuse

“Games where someone wants to touch your body where your swimsuit covers or they ask you to touch their body where their swimsuit covers. Those body parts are private. No one is allowed to touch you there, or ask you to touch them there.”
― Carolyn Byers Ruch, Rise and Shine: A Tool for the Prevention of Childhood Sexual Abuse

“Doctor Copeland belt old evil anger in him. The words rose inchoately to his throat and he could not speak them. They would listen to the old man. Yet to word the reason they will not attend.”
― Carson McCullers, The Heart is a Lonely Hunter

“A person can’t pick up they children and just squeeze them to which-a-way they wants them to be.”
― Carson McCullers, The Heart is a Lonely Hunter

“You shouldn’t do that. Not to your child. You should-carry your own burdens.”
― Cassandra Clare, City of Heavenly Fire

“And have your mother put my head on a stake? Do you have any notion what that would do to my handsome good looks?”
― Catherine Gilbert Murdock, Princess Ben

“I went away and cried to the Master of the Universe, “What have you done to me? A mind like this I need for a son? A heart I need for a son, a soul I need for a son, compassion I want from my son, righteousness, mercy, strength to suffer and carry pain, that I want from my son, not a mind without a soul!”
― Chaim Potok, The Chosen

“Howard adores Sam’s looks. He loves the strong cut of jaw made satin with thickening peach fuzz, loses himself in the green eyes. Howard stares at them like a lover, but always obliquely. (Sometimes we watch our son from a distance. “I wonder what he’s thinking,” Howard will say.)”
― Chandler Burr, You or Someone Like You

“With emotions ranging from fear, grief and anger to happiness and relief, the process of bringing home a child who needs in-home care can be complicated”
― Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent’s Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing

“An exhausted parent can’t provide the best care, although occasionally, we have all had to do so.”
― Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent’s Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing

“The more love and support your child receives, the richer his or her life becomes, and nurses can certainly add to the circle of love surrounding your child.”
― Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent’s Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing

“The partnership between nurses and families is based on mutual trust, and defining the boundaries and rules clearly will help everyone involved, especially your child.”
― Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent’s Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing

“Think of instinct as an unscientific, unquantifiable tool that can be used along with more concrete evaluations to make a well-rounded decision.”
― Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent’s Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing

“Parents of medically fragile children find themselves becoming experts in lots of different areas, including laws and regulations, research and treatments, and the various specialists that support the health of their children.”
― Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent’s Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing

“Managing in-home nursing is not always easy. It can be terribly frustrating sometimes, and it can take a while to feel like everything is under control, but success is possible.”
― Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent’s Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing

“Even though our journey as parents of a medically fragile child began with emotional turmoil, it has since become a purposeful odyssey that brings meaning and depth to our lives. This is the road we were born to travel.”
― Charisse Montgomery, Home Care CEO: A Parent’s Guide to Managing In-home Pediatric Nursing

“Mr. Cobb would acquaint him, that when he was his age, his father thought no more of giving him a parental kick, or a box on the ears, or a cuff on the head, or some little admonition of that sort, than he did of any other ordinary duty of life; and he would further remark, with looks of great significance, that but for this judicious bringing up, he might have never been the man he was at that present speaking; which was probable enough, as he was, beyond all question, the dullest dog of the party.”
― Charles Dickens, Barnaby Rudge

“what I want you to be – I don’t mean physically but morally: you are very well physically – is a firm fellow, a fine firm fellow, with a will of your own, with resolution. with determination. with strength of character that is not to be influenced except on good reason by anybody, or by anything. That’s what I want you to be. That’s what your father, & your mother might both have been”
― Charles Dickens, David Copperfield

“I should be an affected women, if I made any pretence of being surprised by my son’s inspiring such emotions; but I can’t be indifferent to anyone who is so sensible on his merits”
― Charles Dickens, David Copperfield

“If we never have headaches through rebuking our children, we shall have plenty of heartaches when they grow up.”
― Charles H. Spurgeon

“Not that I have any little kids running around I need to keep away from the guns. I had any kids I’d get rid of the guns. Nothing more dangerous to the life of a child than a house full of firearms. Nothing more dangerous except maybe a parent.”
― Charlie Huston, Already Dead

“Let children alone… the education of habit is successful in so far as it enables the mother to let her children alone, not teasing them with perpetual commands and directions – a running fire of Do and Don’t ; but letting them go their own way and grow, having first secured that they will go the right way and grow to fruitful purpose.”
― Charlotte M. Mason

“Do not let the endless succession of small things crowd great ideals out of sight and out of mind.”
― Charlotte M. Mason

“Reflection can be painful, but reflection can also be productive.”
― Charlotte Pearson, Mummy Fever: Mission Accomplished

“Life will never be the same again. Life will be better.”
― Charlotte Pearson, Mummy Fever: Mission Accomplished

“My mother is European and expresses her love through food and cuddling. She wasn’t the type of mother who would make it to school plays or soccer games, but if you wanted to stay at home sick, she was your girl. Whenever you’d go up to her room to cuddle with her, she’d pull out a Kit Kat or Snickers bar from her night table and look at you with dancing eyes.”
― Chelsea Handler, My Horizontal Life: A Collection of One-Night Stands

“Mother is a verb. It’s something you do. Not just who you are.”
― Cheryl Lacey Donovan, The Ministry of Motherhood

“It was what Aunty Ifeoma did to my cousins, I realized then, setting higher and higher jumps for them in the way she talked to them, in what she expected of them. She did it all the time believing they would scale the rod. And they did. It was different for Jaja and me. We did not scale the rod because we believed we could, we scaled it because we were terrified that we couldn’t.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Purple Hibiscus

“Putting down the power right from the whistle would be ugly and brutal, but it would get the job done. He wanted to tell her that, but this was the thing with coaching: you had to step back at exactly the moment you ached to step forward.”
― Chris Cleave

“Looking after a very sick child was the Olympics of parenting.”
― Chris Cleave, Gold

“Families that feel together, heal together.”
― Christina G. Hibbert Psy.D.

“Thus far we have been able to protect [our children] from the deep and enduring traumas that scar the minds and selves of so many of the patients I see. How — how?—can I make it always so?”
― Christine Montross, Falling Into the Fire: A Psychiatrist’s Encounters with the Mind in Crisis

“Thus far we have been able to protect [our children] from the deep and enduring traumas that scar the minds and selves of so many of the patients I see. How — how?—can I make it always so?”
― Christine Montross, Falling Into the Fire: A Psychiatrist’s Encounters with the Mind in Crisis

“Time grants a unique perspective which allows us to see events through a filter of accumulated wisdom.”
― Christopher Earle

“There are a hundred ways in which a boy can injure—if not indeed kill—himself. The more adventurous he is and the greater his initiative, the more ways he will find. If you protect him from each of the first hundred, he is sure to find the hundred and first. Though most men can look back on their boyhood and tremble at the narrowness of some of their escapes, most boys do in fact survive more or less intact, and the wise father is the trusting father.”
― Christopher Milne, The Enchanted Places

“Parenthood is the opiate of the masses.”
― Chuck Palahniuk

“No, Miss Wright didn’t want to meet her kid. To her, that relationship was just as important, just as ideal and impossible as it would be to the child. She’d expect that young man to be perfect, smart, and talented, everything to compensate for all the mistakes that she’d made. The whole wasted, unhappy mess of her life.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Snuff

“The most important thing anyone can do is raise their kids well.”
― Claire Cross, Double Trouble

“Once your baby arrives, the world is no more the same than you are. Because from our very bodies we add to the collective human destiny. Our deepest urge is always toward life, to wholeness and well-being.”
― Claire Fontaine

“At what age did I start to think that where I was going was more important than where I already was? When was it that I began to believe that the most important thing about what I was doing was getting it over with? Knowing how to live is not something we have to teach children. Knowing how to live is something we have to be careful not to take away from them.”
― Colin Beavan, No Impact Man

“Here’s a tip for new parents: Start lowering those expectations early, it’s going to pay off later.”
― Colson Whitehead, The Noble Hustle: Poker, Beef Jerky, and Death

“To those of you who are yet to plunge into the zygote pool and want to know what both plumbless horror and pure love feels like, have yourself a baby…”
― Conrad Williams

“He could not construct for the child’s pleasure the world he’d lost without constructing the loss as well and he thought perhaps the child had known this better than he.”
― Cormac McCarthy, The Road

“It could not have been easy for Mother, an only child, to grow up without a father and with a mother who was remote. Photos of her as a child show her extremely dressed up –Cornie’s beautiful little doll. But a daughter, unlike a doll, grows up, and might fall in love with and marry someone her mother does not like; she becomes an individual with her own ideas.”
― Cornelia Maude Spelman

“He was a bad, bad bastard. He abused the privilege of being a cunt, as my old Da would say.’ I smiled, picturing the cozy fireside scene of young son on father’s knee being inducted into the world of abusive epithets.”
― Craig Russell, The Long Glasgow Kiss

“Never take advice about never taking advice. That is an old vice of men – to dish it out without being able to take it – the blind leading the blind into more blindness.”
― Criss Jami

“The wrath of God is never an evil wrath. God gets angry because he loves people like a mother would love her child if someone were to harm it. There is something wrong if the mother never gets angry; it is safe to say that that is the unloving mother.”
― Criss Jami

“I would rather my descendants have greater abilities and a greater knowledge of the love of Christ than I do, much like standing on one’s shoulders in order to get a clearer view of the valley.”
― Criss Jami, Salomé: In Every Inch In Every Mile

“I wanted her to have the full, long life that every parent promises his or her child by the simple act of bringing that child into the world.”
― Cristina Henriquez, The Book of Unknown Americans

“When your spouse is talking; turn off the television. When your child is talking turn off the world.”
― Crystal DeLarm Clymer

“That is the flip side, you see, to laissez-faire parenting. It succeeds or not, throughout the animal kingdom as it does with humans, in direct relationship to the strength of the offspring. Some of us don’t need very much. Some of us need a lot.”
― Cynthia Rogers Parks, Houses: a novel

“Mina wanted some of the kind of love Momma gave to her children, where love was the first and deepest thing, and the questions came later and the answers wouldn’t matter much measured up against the love.”
― Cynthia Voigt, Come a Stranger

“Mina wanted some of the kind of love Momma gave to her children, where love was the first and deepest thing, and the questions came later and the answers wouldn’t matter much measured up against the love.”
― Cynthia Voigt, Come a Stranger

“I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue when impatient words come. I will keep saying as if it were a ritual: “He is nothing but a boy — a little boy!”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“I’m also discovering that while they seem to believe that I do not require sleep, my husband (who also doubles as their father) has the ability to morph into an invisible and supremely evasive nocturnal being, with powers so stealthy as to evade capture by the aliens [children] that had invaded our once peaceful and quiet habitat [bedroom at night].”
― Dallas Louis, The Mommy Diaries; How I’m Surviving Parenting without Killing Anyone

“Last words of his mother to his father: “Keep eternity before the children.”
― Dallas Willard

“The most important thing to remember, the guiding principle, is to try to keep your son’s self-esteem intact while he is in school. That is the real risk to his success and to his mental health. Once he’s out of school, the world will be different. He’ll find a niche where the fact that he can’t spell well or didn’t read until he was eight, won’t matter. But if he starts to hate himself because he isn’t good at schoolwork, he’ll fall into a hole that he’ll be digging himself out of for the rest of his life.”
― Dan Kindlon, Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys

“Children are gifts. They are not ours for the breaking. They are ours for the making.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Dads. It’s time to show our sons how to properly treat a woman. It’s time to show our daughters how a girl should expect be treated. It’s time to show forgiveness and compassion. It’s time to show our children empathy. It’s time to break social norms and teach a healthier way of life! It’s time to teach good gender roles and to ditch the unnecessary ones. Does it really matter if your son likes the color pink? Is it going to hurt anybody? Do you not see the damage it inflicts to tell a boy that there is something wrong with him because he likes a certain color? Do we not see the damage we do in labeling our girls “tom boys” or our boys “feminine” just because they have their own likes and opinions on things? Things that really don’t matter?”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Saturday mornings, I’ve learned, are a great opportunity for kids to sneak into your bed, fall back asleep, and kick you in the face.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Dads. Do you not realize that a child is what you tell them they are? That people almost always become what they are labeled? Was whatever your child just did really the “dumbest thing you’ve ever seen somebody do”? Was it really the “most ridiculous thing they ever could have done”? Do you really believe that your child is an idiot? Because she now does. Think about that. Because you said it, she now believes it. Bravo.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Dads. It’s time to tell our kids that we love them. Constantly. It’s time to show our kids that we love them. Constantly. It’s time to take joy in their twenty-thousand daily questions and their inability to do things as quickly as we’d like. It’s time to take joy in their quirks and their ticks. It’s time to take joy in their facial expressions and their mispronounced words. It’s time to take joy in everything that our kids are.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Do you not realize that your kids are going to make mistakes, and a lot of them? Do you not realize the damage you do when you push your son’s nose into his mishaps or make your daughter feel worthless because she bumped or spilled something? Do you have any idea how easy it is to make your child feel abject? It’s as simple as letting out the words, “why would you do that!?” or “how many times have I told you…”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Dads. Do your faces light up when you first see your child in the morning or when you come home from work? Do you not understand that a child’s entire sense of value can revolve around what they see in your face when you first see them?”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Loving my son, building my son, touching my son, playing with my son, being with my son… these aren’t tasks that only super dads can perform. These are tasks that every dad should perform. Always. Without fail.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Sometimes to be a good parent… You have to laugh when you want to be angry. You have to be angry when you want to laugh. And that is why good parenting is tough.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Parenting is the greatest pay it forward system on earth. We don’t owe our parents anything. We owe our children everything. The same was true for our parents. The same will be true for our children.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Do we not see the influence we have when we say we believe in one thing, but our children see us living something else? Do we not realize how little we encourage our children to actually decide what they believe, declare what they believe, and then live by it? Whether it’s religion, politics, sports, or societal norms. It is not our place to tell our kids what to think. It is our place to teach our kids to think correctly. If we do this, we need have no fear of what they will decide for themselves and how strongly they’ll stand behind it. A man will follow his own convictions to his death, but he’ll only follow another man’s convictions until he steps in manure.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Dads. Do you honestly expect anybody to believe that you can’t find 20 minutes to step away from your computer or turn off the television to play with your child? It has to happen every single day. Do you not understand that children will hinge their entire facet of trust on whether or not their dad plays with them and how involved he is when he plays with them? Do you know the damage you do by not playing with your children every day?”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“I am far from a perfect dad. And I always will be. But I’m a damn good dad, and my son will always feel bigger than anything life can throw at him. Why? Because I get it. I get the power a dad has in a child’s life, and in a child’s level of self-belief. I get that everything I ever do and ever say to my son will be absorbed, for good or for bad.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Dads. Do you not realize that your child needs to feel your skin on his? Do you not realize the incredible and powerful bond that skin on skin contact with your daughter will give you? Do you not understand the permanent mental connections that are made when you stroke your son’s bare back or rub your daughter’s bare tummy while you tell bedtime stories? And if any idiot says anything about that being inappropriate, you’re gonna get kicked in the face, first by me, and then by every other good dad out there. Touching your child is your duty as a father.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

“Be fair. Play hard.”
― Dan Venezia

“In a brain scan, relational pain—that caused by isolation during punishment—can look the same as physical abuse. Is alone in the corner the best place for your child?”
― Daniel J. Siegel

“People who are not fully enlightened have no business becoming parents. This contradicts the conventionally accepted notion that people have an inherent “right” to have children. They do not. People who have a compulsion to traumatize a child, even in the mildest forms, are breaking the child’s human rights, though of course the parental compulsion to find false pleasure through procreation obliterates their awareness of these rights. But interestingly, many parents would agree that convicted pedophiles and child murderers have no right to procreate, because of the dynamics in which they are so likely to engage.”
― Daniel Mackler, Toward truth: A psychological guide to enlightenment

“Hey, maybe instead of going to college, you should drop out and I could quit my job and we can form an all-girl band with Lane, you know, like Bananarama. We could call it Tangerinarama or Banana-fana-fo-fana-rama…or something.”
― Daniel Palladino

“By spending years and years living entirely for yourself, thinking only about yourself, and having responsibility to no one but yourself, you end up inadvertently extending the introverted existence of a teenager deep into middle age.”
― Danielle Crittenden, What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman

“. . . parent could embarrass their kids during the teenage years, but only a true virtuoso could embarrass them into their twenties and beyond.”
― Danielle Monsch, Stone Guardian

“The difference between punishment and discipline is a powerful child.”
― Danny Silk

“It’s easier to say (I’m going to be myself and if anyone wants to be with me, then she/he has to accept me as I am…flaws and all) than it is for us to work at reducing our flaws and making ourselves more acceptable.”
― Darrell Roberts, Man Laws Revealed-One Man’s Insight on Love, Self-Improvement, Dating, Marriage, & Parenting

“If you’re like most members of the Baby Boom generation, you decided somewhere along the line, probably after about four margaritas, to have children. This was inevitable. Mother Nature, in her infinite wisdom, has instilled within each of us a powerful biological instinct to reproduce; this is her way of assuring that the human race, come what may, will never have any disposable income.”
― Dave Barry

“I worry about exposing him to bands like Journey, the appreciation of which will surely bring him nothing but the opprobrium of his peers. Though he has often been resistant – children so seldom know what is good for them – I have taught him to appreciate all the groundbreaking musicmakers of our time – Big Country, Haircut 100, Loverboy – and he is lucky for it. His brain is my laboratory, my depository. Into it I can stuff the books I choose, the television shows, the movies, my opinion about elected officials, historical events, neighbors, passersby. He is my twenty-four-hour classroom, my captive audience, forced to ingest everything I deem worthwhile. He is a lucky, lucky boy! And no one can stop me.”
― Dave Eggers, A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius

“The raising of a child is the building of a cathedral. You can’t cut corners.”
― Dave Eggers, A Hologram for the King

“Did children want sports cars for parents? No. They wanted Hondas. They wanted to know that the car would start in all seasons.”
― Dave Eggers, A Hologram for the King

“Dan P. McAdams argues that children develop a narrative tone which influences their stories for the rest of their lives. Children gradually adopt an enduring assumption that everything will turn out well, or badly, depending on their childhood.”
― David Brooks

“If there is one thing developmental psychologists have learned over the years, it is that parents don’t have to be brilliant psychologists to succeed. They don’t have to be supremely gifted teachers. Most of the stuff parents do with flashcards and special drills and tutorials to hone their kids into perfect achievement machines don’t have any effect at all. Instead, parents just have to be good enough. They have to provide their kids with stable and predictable rhythms. They need to be able to fall in tune with their kids’ needs, combining warmth and discipline. They need to establish the secure emotional bonds that kids can fall back upon in the face of stress. They need to be there to provide living examples of how to cope with the problems of the world so that their children can develop unconscious models in their heads.”
― David Brooks, The Social Animal: The Hidden Sources of Love, Character, and Achievement

“Max is a marvel to us. He will never have to come out because he will never have been kept in. Even though he has a mom and a dad, they made sure from the beginning to tell him that it didn’t have to be a mom and a dad. It could be a mom and a mom, a dad and a dad, just a mom, or just a dad. When Max’s early affections became clear, he didn’t think twice about them. He doesn’t see it as defining him. It is just a part of his definition.”
― David Levithan, Two Boys Kissing

“The world’s major religions: Same boss, different departments.”
― David R. Wommack

“Little things spell LOVE. Beware the spouse or marriage that places a premium on expensive gifts and ‘toys.”
― David R. Wommack

“A marvelous feeling — that you love someone deeply — and in turn, that person loves you back so sincerely.”
― David R. Wommack

“Define your mantras, your adages, and bear down repetitively — over and over and over!”
― David R. Wommack

“Mantras are the past & the future.”
― David R. Wommack

“FAMILY. The ties that bind. The cement that builds character, strength of purpose, mutual respect, values.”
― David R. Wommack

“The best parenting strives to educate their children in HOW TO LIVE LIFE — competitive, compassionate, void of greed, & striving to make a better world.”
― David R. Wommack

“The best parenting strives to educate children in how to live — enthusiastically, compassionately, without greed, striving for a better world.”
― David R. Wommack, Wommack’s The Art of Parenting – Vol.1: Lessons from Parents and Mentors of Extraordinary Americans

“Wounded parents often unintentionally inflict pain and suffering on their children and these childhood wounds causes a laundry list of maladaptive behaviors commonly called codependency. These habits restrict people to love-limiting relationships causing much unhappiness and distress.”
― David W. Earle

“As a parent who raised his children in dysfunction, I know the parental wounds my children received were not intentional; often they were my best expression of love, sometimes coming out sideways, not as I intended.”
― David W. Earle

“Someday you’ll understand. You’ll have your own children, and they’ll mean more to you than the world. A wife has to defend her children, even against her own husband. Not that I expect you to be easily cowed. But sometimes, despite all you say and do, your husband won’t be dissuaded from folly. When that happens, as a mother you have to close ranks. Your first responsibility is to your children. To salvage what you can. Even if they hate you for it.”
― David Walton, Quintessence

“Sometimes our work as caregivers is not for the faint of heart. But, you will never know what you are made of until you step into the fire. Step bravely!”
― Deborah A. Beasley, Successful Foster Care Adoption

“That so many thousands of children around the world are available for adoption is a sign of our impoverished humanity. That so many persons around the world open their hearts and homes each year to embrace a few of these children is a lasting testimony to humanity’s enduring nobility.”
― Deborah A. Beasley, Successful Foster Care Adoption

“Through the blur, I wondered if I was alone or if other parents felt the same way I did – that everything involving our children was painful in some way. The emotions, whether they were joy, sorrow, love or pride, were so deep and sharp that in the end they left you raw, exposed and yes, in pain. The human heart was not designed to beat outside the human body and yet, each child represented just that – a parent’s heart bared, beating forever outside its chest.”
― Debra Ginsberg

“That is the most godlike feeling a human can experience; being ignored by rebellious child.”
― Dennis Garvin, Case Files of an Angel

“My father liked me, when I wasna being an idiot. And he loved me, too — enough to beat the daylights out of me when I was being an idiot. Jamie Fraser”
― Diana Gabaldon, Outlander

“I complained to a friend that although I had completed six years in therapy, my mother still wouldn’t let me go. He replied, “She’s not supposed to let you go. Your father is supposed to come and get you.”
― Don Elium, Raising a Son: Parents and the Making of a Healthy Man

“Quality time is not the same as the everydayness of being together. Let’s neither glorify nor undervalue.”
― Don Elium, Raising a Son: Parents and the Making of a Healthy Man

“He thought about the story his daughter was living and the role she was playing inside that story. He realized he hadn’t provided a better role for his daughter. He hadn’t mapped out a story for his family. And so his daughter had chosen another story, a story in which she was wanted, even if she was only being used. In the absence of a family story, she’d chosen a story in which there was risk and adventure, rebellion and independence.”
― Donald Miller, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life

“I never thought to ascribe my mother’s emotional and physical exhaustion to the lack of a husband and father; rather, I ascribed it to my existence. In other words, I grew up learning the exact opposite of what Eisenhower was taught. I learned that if I didn’t exist, the family would be better off. I grew up believing that if I had never been born, things would be easier for the people I loved. (page 35)”
― Donald Miller, Father Fiction: Chapters for a Fatherless Generation

“Dwight Eisenhower said that from the beginning, his mother and father operated on an assumption that set the course of his life – that the world could be fixed of its problems if every child understood the necessity of their existence. Eisenhower’s parents assumed, and taught their children, that if their children weren’t alive, their family couldn’t function. (page 34)”
― Donald Miller, Father Fiction: Chapters for a Fatherless Generation

“(Taft’s mother’s) losing her firstborn had convinced her that children are treasures lent not given and that they may be recalled at any time. Parents, she firmly believed, could never love their children too much.”
― Doris Kearns Goodwin, The Bully Pulpit: Theodore Roosevelt, William Howard Taft, and the Golden Age of Journalism

“The best way to keep children at home is to make the home atmosphere pleasant, and let the air out of the tires.”
― Dorothy Parker

“It matters to ourselves, of course, but it matters terribly to other people. Moral failure or spiritual failure or whatever you call it, makes such a vicious circle… It seems as if when we love people and they fall short, we retaliate by falling shorter ourselves. Children are like that. Adults have a fearful responsibility. When they fail to live up to what children expect of them, the children give up themselves. So each generation keeps failing the next.”
― Dorothy Whipple, They Were Sisters

“Then the dreaded words, Your child has autism. These words echo in their heads like a freight train blasting through their hopes and dreams.”
― Dr. Linda Barboa

“You have a healthy baby boy! The words ring like church bells in the ears of new parents.”
― Dr. Linda Barboa

“It’s a fact that every minute you hold a child, it triples in mass.”
― Drew Magary, Someone Could Get Hurt: A Memoir of Twenty-First-Century Parenthood

“For every hour a mother gets to herself, a father will demand five times that amount for drinking with friends and acting like an immature dipshit.”
― Drew Magary, Someone Could Get Hurt: A Memoir of Twenty-First-Century Parenthood

“Jokes about butts WORKED.”
― Drew Magary, Someone Could Get Hurt: A Memoir of Twenty-First-Century Parenthood

“Take any two-year-old through a car wash and their skulls are blown. FLAPS! FOAM! ROLLING THINGS! It’s the closest they’ll ever get to being inside a working spaceship.”
― Drew Magary, Someone Could Get Hurt: A Memoir of Twenty-First-Century Parenthood

“When a teacher is paying extra attention to your child, you believe that it’s because you raised such an exceptional kid, one that stands out head and shoulders above the rest of her booger-eating friends.”
― Drew Magary, Someone Could Get Hurt: A Memoir of Twenty-First-Century Parenthood

“We’re constantly judging and grading other parents, just to make sure that they aren’t any better than us. I’m as guilty as anyone. I see some lady hand her kid a Nintendo DS at the supermarket and I instantly downgrade that lady to Shitty Parent status. I feel pressure to live up to a parental ideal that no one probably has ever achieved. I feel pressure to raise a group of human beings that will help America kick the shit out of Finland and South Korea in the world math rankings. I feel pressure to shield my kids from the trillion pages of hentai donkey porn out there on the Internet. I feel pressure to make the insane amounts of money needed for a supposedly ‘middle-class’ upbringing for the kids, an upbringing that includes a house and college tuition and health care and so many other expenses that you have to be a multimillionaire to afford it. PRESSURE PRESSURE PRESSURE.”
― Drew Magary, Someone Could Get Hurt: A Memoir of Twenty-First-Century Parenthood

“You become a parent, and your whole life becomes about worrying. You just worry constantly whether they’ll be okay. And the idea that I’ll be worried forever about them and what they do…I almost have a panic attack when I think about it. I’m worried, and I’m worried about having to worry so goddamn much.”
― Drew Magary, The Postmortal

“Why children?’ he asked. ‘Why always children? For love to end where it begins is far more beautiful, and Nature knows it.”
― E.M. Forster, Maurice

“Raising kids is part joy and part guerilla warfare.”
― Ed Asner

“Raising kids is part joy and part guerrilla warfare.”
― Ed Asner

“Parenting goes beyond providing foods, shelter, clothing, and other basic necessities. Nurturing a child to travel in the direction of positive enlightenment, is arguably the greatest thing that you could do for a child.”
― Edmond Mbiaka

“By loving them for more than their abilities we show our children that they are much more than the sum of their accomplishments.”
― Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child’s True Potential

“The path of development is a journey of discovery that is clear only in retrospect, and it’s rarely a straight line.”
― Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child’s True Potential

“The miracle of children is that we just don’t know how they will change or who they will become.”
― Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child’s True Potential

“…The life of the parents is the only thing that makes good children. Parents should be very patient and ‘saint like’ to their children. They should truly love their children. And the children will share this love! For the bad attitude of the children, says father Porphyrios, the ones who are usually responsible for it are their parents themselves. The parents don’t help their children by lecturing them and repeating to them ‘advices’, or by making them obeying strict rules in order to impose discipline. If the parents do not become ‘saints’ and truly love their children and if they don’t struggle for it, then they make a huge mistake. With their wrong and/or negative attitude the parents convey to their children their negative feelings. Then their children become reactive and insecure not only to their home, but to the society as well…”
― Elder Porphyrios

“Father, I am from a different egg than your other children. Think of me as a duckling raised by hens. I am not a domestic bird destined to spend his life in a chicken coop. The water that scares you rejuvenates me. For unlike you I can swim, and swim I shall. The ocean is my homeland. If you are with me, come to the ocean. If not, stop interfering with me and go back to the chicken coop.”
― Elif Shafak, The Forty Rules of Love

“I fear that this is what long term relationships are all about, at base: full-time role-playing, memorized and inhabited.”
― Elisa Albert

“Mothering while grieving should involve being understanding and keeping a gentle attitude toward yourself as you work to balance your own needs and your child’s. You become stronger by remaining aware of your own well-being, which in turn makes you a stronger person for your child or children.”
― Elizabeth Berrien, Creative Grieving: A Hip Chick’s Path from Loss to Hope

“Now, the error which many parents commit in the treatment of the individual at this time(adolescence) is, insisting on the same unreasoning obedience as when all he had to do in the way of duty was, to obey the simple laws of “Come when you’re called,” and “Do as you’re bid!” But a wise parent humors the desire for independent action, so as to become the friend and adviser when his absolute rule shall cease.”
― Elizabeth Gaskell, North and South

“Parenting is a partnership. Loving each other has a big impact on your children.”
― Elizabeth George

“It’s never too early to begin pointing your little ones’ souls heavenward.”
― Elizabeth George, A Mom After God’s Own Heart Devotional

“Elizabeth Mattis-Namgyel, when asked how to strike a better balance between family, work and self-realization says: “You need the intention, good scheduling, and you have to be creative. If you don’t find time to practice, one of the three is missing.”
― Elizabeth Mattis-Namgyel

“So, your best defense is knowledge. It really is power, as they say…The more you know, the more easily you will develop your own philosophies about child rearing. When you have your facts straight, and when you have a parenting plan, you will be able to respond with confidence to those who are well-meaning but offering contrary or incorrect advice.”
― Elizabeth Pantley

“As someone very sagely said during the parricide trials of the Menendez Brothers: anytime your kids kill you, you are at least partly to blame.”
― Elizabeth Wurtzel, Prozac Nation

“A mother’s love is like an everlasting bed of roses, that continues to blossom. A mother’s love bears strength, comfort, healing and warmth. Her beauty is compared to a sunny day that shines upon each rose petal and inspires hope.”
― Ellen J. Barrier

“I believe that parents who love their children do everything for them with love, even discipline.”
― Ellen J. Barrier, How to Trust God When All Other Resources Have Failed

“You can’t have that wish, my Little Bear,’ said Mother Bear.”
― Else Holmelund Minarik, Little Bear

“Everything that isn’t gospel is law. Let us say it again: Everything that isn’t gospel is law. Every way we try to make our kids good that isn’t rooted in the good news of the life, death, ressurection, and assension of Jesus Christ is damnable, crushing, despair-breeding, Pharisee-producing law. We won’t get the results we want from the law. We’ll get either shallow self-righteousness or blazing rebellion or both (frequently from the same kid on the same day!). We’ll get moralistic kids who are cold and hypocritical and who look down on others (and could easily become Mormons), or you’ll get teens who are rebellious and self-indulgent and who can’t wait to get out of the house. We have to remember that in the life of our unregenerate children, the law is given for one reason only: to crush their self-confidence and drive them to Christ.”
― Elyse M. Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus

“The one encouragement we can always give our children (and one another) is that God is more powerful than our sin, and He’s strong enough to make us want to do the right thing.”
― Elyse M. Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus

“Believe that God is strong enough to save your children, no matter how you fail.”
― Elyse M. Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus

“Because we don’t know the state of our children’s souls, and because they might simply want to please us by praying to be saved, we must continue to give them the Law and encourage them to ask God for faith to believe that He is as good as He says He is.”
― Elyse M. Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus

“The Lord teaches us of His grace and the Gospel through difficult children. We learn what it’s like to love like He loved. It is there, in our personal upper room, where we learn to wash the feet of those that are betraying us. It is there, kneeling before our rebellious children, that the real power of God is demonstrated.”
― Elyse M. Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus

“We are partners with our children because we are just like them, dearly loved sinners.”
― Elyse M. Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus

“Children are made readers on the laps of their parents.”
― Emilie Buchwald

“Ronan taught me that children do not exist to honor their parents; their parents exist to honor them. […] Ronan was mine but he never belonged to me. This is not an issue of ownership. A child is not a couch.”
― Emily Rapp, The Still Point of the Turning World

“Every parent is an artist, but not every artist is apparent.”
― Eric Micha’el Leventhal

“Our children are only as brilliant as we allow them to be.”
― Eric Micha’el Leventhal

“She became a frame for the picture that was her son and daughter.”
― Erica Bauermeister, The School of Essential Ingredients

“It’s a long haul bringing up our children to be good; you have to keep doing that — bring them up — and that means bringing things up with them: Asking, telling, sounding them out, sounding off yourself — finding, through experience, your own words, your own way of putting them together. You have to learn where you stand, and make sure your kids learn [where you stand], understand why, and soon, you hope, they’ll be standing there beside you, with you.”
― Erik Erikson

“человек выживает только тогда, когда традиционное детское воспитание снабжает его совестью, которая будет руководить им, не подавляя, и которая настолько тверда и одновременно гибка, чтобы приспосабливаться к превратностям исторической эпохи.”
― Erik Erikson

“A good mother loves fiercely but ultimately brings up her children to thrive without her. They must be the most important thing in her life, but if she is the most important thing in theirs, she has failed.”
― Erin Kelly, The Burning Air

“So often parents of abused children feel helpless. When a child falls, and scrapes her knees parents can erase the hurt by kissing it and putting a Band-Aid on it, but not so with the pain of sexual abuse.”
― Erin Merryn, Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness

“I felt like I needed to comfort both the little girl inside me and my mother, assuring them that neither of them could have prevented the rape. I didn’t want my mother to blame herself and I didn’t want to blame the little girl inside of me for not speaking up at the age of six.”
― Erin Merryn, Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness

“It goes without saying that you should never have more children than you have car windows”
― Erma Bombeck

“When a child is locked in the bathroom with water running and he says he’s doing nothing but the dog is barking, call 911. ”
― Erma Bombeck

“All of us have moments in our lives that test our courage. Taking children into a house with a white carpet is one of them. ”
― Erma Bombeck

“Now this is a most satisfactory and important thing to think about, for brutality will not,—cannot,—accomplish what a kindly disposition will; and, if folks could only know how quickly a “balky” child will, through loving and cuddling, grow into a charming, happy youth, much childish gloom and sorrow would vanish; for a man or woman who is ugly to a child is too low to rank as highly as a wild animal; for no animal will stand, for an instant, anything approaching an attack, or any form of harm to its young. But what a lot of tots find slaps, yanks and hard words for conditions which do not call for such harsh tactics! No child is naturally ugly or “cranky.” And big, gulping sobs, or sad, unhappy young minds, in a tiny body should not occur in any community of civilization. Adulthood holds many an opportunity for such conditions. Childhood should not.”
― Ernest Vincent Wright, Gadsby

“If a child hasn’t been given spiritual values within the family setting, they have no familiarity with the values that are necessary for the just and peaceful functioning in society.”
― Eunice Baumann-Nelson Ph.D PENOBSCOT

“This is my life’s work. It is a user’s manual to the human being, a parenting book … and how to be the best you can be.”
― Faye Snyder

“Many men have children, but not many children have ‘Fathers’. Age releases to you reproductive skills. Fatherhood requires LEADERSHIP skills”
― Fela Durotoye

“Real Fathers are men of integrity & honor. Their word is their bond.”
― Fela Durotoye

“Real Fathers make a positive impact on their generation, and so give the next generation the advantage of a better nation to live in”
― Fela Durotoye

“Real Fathers are Solution Providers and not a part of the problem to be solved.”
― Fela Durotoye

“Parenting should always come from a place of unconditional loving.”
― Fiona Dimas-Herd, Communicating With Teens the parents’ handbook

“Many parents have experienced the fact that kids don’t seem to honor their parents the way that previous generations of children did. The question we need to ask is, how did we get to this position? How did this lack of respect infiltrate even the closest family relationships? Most importantly, how can we make sure that it doesn’t ruin our bond with our own teens?”
― Fiona Dimas-Herd, Communicating With Teens the parents’ handbook

“The most important thing that parents can teach their children is how to get along without them.”
― Frank Clark

“We cannot always build the future for our youth, but we can build our youth for the future.”
― Franklin D. Roosevelt, Great Speeches

“You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance.”
― Franklin P. Adams

“We must return to optimism in our parenting. To focus on the joys, not the hassles; the love, not the disappointments; the common sense, not the complexities.”
― Fred G. Gosman

“[I]f we can bring our children understanding, comfort, and hopefulness when they need this kind of support, then they are more likely to grow into adults who can find these resources within themselves later on. (from the introduction)”
― Fred Rogers, The Mister Rogers’ Parenting Book: Helping To Understand Your Young Child

“That’s the news from Lake Woebegone, where all the women are strong, all the men are good-looking, and all the children are above average.”
― Garrison Keillor

“A child may be “spoiled” by a lack of training or by inappropriate love that gives or trains incorrectly.”
― Garry Chapman

“When dreaded outcomes are actually imminent we don’t worry about them we take action. Seeing lava from the local volcano make its way down the street toward our house does not cause worry it causes running. Also we don’t usually choose imminent events as subjects for our worrying and thus emerges an ironic truth: Often the very fact that you are worrying about something means that it isn’t likely to happen.”
― Gavin de Becker, Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe

“While you may be able to keep your son Jimmy from owning [a gun], if you try to talk him out of wanting one, you are up against a pretty strong argument: You mean I shouldn’t want a device that grants me power and identity, makes me feel dangerous and safe at the same time, instantly makes me the dominant male, and connects me to my evolutionary essence? Come on, Mom, get real!”
― Gavin de Becker, Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe

“If your kid needs a role model and you ain’t it, you’re both fucked.”
― George Carlin, Brain Droppings

“There is entirely too much tut-tutting in this realm, if you ask me. All these kings would do a deal better if they put down their swords and listened to their mothers.”
― George R.R. Martin, A Storm of Swords

“Be bigger presence at work. Race up ladder (joyfully, w/smile on face), get raise. Get in best shape of life, start dressing nicer. Learn guitar? Make point of noticing beauty of world? Why not educate self re. birds, flowers, trees, constellations, become true citizen of natural world, walk around neighborhood w/kids, patiently teaching kids names of birds, flowers, etc. etc.? Why not take kids to Europe? Kids have never been. Have never, in Alps, had hot chocolate in mountain café, served by kindly white- haired innkeeper, who finds them so sophisticated/friendly relative to usual snotty/rich American kids (who always ignore his pretty but crippled daughter w/braids) that he shows them secret hiking path to incredible glade, kids frolic in glade, sit with crippled pretty girl on grass, later say it was most beautiful day of their lives, keep in touch with crippled girl via email, we arrange surgery here for her, surgeon so touched he agrees to do surgery for free, she is on front page of our paper, we are on front page of their paper in Alps? Ha ha.”
― George Saunders

“I guess you just have to trust your kids, trust that their innate interest in life will win out in the end, don’t you think?”
― George Saunders, Tenth of December

“One of pleasures of parenting, future reader: parent can positively influence kid, make moment kid will remember for rest of life, moment that alters his/her trajectory, opens up his/her heart + mind.”
― George Saunders, Tenth of December

“My parents never projected their dreams onto me. If they hoped I would be a great pitcher, or political figure, or artist (no chance), they never told me about it. Their view of parenting was to offer love and encourage me to chart my own path.”
― George W. Bush, Decision Points

“A housewife’s work has no results: it simply has to be done again. Bringing up children is not a real occupation, because children come up just the same, brought up or not.”
― Germaine Greer, The Female Eunuch

“It [childbearing] was never intended to be as time-consuming and self-conscious a process as it is. One of the deepest evils in our society is tyrannical nurturance.”
― Germaine Greer, The Female Eunuch

“The point of an organic family is to release the children from the disadvantages of being extensions of their parents so that they can belong primarily to themselves. They may accept the services that adults perform for them naturally without establishing dependencies.”
― Germaine Greer, The Female Eunuch

“We can only afford two children’ really means, ‘We only like clean, well-disciplined middle-class children who go to good schools and grow up to be professionals’, for children manage to use up all the capital that is made available for the purpose, whatever proportion it may be of the family’s whole income, just as housework expands to fill the time available.”
― Germaine Greer, The Female Eunuch

“It is agreed that ‘girls take more bringing up’ than boys: what that really means is that girls must be more relentlessly supervised and repressed if the desired result is to ensue.”
― Germaine Greer, The Female Eunuch

“What is certain is that he [the baby] has too much attention from the one person who is entirely at his disposal. The intimacy between mother and child is not sustaining and healthy. The child learns to exploit his mother’s accessibility, badgering her with questions and demands which are not of any real consequence to him, embarrassing her in public, blackmailing her into buying sweets and carrying him.”
― Germaine Greer, The Female Eunuch

“We can only afford two children’ is a squalid argument, but more acceptable in our society than ‘we don’t like children’.”
― Germaine Greer, The Female Eunuch

“The more you test him, the slower he will learn and the less he’ll want to do. The less you test him, the quicker he will learn and the more he’ll want to learn. Knowledge is the most precious gift you can give your child. Give it as generously as you give him food.”
― Glenn Doman, How to Teach Your Baby Math

“Surely, our greatest parental hope is that our children attain a state of righteousness. It is the only sure road to happiness. But to attain such a state requires that they be decent as well as compliant. I know many, many young people who are not “righteous” in the usual sense. But they are wonderfully decent people with many praiseworthy qualities. They are not “devout” in the sense that they attend church faithfully, dress or groom themselves traditionally, or publicly declare their devotions, but they are kind, honest, hard-working, concerned for others, and unselfish.”
― Glenn I. Latham

“Let’s be Atticus Finch in To Kill a Mockingbird. Atticus’s children, Scout and Jem, carefully watch their father’s behavior as the house next door to theirs burns to the ground. As the fire creeps closer and closer to the Finches’ home, Atticus appears so calm that Scout and Jem finally decide that “it ain’t time to worry yet.” We need to be Atticus. Hands in our pockets. Calm. Believing. So that our children will look at us and even with a fire raging in front of them, they’ll say, “Huh. Guess it’s not time to worry yet.”
― Glennon Doyle Melton, Carry On, Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed

“If our goal is to be tolerant of people who are different than we are, Chase, then we really are aiming quite low. Traffic jams are to be tolerated. People are to be celebrated.”
― Glennon Doyle Melton, Carry On, Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed

“Through the grace shown to us in the gospel, there is something distinctly Christ like about a mother’s love for her child.”
― Gloria Furman, Treasuring Christ When Your Hands Are Full: Gospel Meditations for Busy Moms

“God has called us to something vastly bigger than our happiness or that of our children.”
― Gloria Furman, Treasuring Christ When Your Hands Are Full: Gospel Meditations for Busy Moms

“It doesn’t take a man to have a child, it takes a man to raise a child.”
― GonzoBilly

“Most of you will marry and have children. They will become the source of your greatest pride and happiness. I hope so. Rear them in love. You don’t have to kick them around. You don’t have to get angry with them. You just have to love them. If they make mistakes, forgive them and help them to avoid a repetition. But let them see in you their truest and best friend, their constant support.”
― Gordon B. Hinkley

“Most of you will marry and have children. They will become the source of your greatest pride and happiness. I hope so. Rear them in love. You don’t have to kick them around. You don’t have to get angry with them. You just have to love them. If they make mistakes, forgive them and help them to avoid a repetition. But let them see in you their truest and best friend, their constant support.”
― Gordon B. Hinkley

“In thousands of little ways, we pull and push our children to grow up, hurrying them along instead of inviting them to rest. We could never court each other as adults by resisting dependence…Perhaps we feel free to invite the dependence of adults because we are not responsible for their growth and maturity. We don’t bear the burden of getting them to be independent. Here is the core of the problem: we are assuming too much responsibility for the maturation of our children. We have forgotten that we are not alone – we have nature as our ally. Independence is the fruit of maturation; our job in raising children is to look after their dependence needs. When we do our job of meeting genuine dependence needs, nature is free to do its job of promoting maturity. In the same way, we don’t have to make our children grow taller; we just need to give them food. By forgetting that growth, development and maturation are natural processes, we lose perspective. We become afraid our children will get stuck and never grow up. Perhaps we think that if we don’t push a little, they will never leave the nest. Human beings are not like birds in this respect. The more children are pushed, the tighter they cling – or, failing that, they nest with someone else.”
― Gordon Neufeld

“Unconditional parental love is the indispensable nutrient for the child’s healthy emotional growth. The first task is to create space in the child’s heart for the certainty that she is precisely the person the parents want and love. She does not have to do anything or be any different to earn that love – in fact, she cannot do anything, since that love cannot be won or lost…The child can be ornery, unpleasant, whiny, uncooperative, and plain rude, and the parent still lets her feel loved. Ways have to be found to convey the unacceptability of certain behaviors without making the child herself feel unaccepted. She has to be able to bring her unrest, her least likable characteristics to the parent and still receive the parent’s absolutely satisfying, security-inducing unconditional love.”
― Gordon Neufeld

“Children learn best when they like their teacher and they think their teacher likes them.”
― Gordon Neufeld, Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

“Children do not experience our intentions, no matter how heartfelt. They experience what we manifest in tone and behavior.”
― Gordon Neufeld, Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

“The key to activating maturation is to take care of the attachment needs of the child. To foster independence we must first invite dependence; to promote individuation we must provide a sense of belonging and unity; to help the child separate we must assume the responsibility for keeping the child close. We help a child let go by providing more contact and connection than he himself is seeking. When he asks for a hug, we give him a warmer one than he is giving us. We liberate children not by making them work for our love but by letting them rest in it. We help a child face the separation involved in going to sleep or going to school by satisfying his need for closeness.”
― Gordon Neufeld, Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

“Unhappiness in a child accumulates because he sees no end to the dark tunnel. The thirteen weeks of a term might just as well be thirteen years.”
― Graeme Greene

“The newborn has only three demands. They are warmth in the arms of its mother, food from her breasts, and security in the knowledge of her presence. Breatfeeding satisfies all three.”
― Grantly Dick-Read

“When you take the time to actually listen, with humility, to what people have to say, it’s amazing what you can learn. Especially if the people who are doing the talking also happen to be children.”
― Greg Mortenson, Stones Into Schools: Promoting Peace With Books, Not Bombs, in Afghanistan and Pakistan

“We want our children to become who they are— and a developed person is, above all, free. But freedom as we define it doesn’t mean doing what you want. Freedom means the ability to make choices that are good for you. It is the power to choose to become what you are capable of becoming, to develop your unique potential by making choices that turn possibility into reality. It is the ability to make choices that actualize you. As often as not, maybe more often than not, this kind of freedom means doing what you do not want, doing what is uncomfortable or tiring or boring or annoying.”
― Gregory J. Millman, Homeschooling: A Family’s Journey

“Say “no” only when it really matters. Wear a bright red shirt with bright orange shorts? Sure. Put water in the toy tea set? Okay. Sleep with your head at the foot of the bed? Fine. Samuel Johnson said, “All severity that does not tend to increase good, or prevent evil, is idle.”
― Gretchen Rubin

“Being a good parent is not an obligation, it is a choice. Plenty of people fall short in the parent category and quite a few refuse to accept it. You will do a much better job if you understand that taking care of your children is a choice not an obligation.”
― Gudjon Bergmann, Empowerment Basics

“Currently, the average age of exposure to hardcore pornography is 9 years old. None of this can be good for anyone… except the sex industry.”
― Guy Noland

“Misbehavior and punishment are not opposites that cancel each other – on the contrary they breed and reinforce each other.”
― Haim G. Ginott

“The world talks to the mind. Parents speak more intimately; they talk to the heart.”
― Hain Ginott

“Child give me your hand so that I may walk in the light of your faith in me.”
― Hannah Kahn

“Adults constantly raise the bar on smart children, precisely because they’re able to handle it. The children get overwhelmed by the tasks in front of them and gradually lose the sort of openness and sense of accomplishment they innately have. When they’re treated like that, children start to crawl inside a shell and keep everything inside. It takes a lot of time and effort to get them to open up again. Kids’ hearts are malleable, but once they gel it’s hard to get them back the way they were.”
― Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore

“Our own egos are so fragile we cannot bear to give our lives to the raising of children only to have them become ordinary people. There, I said it. The worst thing a 21st-century child of interesting parents could be: ordinary. Like us.”
― Heather Choate Davis, Elijah & the SAT: Reflections on a hairy old desert prophet and the benchmarking of our children’s lives

“We fluff them and fold them and nudge them and enhance them and bind them and break them and embellish them beyond measure; then, as we drive them up to the college interviews that they’ve heard since birth are the gateway to the lives they were destined to lead based on nothing more than our own need for it to be true, we tell them, with a smile so tight it would crack nuts, “Just be yourself.”�”
― Heather Choate Davis, Elijah & the SAT: Reflections on a hairy old desert prophet and the benchmarking of our children’s lives

“The attempt to prevent our kids from struggling for fear it might scar their permanent records is, instead, scarring them for life.”
― Heather Choate Davis, Elijah & the SAT: Reflections on a hairy old desert prophet and the benchmarking of our children’s lives

“I can’t hear God’s voice for my kids, but I can watch and listen and pray and adjust and try not to screw up whatever He has planned for their lives. And although I can’t make them listen to God, or even want to, I can plant enough seeds to swing the world in their favor. That said, as I navigate my day surrounded by the parents of gifted children (did you notice there aren’t any average kids anymore—only Gifted and Disposable), here’s where I get confused: if a person believes in gifts but not in God, then where—as they stand in daily admiration of their child’s emergent uniqueness, their heart swelling with pride and joy and, yes, gratitude —where, then, do they send the thank-you note?”
― Heather Choate Davis, Elijah & the SAT: Reflections on a hairy old desert prophet and the benchmarking of our children’s lives

“We fluff them and fold them and nudge them and enhance them and bind them and break them and embellish them beyond measure; then, as we drive them up to the college interviews that they’ve heard since birth are the gateway to the lives they were destined to lead based on nothing more than our own need for it to be true, we tell them, with a smile so tight it would crack nuts, ‘Just be yourself.”
― Heather Choate Davis, Elijah & the SAT: Reflections on a hairy old desert prophet and the benchmarking of our children’s lives

“Did you notice there aren’t any average kids anymore—only Gifted and Disposable?”
― Heather Choate Davis, Elijah & the SAT: Reflections on a hairy old desert prophet and the benchmarking of our children’s lives

“Responsibilities fall heaviest on those willing to take the load.”
― Heather Day Gilbert, God’s Daughter

“Women are responsible for the people in the family having pants.”
― Heidi Julavits, The Folded Clock: A Diary

“We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.”
― Henry Cloud

“Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.”
― Henry Cloud

“If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you ‘do’ boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.”
― Henry Cloud

“Don’t go overboard in praising required behavior: ‘We have only done our duty’ (Luke 17:10). But do go overboard when your child confesses the truth, repents honestly, takes chances, and loves openly. Praise the developing character in your child as it emerges in active, loving, responsible behavior.”
― Henry Cloud

“Training moments occur when both parents and children do their jobs. The parent’s job is to make the rule. The child’s job is to break the rule. The parent then corrects and disciplines. The child breaks the rule again, and the parent manages the consequences and empathy that then turn the rule into reality and internal structure for the child.”
― Henry Cloud

“We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves.”
― Henry Ward Beecher

“… when Michel came home from school, for example, and everything was as it should be. My own voice, above all, asking him what he wanted in his sandwich, also sounded as it should have. The larder was full, I had done all of the shopping that morning. I took care of myself as well, I looked in the mirror before leaving the house: I made sure my clothes were clean, that I had shaved, that my hair didn’t look like the hair of someone who never looks in a mirror – the people in the supermarket would have noticed nothing unusual, I was no divorced father reeking of alcohol, no father who couldn’t handle things. I clearly remembered the goal I had set for myself: I wanted to keep up the appearance of normality. As far as possible, everything had to remain the same for Michel as long as his mother wasn’t around. A hot meal every day, for a start. But also in other aspects of our temporary single-parent family, there shouldn’t be too many visible changes. Normally, it wasn’t my habit to shave every day; I didn’t mind walking around with stubble. Claire had never made a big deal out of that either, but during those weeks I shaved every morning. I felt that my son had a right to sit at the table with a clean-smelling, freshly shaven father. A freshly shaven and clean-smelling father would not prompt him to think the wrong things, would in any case not cause him to doubt the temporary character of our single-parent family.”
― Herman Koch, The Dinner

“I amazed myself, above all, with how well I was able to manage. Michel got to school on time, his teeth brushed and his clothes clean. More or less clean: I was less critical of a few spots on his trousers than Claire would have been, but then I was his father. I’ve never tried to be ‘both father and mother’ to him, the way some half-assed, home-made-sweater-wearing head of a single-parent household put it once in some bullshit program I saw on afternoon TV.”
― Herman Koch, The Dinner

“No, on the outside view there was nothing for anyone to notice about me. I remained one pillar of a trinity, another pillar was lying only temporarily (temporarily! temporarily! temporarily!) in the hospital, I was the pilot of a three-engine aircraft, one of whose engines had stalled: there is no reason to panic, this is not a crash landing, the pilot has thousands of flight hours behind him, he will land the plane safely on the ground.”
― Herman Koch, The Dinner

“The dilemma I was faced with was one every parent faces sooner or later: you want to defend your child, of course; you stand up for your child, but you mustn’t do it all too vehemently, and above all not too eloquently – you mustn’t drive anyone into a corner. The educators, the teachers, will let you have your say, but afterwards they’ll take revenge on your child. You may come up with better arguments – it’s not too hard to come up with better arguments than the educators, the teachers – but in the end, your child to going to pay for it. Their frustration at being shown up is something they’ll take out on the student.”
― Herman Koch, The Dinner

“Siddhartha began to understand that it was not happiness and peace that had come to him with his son but, rather, sorrow and worry. But he loved him and preferred the sorrow and worry of love to the happiness and peace he had known without the boy.”
― Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha

“All people cross the line from childhood to adulthood with a secondhand opinion of who they are. Without any questioning, we take as truth whatever our parents and other influential have said about us during our childhood, whether these messages are communicated verbally, physically, or silently.”
― Heyward Ewart, AM I BAD? Recovering From Abuse

“I want my girls to see their relationship with me as a place of refuge, a place they can retreat to for honesty, unconditional love, and support. I want to teach them and have them trust me, not fear me. I want to preserve the gentle souls that I see in them.” -Liz. M.”
― Hilary Flower, Adventures in Gentle Discipline: A Parent-to-Parent Guide

“Society tried to teach me that children are by nature selfish, out-of-control, and demanding, that their goal is power and that they are always trying to see how much they can get away with, that you can’t let children manipulate you or become too dependant, and that disobedience equals disrespect. As a mother, I have come to believe strongly that my child’s primary goals are having his needs met, feeling connected to others, and feeling self-worth. His misbehavior is an attempt to get a need met or to feel significance and connection, done in an appropriate way…. my job as a parent is to help my child identify and meet those needs in appropriate ways.” – Lisa S.”
― Hilary Flower, Adventures in Gentle Discipline: A Parent-to-Parent Guide

“As those of you with children know, rational parenting is like the Loch Ness Monster. We all hope it’s out there somewhere, but we don’t know anyone who has actually discovered it (and if we do come across someone who claims to have found it, deep down we think that person is a little off.”
― Holly Sprink, Faith Postures: Cultivating Christian Mindfulness

“The only power that can effect transformations of the order (of Jesus) is love. It remained for the 20th century to discover that locked within the atom is the energy of the sun itself. For this energy to be released, the atom must be bombarded from without. So too, locked in every human being is a store of love that partakes of the divine- the imago dei, image of god…And it too can be activated only through bombardment, in its case, love’s bombardment. The process begins in infancy, where a mother’s initially unilateral loving smile awakens love in her baby and as coordination develops, elicits its answering smile… A loving human being is not produced by exhortations, rules and threats. Love can only take root in children when it comes to them- initially and most importantly from nurturing parents. Ontogenetically speaking, love is an answering phenomenon. It is literally a response.”
― Huston Smith, The World’s Religions: Our Great Wisdom Traditions

“The last time Assistant Principal Parker called, a girl in the school’s locker room had accused Julie of being a whore during the two years she’d spent on the street. My kid took exception to that and decided to communicate that by applying a chair to the offending party’s head. I’d told her to go for the gut next time- it left less evidence.”
― Ilona Andrews, Magic Slays

“There are many different ways of approaching parenting as there are cultures. However, in non-industrialized cultures, the similarities are also striking. Extended nursing, co-sleeping, carrying the baby in close physical contact, responding promptly to cries or distress, never leaving a baby alone, are all virtually universal in traditional societies that have not become overly “westernized”.”
― Ingrid Bauer, Diaper Free: The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Infant Hygiene

“My mothering needed a tad more Mother Theresa and a lot less Lizzy Borden.”
― Irene Tomkinson, Not Like My Mother: Becoming a Sane Parent After Growing Up in a Crazy Family

“I had been running as fast as I could for all of my adult life. A person can’t listen effectively while running. A running mother is not able to pick up clues. She is not able to let go of her own agenda long enough to stop and listen.”
― Irene Tomkinson, Not Like My Mother: Becoming a Sane Parent After Growing Up in a Crazy Family

“Breasts are a scandal because they shatter the border between motherhood and sexuality.”
― Iris Marion Young

“Why is every mom’s concern about sex? There are more important things in life, like school, careers, poetry, books, ice cream, or learning how to make the perfect chocolate cake. It’s so damn frustrating.”
― Isabel Quintero, Gabi, a Girl in Pieces

“No occupation in this world is more trying to soul and body than the care of young children. What patience and wisdom, skill and unlimited love it calls for. God gave the work to mothers and furnished them for it, and they cannot shirk it and be guiltless.”
― Isabella MacDonald Alden

“Good parents use the mistakes they did in the past when they were young to advice the children God gave to them to prevent them from repeating those mistakes again. However, bad parents always want to be seen as right and appear “angelic and saintly” as if they never had horrible youth days.”
― Israelmore Ayivor

“No man wants his daughter to be the kind of girl whom he liked in high school.”
― J. Richard Singleton

“Like I tell our kids, ‘Your Mom isn’t always right and I’m not always right. But together, WE’RE ALWAYS right!”
― J. Thomas Steele

“If I hear any more loud voices, you will both be auctioned off on eBay. I could use the extra money.”
― J.R. Rain, Vampire Dawn

“Train your Children with Patience, Correct them in Love, Don’t Discipline them out of hatred”
― Jaachynma N.E. Agu, Risk It, Be Different

“Look Beyond Motherhood and Parenting; Focus on the uniqueness of every Child.”
― Jaachynma N.E. Agu, RISK IT, BE DIFFERENT!

“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”
― James Baldwin

“If you can pick the baby up without him squirting out of your hands like a bar of soap in the shower, he’s not oiled up enough.”
― James Lileks, Mommy Knows Worst: Highlights from the Golden Age of Bad Parenting Advice

“If Mother had to be told not to shove the entire brick of Ivory up Junior’s hindquarters, constipation is the least of his problems.”
― James Lileks, Mommy Knows Worst: Highlights from the Golden Age of Bad Parenting advice

“My parents were nonmaterialistic. They believed that money without knowledge was worthless, that education tempered with religion was the way to climb out of poverty in America, and over the years they were proven right.”
― James McBride, The Color of Water: A Black Man’s Tribute to His White Mother

“When his parents announced the newest rules to Jamal, he defiantly announced back to them that, as a matter of principle, he would not be “manipulated or forced into complying with a Fascist parenting style.”
― James T. Webb, Misdiagnosis and Dual Diagnoses of Gifted Children and Adults: ADHD, Bipolar, OCD, Asperger’s, Depression, and Other Disorders

“The best security blanket a child can have is parents who respect each other.”
― Jan Blaustone

“To begin perfect happiness at the respective ages of twenty-six and eighteen, is to do pretty well; and professing myself moreover convinced, that the General’s unjust interference, so far from being really injurious to their felicity, was perhaps rather conducive to it, by improving their knowledge of each other, and adding strength to their attachment, I leave it to be settled by whomsoever it may concern, whether the tendency of this work be altogether to recommend parental tyranny, or reward filial disobedience.”
― Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey

“If you can control your behavior when everything around you is out of control, you can model for your children a valuable lesson in patience and understanding…and snatch an opportunity to shape character.”
― Jane Clayson Johnson, I Am a Mother

“One thing I had learned from watching chimpanzees with their infants is that having a child should be fun.”
― Jane Goodall

“Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? Think of the last time you felt humiliated or treated unfairly. Did you feel like cooperating or doing better?”
― Jane Nelsen

“Do not expect too much from your child and she will grow in your love… But if you push her too much, you will push her away. A child is not yours to own but to raise. She may not be what you will have her to be, but she will be what she has to be. Remember what they say, that ‘Wood may remain twenty years in the water, but it is still not a fish.”
― Jane Yolen, Sister Light, Sister Dark

“I don’t think each of us receives one harvest only–an after-death sort of payment for services rendered. I think we all get a lifetime full of little harvests–those small miracles that stand out from the rest of life, when we are one with nature, each other, and ourselves.”
― Janene Wolsey Baadsgaard

“Sometimes, for the present,” I said, turning to April, “all we can do is hold on. Sometimes it’s that ability, and that ability alone, that gets us through the rough parts. But if we do hold on, then eventually the storm does pass and the sun comes out and we can go on again.”
― Janene Wolsey Baadsgaard, Why Does My Mother’s Day Potted Plant Always Die?

“Wer die Schwäche hat, Fehler zu begehen, sollte die Stärke besitzen, sich zu entschuldigen.”
― Jan-Uwe Rogge, Eltern setzen Grenzen

“Being a parent is a gift, one which most men unselfishly allow women to keep all to themselves.”
― Jarod Kintz, This Book is Not FOR SALE

“My father taught me the most important thing about wisdom—that I was going to have to acquire it from other people. So without teaching me, he taught me how to learn from others.”
― Jarod Kintz, This Book is Not FOR SALE

“The controlled freak-out is a beautiful thing. (Ephesians 4:26)”
― Jay Payleitner, 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad

“Realizing the emptiness of a “spirituality” — and of a “spiritual” nurture — that remains in the clouds need not bring us or our children to a dead end. It is a turning point. Now we can begin to deepen our awareness of the genuine spirituality of life’s humblest moments.”
― Jean Grasso Fitzpatrick, Something More: Nurturing Your Child’s Spiritual Growth

“A baby’s cry is precisely as serious as it sounds.”
― Jean Liedloff, The Continuum Concept: In Search Of Happiness Lost

“If you want to be treated like a mother, act like one.”
― Jeannette Walls, Half Broke Horses

“No child is born a delinquent. They only became that way if nobody loved them when they were kids. Unloved children grow up to be serial murderers or alcoholics.”
― Jeannette Walls, The Glass Castle

“You can’t cling to the side your whole life, that one lesson every parent needs to teach a child is “If you don’t want to sink, you better figure out how to swim”
― Jeannette Walls, The Glass Castle

“People worried too much about their children. Suffering when you’re young is good for you. It immunized your body and soul…”
― Jeannette Walls, The Glass Castle

“What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger”
― Jeannette Walls, The Glass Castle

“Fussing over children who cry only encourages them. That’s positive reinforcement for negative behavior.”
― Jeannette Walls, The Glass Castle

“Part of the genius of (Nick) Sabin’s system was that he understood that no matter the skill set, he was inheriting vulnerable kids from various backgrounds. For those times when they made poor decisions, as they invariably did, the safety net must be strong as far and wide as possible.”
― Jeff Benedict, The System: The Glory and Scandal of Big-Time College Football

“I realize parenting is hard and boring at times and a four-hour break would be super, but this is the job we signed up for. Some days it sucks, but most days it’s great.”
― Jen Mann

“Das mine!’ protested Ava, Bennie’s daughter, affirming Alex’s recent theory that language acquisition involved a phase of speaking German. She snatched a plastic skillet away from his own daughter, Cara-Ann, who lurched after it, roaring, ‘Mine pot! Mine pot!”
― Jennifer Egan, A Visit from the Goon Squad

“This was our language: half-truths, obvious lies, accusations neither one of us would ever make. It was a system eery bit as complicated as Morse code or the dancing of bees. Don’t ask, don’t tell, stay civil.”
― Jennifer Lynn Barnes, Every Other Day

“Most of the time, it felt like my father and I were completely different species. Possibly literally, depending on the day and whether or not I actually qualified as human at the time.”
― Jennifer Lynn Barnes, Every Other Day

“Before I had kids, I always found it funny how people would talk about their children like they were the cutest things on the planet and how every little thing they did was endlessly fascinating. Now that I’ve had kids, I can say with certainty that, my children really are the cutest things on this planet and every little thing they do is endlessly fascinating…”
― Jennifer Miller

“Mama don’t let your babies grow up to be selfish.” -Jennifer Ritchie Payette”
― Jennifer Ritchie Payette

“During childhood, it’s about trying to help develop who your kid’s going to be. During adolescence, it’s about responding to who your kid wants to be.”
― Jennifer Senior

“We enshrine things to memory very differently than we experience them in real time. The psychologist Daniel Kahneman has coined a couple of terms to make the distinction. He talks about the “experiencing self” versus the “remembering self.”
― Jennifer Senior, All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood

“More than almost anything else, the experience of parenthood exposes the gulf between our experiencing and remembering selves. Our experiencing selves tell researchers that we prefer doing the dishes — or napping, or shopping, or answering emails — to spending time with our kids. (I am very specifically referring here to Kahneman’s study of 909 Texas women.) But our remembering selves tell researchers that no one — and nothing — provides us with so much joy as our children. It may not be the happiness we live day to day, but it’s the happiness we think about, the happiness we summon and remember, the stuff that makes up our life-tales.”
― Jennifer Senior, All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood

“And if that’s the case — if we are our remembering selves — then it matters far less how we feel moment to moment with our children. They play rich and crucial roles in our life stories, generating both outsize highs and outsize lows. Without such complexity, we don’t feel like we’ve amounted to much. “You don’t have a good story until something deviates from the expected,” says McAdams. “And raising children leads to some pretty unexpected happenings.”
― Jennifer Senior, All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood

“Drawing from 1.7 million Gallup surveys collected between 2008 and 2012, researchers Angus Deaton and Arthur Stone found that parents with children at home age fifteen or younger experience more highs, as well as more lows, than those without children… And when researchers bother to ask questions of a more existential nature, they find that parents report greater feelings of meaning and reward — which to many parents is what the entire shebang is about.”
― Jennifer Senior, All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood

“As parents, we sometimes mistakenly assume that things were always this way. They weren’t. The modern family is just that – modern – and all of our places in it are quite new. Unless we keep in mind how new our lives as parents are, and how unusual and ahistorical, we won’t see that world we live in, as mothers and fathers, is still under construction. Modern childhood was invented less than seventy years ago – the length of a catnap, in historical terms.”
― Jennifer Senior, All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood

“That women bring home the bacon, fry it up, serve it for breakfast, and use its greasy remains to make candles for their children’s science projects is hardly news. Yet how parenting responsibilities get sorted out under these conditions remains unresolved.”
― Jennifer Senior, All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood

“They’d have people out looking for her, and nothing makes grown-ups quite so mad as finding a child safe when they’d been scared silly that they might find that child dead.”
― Jenny Wingfield, The Homecoming of Samuel Lake

“It was a soulless gaze, burning with a wild hatred that shouldn’t be there in anyone who could call themselves a parent.”
― Jess C. Scott, Playmates

“Your children need your presence more than your presents.”
― Jesse Jackson

“With children the clock is reset. We forget what came before”
― Jhumpa Lahiri, The Lowland

“Every mom has her own battle. Win yours without being ‘nyinyir’ to others.”
― Jihan Davincka, The Davincka Code, How Traveling Inspires You

“Being a parent is dirty and scary and beautiful and hard and miraculous and exhausting and thankless and joyful and frustrating all at once. It’s everything. (Confessions of a Scary Mommy, Gallery Books 2012).”
― Jill Smokler, Confessions of a Scary Mommy: An Honest and Irreverent Look at Motherhood: The Good, The Bad, and the Scary

“While I was drying off Maddie after her bath tonight, she said, ‘I love you’ to me for the first time. It sounded like ‘All lub boo,’ but I didn’t care. To reciprocate, I showed her what an ex-Marine looks like when he cries.”
― Jim Beaver, Life’s That Way: A Memoir

“When your mom was not in labor yelling at me, she made me laugh so hard.”
― Jim Gaffigan, Dad Is Fat

“I feel guilty when I feed them unhealthy food they like. I feel guilty when I feed them healthy food they don’t like. I feel guilty when I drop them off at school. I feel guilty when I pick them up at school. I feel guilty mostly for writing this book instead of spending time with them.”
― Jim Gaffigan, Dad Is Fat

“People treat having a kid as somehow retiring from success. Quitting. Have you seen a baby? They’re pretty cute. Loving them is pretty easy. Smiling babies should actually be categorized by the pharmaceutical industry as a powerful antidepressant. Being happy is really the definition of success, isn’t it?”
― Jim Gaffigan, Dad Is Fat

“Ironically, to my children, bedtime is a punishment that violates their basic rights as human beings. Once the lights are out, you can expect at least an hour of inmates clanging their tin cups on the cell bars.”
― Jim Gaffigan, Dad Is Fat

“Bedtime makes you realize how completely incapable you are of being in charge of another human being. My children act like they’ve never been to sleep before. “Bed? What’s that? No, I’m not doing that.” They never want to go to bed. This is another thing that I will never have in common with my children.”
― Jim Gaffigan, Dad Is Fat

“I used to wonder why I had hair on my legs, but now I know it’s for my toddler sons and daughters to pull themselves up off the ground with as I scream in pain.”
― Jim Gaffigan, Dad Is Fat

“Occasionally, a dog will be presented as some training method for having a baby. “My girlfriend and I got a dog. We are going to see if we can handle that before we have kids.” This is a little like testing the waters of being a vegetarian by having lettuce on your burger. Okay, maybe that metaphor doesn’t make sense, but neither does using a dog as a training method for having a baby.”
― Jim Gaffigan, Dad Is Fat

“TV news is like kryptonite to children. The two major shifts in taste for children to adulthood are news and mustard. Kids hate news and mustard. Well, mustard even has the word ‘turd’ in it. Maybe I should threaten my kids that if they don’t go to bed, I will force them to watch an hour-long newscast about mustard.”
― Jim Gaffigan, Dad Is Fat

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.”
― Jim Valvano

“I do not know many people who think they have succeeded as parents. Those who do tend to cite the markers that indicate (their own) status in the world: the Stanford degree….Those of us less inclined to compliment ourselves on our parenting skills, in other words most of us, recite rosaries of our failures, our neglects, our derelictions and delinquencies.”
― Joan Didion, Blue Nights

“I became a firefighter because I wanted to save people. But I should have been more specific. I should have named names.”
― Jodi Picoult

“I thought of all the magazine article I’d read on mothers who worked and constantly felt guilty about leaving their children with someone else. I had trained myself to read pieces like that and silently say to myself, ‘See how lucky you are?’ But it had been gnawing at the inside, that part that didn’t fit, that I never let myself even think about. After all, wasn’t it a worse kind of guilt to be with your child and to know that you wanted to be anywhere but there?”
― Jodi Picoult

“We pretend that we know our children, because it’s easier than admitting the truth–from the minute that cord is cut, they are strangers. It’s far easier to tell yourself your daughter is still a little girl than to see her in a bikini and realize she has the curves of a young woman; it’s safer to say you’re a good parent who has all the right conversations about drugs and sex than to acknowledge there are a thousand things she would never tell you.”
― Jodi Picoult, Change of Heart

“I wondered how long it took for a baby to become yours, for familiarity to set in. Maybe as long as it took a new car to lose that scent, or a brand-new house to gather dust. Maybe that was the process more commonly described as bonding: the act of learning your child as well as you know yourself.”
― Jodi Picoult, Handle with Care

“We’re [parents]) always bluffing, pretending we know best, when most of the time we’re just praying we won’t screw up too badly.”
― Jodi Picoult, House Rules

“We are all, I suppose, beholden to our parents – the question is, how much?”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper

“(24/7) once you sign on to be a mother, that’s the only shift they offer.”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper

“Parenting is really just a matter of tracking, of hoping your kids do not get so far ahead you can no longer see their next moves. ”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper

“Babies don’t come with instruction booklets. You’d learn the same way we all do — you’d read up on dinosaurs, you’d Google backhoes and skidders. And you don’t need a penis to go buy a baseball glove.”
― Jodi Picoult, Sing You Home

“If you want to love a parent you have to understand the incredible investment he or she has in you. If you are a parent, and you want to be loved, you have to deserve it.”
― Jodi Picoult, Songs of the Humpback Whale

“Adoption is the most intentional process on Earth.”
― Jody Cantrell Dyer, The Eye of Adoption: The True Story of My Turbulent Wait for a Baby

“Adoption is a beautiful, burdensome blessing.”
― Jody Cantrell Dyer, The Eye of Adoption: The True Story of My Turbulent Wait for a Baby

“Adoption is grief in reverse.”
― Jody Cantrell Dyer, The Eye of Adoption: The True Story of My Turbulent Wait for a Baby

“For me, adoption was grief in reverse.”
― Jody Cantrell Dyer, The Eye of Adoption: The True Story of My Turbulent Wait for a Baby

“I wanted to explore this idea that the bogey man in the closet is scary, but being a mother is scarier.”
― Joe Hill

“I mean, when the world comes for your children, with the knives out, it’s your job to stand in the way.”
― Joe Hill, Horns

“I slid down in the seat and began to weep. I wept for her, for me, but mostly because the siren call of my first big story with a yellow border around it was more powerful than the call of fatherhood.”
― Joe McNally, The Moment It Clicks: Photography Secrets from One of the World’s Top Shooters

“People tend to raise the child inside of them rather than the child in front of them.”
― Joe Newman, Raising Lions

“that a child is not an event, alleged or otherwise, a mistake or accident or crime. . . he is by definition more than this, sum rather than division, a living promissory note.”
― John Burnham Schwartz, Northwest Corner

“The balancing act we parents attempt is convincing our children: 1. You are loved more than you can imagine. 2. The world does not revolve around you.”
― John Eldredge, Love and War: Finding the Marriage You’ve Dreamed

“If I had to make a general rule for living and working with children, it might be this: be wary of saying or doing anything to a child that you would not do to another adult, whose good opinion and affection you valued.”
― John Holt

“If you wanted to create an education environment that was directly opposed to what the brain was good at doing, you probably would design something like a classroom. If you wanted to create a business environment that was directly opposed to what the brain was good at doing, you probably would design something like a cubicle. And if you wanted to change things, you might have to tear down both and start over.”
― John Medina, Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School

“The essence of successful discipline is not technique; rather, it is self-confidence.”
― John Rosemond, A Family of Value

“We must be what we wish our children to be. They will form their characters from ours.”
― John S.C. Abbott, The Mother at Home

“If a child cannot place implicit confidence in his parent, most assuredly no confidence can be reposed in the child.”
― John S.C. Abbott, The Mother at Home

“Perhaps it takes courage to raise children..”
― John Steinbeck, East of Eden

“It still remains unrecognised, that to bring a child into existence without a fair prospect of being able, not only to provide food for its body, but instruction and training for its mind, is a moral crime, both against the unfortunate offspring and against society; and that if the parent does not fulfil this obligation, the State ought to see it fulfilled, at the charge, as far as possible, of the parent.”
― John Stuart Mill, On Liberty

“Shouldn’t we also ask ourselves what the consequences are of scrambling to provide the “most” of everything to our children in a world of fast dwindling resources? ”
― John Taylor Gatto

“Before I got married I had six theories about raising children; now, I have six children and no theories.”
― John Wilmot

“As parents we have a tendency to overprotect; it’s okay to try and show them all positives but we cannot forget that the real world has teeth”
― Johnnie Dent Jr.

“As parents we have a tendency to overprotect; it’s okay to try and show them all positives but we cannot forget that the real world has teeth”
― Johnnie Dent Jr.

“Instead of treating your child like how you were treated. Treat them with the same love and attention you wanted from your parents while growing up.”
― Jonathan Anthony Burkett, Neglected But Undefeated: The Life Of A Boy Who Never Knew A Mother’s Love

“Patty believed that parents have a duty to teach their children how to recognize reality when they see it.”
― Jonathan Franzen, Freedom

“You could slap his wrist for saying it, but then he said it with his face, and you could spank him for making faces, but then he said it with his eyes, and there were limits to correction—no way, in the end, to penetrate behind the blue irises and eradicate a boy’s disgust.”
― Jonathan Franzen, The Corrections

“We know – it has been measured in many experiments – that children with strong impulse control grow to be better adjusted, more dependable, achieve higher grades in school and college and have more success in their careers than others. Success depends on the ability to delay gratification, which is precisely what a consumerist culture undermines. At every stage, the emphasis is on the instant gratification of instinct. In the words of the pop group Queen, “I want it all and I want it now.” A whole culture is being infantilised.”
― Jonathan Sacks

“There is nothing that moves a loving father’s soul quite like his child’s cry.”
― Joni Eareckson Tada

“What we are teaches the child far more than what we say, so we must be what we want our children to become.”
― Joseph Chilton Pearce, Teaching Children to Love: 80 Games and Fun Activities for Raising Balanced Children in an Unbalanced World

“Parents must try to be, or at least put forth their best efforts to be, what they wish [their] children to be. It is impossible for you to be an example of what you are not.”
― Joseph Fielding Smith

“To bring up a child in the way he should go, travel that way yourself once in a while.”
― Josh Billings

“If your kids are the generation Y there are only two things you parents are worried about. What your daughters are uploading on the internet and what your sons are downloading from the internet”
― Joshua Siranjofu

“We sucked in atheism with our canned milk.”
― Joy Davidman

“The danger of motherhood. you relive your early self, through the eyes of your mother.”
― Joyce Carol Oates, The Gravedigger’s Daughter

“It’s not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself.”
― Joyce Maynard

“He was afraid to pick up the baby. If he touched it, it might bond with him or something. Or he might leave fingerprints all over it.”
― Judith Arnold, Father Found

“Mothers who know do less. They permit less of what will not bear good fruit eternally. They allow less media in their homes, less distraction, less activity that draws their children away from their home. Mothers who know are willing to live on less and consume less of the world’s goods in order to spend more time with their children—more time eating together, more time working together, more time reading together, more time talking, laughing, singing, and exemplifying. These mothers choose carefully and do not try to choose it all.”
― Julie B. Beck

“But I don’t think any parent can expect to escape this life without disappointing his child at some point. And the same could be said the other way around. We all of us fall short now and again, and disappoint someone dear to us, or ourselves. Thankfully, my parents have always been the forgiving sort.”
― Julie Klassen, The Dancing Master

“His son’s transformation cannot be stopped, or hastened, or adjusted; the man he will become is already present, like a form emerging from a slab of stone. All that remains is to watch it happen.”
― Justin Cronin, Mary and O’Neil: A Novel in Stories

“There’s one thing you can start doing right now that will change how you communicate with any young human: Remember what it’s like to be one.”
― Justin Young

“We’ll never solve the problems we don’t talk about.”
― Justin Young

“Raise your children to love and embrace others. Tell them they are beautiful; they may grow up to be stars one day, and “beautiful” will never mean as much in a magazine as it will coming from you.”
― Kaiden Blake

“But I was beginning to feel like it all fit together, the same way everything in the bowl ends up in the bisquits, as Amma would say.”
― Kami Garcia

“Once you put yourself on the lookout for teachable moments, you’ll find them everywhere!”
― Kara Durbin, Parenting With Scripture: A Topical Guide for Teachable Moments

“Young children especially need the visual reinforcement of seeing you turn to Scripture for wisdom.”
― Kara Durbin, Parenting With Scripture: A Topical Guide for Teachable Moments

“Encourage obeying “all the way, right away, and in a happy way.”
― Kara Durbin, Parenting With Scripture: A Topical Guide for Teachable Moments

“Your child may be under more stress than you realize. Remember that situations around to past experiences. Just because you do not see something as a big deal does not mean it is not for your child.”
― Kara Durbin, Parenting With Scripture: A Topical Guide for Teachable Moments

“Teachable moments are any time that you use situations to dialogue with your child about what’s going on- what he or she has seen, heard, or done. As this passage from Deuteronomy (Deut. 6:6-7) describes, teachable moments can be any time you and your child are together.”
― Kara G. Durbin, Parenting with Scripture: A Topical Guide for Teachable Moments

“My life has been shaped by the decision two people made over 24 years ago. They decided to adopt a child. They got me, and I got a chance at the kind of life all children deserve.”
― Karen Fowler, Reflections on Motherhood

“The desire to procreate, in some, is so strong that it creates a sort of tunnel vision in the afflicted. One can’t see beyond trying to make a baby, and they never stop to think about what it will really be like once said baby has in fact, arrived.”
― Karen Fowler, Reflections on Motherhood

“But no one is easier to delude than a parent; they see only what they wish to see.”
― Karen Joy Fowler, We Are All Completely Beside Ourselves

“The life of a mother is the life of a child: you are two blossoms on a single branch.”
― Karen Maezen Miller, Momma Zen: Walking the Crooked Path of Motherhood

“What you call your life is not yours at all–not yours to plan, manipulate, or control, at least not very often. . . . In fleeting moments of deep satisfaction and insight, I saw the absolute truth of life: the unbroken line of love that had led to my existence and would lead on through my daughter. My mother’s love, her mother’s love, her mother’s love, and back and back forever ago. Love that is no mere word, love that goes beyond feeling, love that is life itself. . . . What miracles, what sacrifice, what love! . . . Can you imagine this love? Can you anticipate it, fabricate it, measure and evaluate it? No you can’t, you can only be love, and your child will release its magnitude within you.”
― Karen Maezen Miller, Momma Zen: Walking the Crooked Path of Motherhood

“To abandon a child, she had once said to someone, when she thought Cassandra couldn’t hear, was an act so cold, so careless, it refused forgiveness.”
― Kate Morton, The Forgotten Garden

“I would have made a terrible parent. The first time my child didn’t do what I wanted, I’d kill him.”
― Katharine Hepburn

“That was the tricky part. You poured inordinate amounts of time and attention and affection into your kids, but the result was indirect. You didn’t point out a cat to your one-year-old and then watch him, minutes later, say ‘Cat.’ Instead, you pointed out a hundred cats to your one-year-old and then, one day, watched him point to a cat and say ‘Mama.”
― Katherine Center, Everyone Is Beautiful

“Oh fer Christ’s bloody sake Martha I didna’ raise ye to be well regarded. To be liked. Any puny weak-waisted slut can be liked. I raised ye to be reckoned with.”
― Kathleen Kent, The Wolves of Andover

“The adoptee benefits because his collective parents are permitted to grow secure in their particular roles in his life. His adoptive parents are not unwittingly encouraged to compete to possess him. Nor are his birth parents punished and banished from a place in his life.”
― Kathleen Silber, Dear Birthmother

“Since we have had this baby with us, I have never again wondering why I never got pregnant. There is no doubt in my mind that God, in His wonderful way, was saving us to be the parents of this wonderful little boy.”
― Kathleen Silber, Dear Birthmother

“Adoption is a wonderful way of becoming a family. If being a biological parent is any better or more rewarding than being an adoptive parent, I really don’t think I could stand it!”
― Kathleen Silber, Dear Birthmother

“Perhaps it’s human nature: We want to shield our children from pain, and what we get instead is life and heartache and lessons that bring us to our knees. Sooner or later we are handed the brute, necessary curriculum of surrender, we have no choice, then but to bow our heads and learn. We struggle to accept that our children’s destinies are not ours to write, their battles not ours to fight, their bruises not ours to bear, nor their victories ours to take credit for. We learn humility and how to ask for help. We learn to let go even when every fiber of our being yearns to hold on even tighter.”
― Katrina Kenison, Magical Journey: An Apprenticeship in Contentment

“we can learn to trust our maternal selves and to have faith in the innate goodness and purity of our children – even when we feel overwhelmed and the kids are pushing all our buttons. we can support one another….we can be understanding of each other and easier on ourselves.”
― Katrina Kenison, Mitten Strings for God: Reflections for Mothers in a Hurry

“We are the windows through which our children first see the world. Let us be conscious of the view.”
― Katrina Kenison, Mitten Strings for God: Reflections for Mothers in a Hurry

“Perhaps I did nothing because I don’t have enough fear to be a good parent.”
― Kaui Hart Hemmings, The Descendants

“I tell Esther she should ease up on lard. There’s no need to mix lard in with Scottie’s rice, chicken, and beans. I tell her she hasn’t read the blogs. I’ve read the blogs. I know what Scottie should eat.”
― Kaui Hart Hemmings, The Descendants

“Instead of communicating “I love you, so let me make life easy for you,” I decided that my message needed to be something more along these lines: “I love you. I believe in you. I know what you’re capable of. So I’m going to make you work.”
― Kay Wills Wyma, Cleaning House: A Mom’s Twelve-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement

“I’d rather be a ‘THINKER’ – Two Healthy Incomes No Kids Early Retirement!”
― Kaye D. Walters, Kidfree & Lovin’ It! – Whether by Choice, Chance or Circumstance

“The greatest challenge of parenting is in the inner work it requires: the strength and confidence in believing that we are not in control of, but the answer for our children.”
― Kelly Bartlett

“Replace a goal of obedience with one of connection and trust instead. Children are drawn to follow those to whom they are emotionally connected. By parenting not for obedience but for relationship, kids are naturally inclined to follow your lead.”
― Kelly Bartlett

“A child’s behavior we see on the surface is the reflection of the feelings that are rooted underneath. We can use topical treatments to try to shape what the behavior looks like, but if we really want things to change, we need to address the roots. Nourish the roots, see the growth.”
― Kelly Bartlett

If all we ever offer is blanket praise without any meaning behind it, kids will always seek approval because they’ll never feel satisfied. If we offer genuine encouragement for their accomplishments, they won’t need our approval; they’ll approve of themselves.”
― Kelly Bartlett, Encouraging Words for Kids

“I snap and storm around and then spend long nights thinking of the most damaged adults I know and wondering if my particular brand of maternal fuckups are how they ended up like that.”
― Kelly Corrigan, Glitter and Glue

“At first parenthood was as I had expected, exhausting, sometimes heinous, and occasionally divine. I held my children close enough to feel them breathe, laugh, swallow.”
― Kelly Corrigan, Glitter and Glue

“Raising people is not some lark. It’s serious work with serious repercussions. It’s air-traffic control. You can’t step out for a minute; you can barely pause to scratch your ankle.”
― Kelly Corrigan, Glitter and Glue

“But the smell of the hospital, the sting of those overhead lights in the night, the snippets of conversations I had overheard, stayed with me and marked the beginning of how I came to know what a bold and dangerous thing parenthood is. Risk was not an event we had survived, but the place where we now lived.”
― Kelly Corrigan, Lift

“Mothering you is the first thing of consequence I have ever done.”
― Kelly Corrigan, Lift

“The surest way to a child’s heart is to spend time with them.”
― Kevin Heath

“The Tone is the Message.”
― Kevin T. McCarney, The Secrets of Successful Communication: A Simple Guide to Effective Encounters in Business

“Correction badly undertaken creates distance.”
― Kevin Thoman

“Every child should be read to.”
― Kim Hansen, The Adventures of Sheriff Williker: /Book 1: The Case of the Missing Horseshoe

“Independence isn’t doing your own thing; it’s doing the right thing on your own.”
― Kim John Payne

“In its complexity and sensuality, nature invites exploration, direct contact, and experience. But it also inspires a sense of awe, a glimpse of what is still “un-Googleable” . . . life’s mystery and magnitude.”
― Kim John Payne, Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

“Consistency also teaches us that some things do not change, though we may wish they would. Not everything bends to our personal preferences.”
― Kim John Payne, Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

“What better reminder do we have than our kids of our own best selves, our less stressed and more carefree selves? In their silliness we see the echo of the way we used to be: when we were kids, yes, but also before we had kids, or even two weeks ago, before all of the stress of these year-end corporate meetings. Their joy, their infectious enthusiasm, their sense of “mission” as the poor dog is dressed in boxer shorts, cannot help but cajole you, and beckon you, to lighten up.”
― Kim John Payne, Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

“Simplification establishes an unspoken emphasis on relationship.”
― Kim John Payne, Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

“Rest nurtures creativity, which nurtures activity. Activity nurtures rest, which sustains creativity. Each draws from and contributes to the other.”
― Kim John Payne, Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

“As a mother I see the future in the present. Every little thing she does or says makes me form a hypothesis of how she will see life and treat others in 20 years. So I plan for how amazing she will be now. Instead of living my life I have to live hers. Some may not understand how important it is to be a parent. How present, efficient, selfless, and imaginative you must be. But I do. I only pray that this little face is stronger than I am and more successful for this world and the next. I chase her butterflies. She was created from scratch and presented as a gift from God. She will never roam free, unattended and unloved.”
― Kimberley Alecia Smith

“…[E]ven I know that being a parent is awful ninety-five percent of the time…As far as I can tell, it’s that last five percent that keeps the human race from dying out. Four parts blinding terror, one part perfection. It’s like mainlining heroin. One taste of life on that edge and you’re hooked.”
― Kimberly McCreight, Reconstructing Amelia

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”
― Kirk Mango

“Greatness, whether athletic or otherwise, doesn’t come from those content on just being but from those who seek being the difference.”
― Kirk Mango

“When we aren’t curious in conversations we judge, tell, blame and even shame, often without even knowing it, which leads to conflict.”
― Kirsten Siggins, The Power of Curiosity: How to Have Real Conversations that create Collaboration, Innovation and Understanding

“Remember, you are not managing an inconvenience; You are raising a human being.”
― Kittie Frantz

“[…] once in the quagmire each further action only serves to plunge me deeper. And at least as corrosive is the awareness that I am dealing with children. That it is children who are dragging me down. There is something deeply shameful about this. In such situations I am probably as far from the person I aspire to be as possible. I didn’t have the faintest notion about any of this before I had children.”
― Knausgård, Karl Ove

“The reality is that most of us communicate the same way that we grew up. That communication style becomes our normal way of dealing with issues, our blueprint for communication. It’s what we know and pass on to our own children. We either become our childhood or we make a conscious choice to change it.”
― Kristen Crockett, The Gift of Past Relationships

“. . .you sounded frustrated and pissed off and amazingly happy”
― Kristin Hannah, Firefly Lane

“He’d learned in the past few months that telling a girl what to wear–even one the size of a golf club–was a bad idea. Histrionics often followed.”
― Kristin Hannah, Home Front

“We all have the best laid plans for our children, and they go and ruin it all by growing up any way they want to. What the hell was it all for, then? (Real Life and Liars)”
― Kristina Riggle

“It’s hard to trust your child to find his or her own path, especially when we’re told everyday by professionals that children must fit into rigid boxes. We all want to give our kids the best opportunities we can, which is why it feels like such a disservice if we don’t push them in the “right” direction. Celebrating you children’s passions rather than redirecting them, especially when those passions don’t line up neatly with a checklist for future success, can feel like jumping off a cliff. It certainly did for me. But that leap of faith is necessary if your kids are going to fly. ”
― Kristine Barnett

“Whenever my children complain about the planet to me, I say ‘Shut up, I just got here myself’.”
― Kurt Vonnegut, If This Isn’t Nice, What Is?: Advice for the Young

“too much alcohol hampers people’s ability to parent. That’s why I’ve chosen to remain childless.”
― Kyra Davis, Lust, Loathing and a Little Lip Gloss

“Trust me.” The words are a prayer, not a warranty. I understand that now.”
― Kyran Pittman, Planting Dandelions: Field Notes From a Semi-Domesticated Life

“Parenting has nothing to do with perfection. Perfection isn’t even the goal, not for us, not for our children. Learning together to live well in an imperfect world, loving each other despite or even because of our imperfections, and growing as humans while we grow our little humans, those are the goals of gentle parenting. So don’t ask yourself at the end of the day if you did everything right. Ask yourself what you learned and how well you loved, then grow from your answer. That is perfect parenting.”
― L.R. Knost, The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline

“It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.”
― L.R. Knost, Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages

“For a child, it is in the simplicity of play that the complexity of life is sorted like puzzle pieces joined together to make sense of the world.”
― L.R. Knost, Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages

“Education is the best gift my parent gave me.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita

“Parent should never forget the great excitement they felt for the birth of a new born into the world.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita

“Age is only a number. Keep an active life.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita, Beautiful Quotes

“The circumstances surrounding your birth are not as important as the opportunity to live life.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita, Beautiful Quotes

“Gracious words revived our spirit and restored our soul.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita, Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind

“Everything is an art, which must be mastered.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita, Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind

“What the world really needs is courageous parenting from mothers and fathers who are not afraid to speak up and take a stand.”
― Larry R. Lawrence

“We parents are an extension of our children, not the other way around. We are their conscience until it becomes their responsibility to tell themselves what’s right and necessary. We are their butlers until they are fully able to get the items they need and can clean up after themselves. We are their cheerleaders until they learn how to develop their own confidence and motivation. We are their counselors until they are able to take the lead in making the tough decisions that affect them.”
― Larry Tanner

“My kid, her life. I want for her what she wants for herself.”
― Laura Castoro

“I feel like I’ve lived numerous lives…and you can explore my incarnations through my works.”
― Laurel-Rain Snow, Interior Designs

“I think humans have always been desperate. I think it has always been about doing something awful if it might help, when the only other option is death. Maybe that’s what being a parent is supposed to feel like.”
― Lauren DeStefano, Sever

“Wonder isn’t about finding answers; it’s about becoming more comfortable with questions.”
― Leigh Ann Henion, Phenomenal: A Hesitant Adventurer’s Search for Wonder in the Natural World

“When faced with first time fatherhood at the age of 49, I didn’t know whether to celebrate with champagne… or hemlock.”
― Len Filppu, PRIME TIME DADS: 45 Reasons to Embrace Midlife Fatherhood

“Who’s crazy: people who trust other people, or people who don’t?”
― Lenore Skenazy

“We have to learn to remind the other parents who think we’re being careless when we loosen our grip that we are actually trying to teach our children how to get along in the world, and that we believe this is our job. A child who can fend for himself is a lot safer than one forever coddled, because the coddled child will not have Mom or Dad around all the time, even though they act as if he will.”
― Lenore Skenazy

“We want our children to have a childhood that’s magical and enriched, but I’ll bet that your best childhood memories involve something you were thrilled to do by yourself. These are childhood’s magic words: “I did it myself!”
― Lenore Skenazy, Free-Range Kids: Giving Our Children the Freedom We Had Without Going Nuts with Worry

“Without the support from religion–remember, we talked about it–no father, using only his own resources, would be able to bring up a child.”
― Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina

“Everything depends on upbringing. ”
― Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace

“If we fail to provide boys with pro-social models of the transition to adulthood, they may construct their own. In some cases, gang initiation rituals, street racing, and random violence may be the result.”
― Leonard Sax, Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men

“Asking a parent not to be a parent is like asking the sun not to be hot or snow not to be cold.”
― Lesa Howard

“Parenthood doesn’t improve one’s character, it exposes it.”
― Leslie A. Gordon, Cheer: A Novel

“Ironically, pretending that parenting is easy diminishes the value of family. As truth seekers and truth speakers, we need to be honest about the cost of parenting.”
― Leslie Leyland Fields, Parenting Is Your Highest Calling: And Eight Other Myths That Trap Us in Worry and Guilt

“… People with great passions, people who accomplish great deeds, people who possess strong feelings, even people with great minds and a strong personality, rarely come out of good little boys and girls.”
― Lev S. Vygotsky

“Helicopter parents. Before I started at Pirriwee Public, I thought it was an exaggeration, this thing about parents being overly involved with their kids. I mean, my mum and dad loved me, they were, like, interested in me when I was growing up in the nineties, but they weren’t, like, obsessed with me.”
― Liane Moriarty, Big Little Lies

“I realize it’s commonplace for parents to say to their child sternly, ‘I love you, but I don’t always like you.’ But what kind of love is that? It seems to me that comes down to, ‘I’m not oblivious to you – that is, you can still hurt my feelings – but I can’t stand having you around.’ Who wants to be loved like that? Given a choice, I might skip the deep blood tie and settle for being liked. I wonder if wouldn’t have been more moved if my own mother had taken me in her arms and said, ‘I like you.’ I wonder if just enjoying your kid’s company isn’t more important.”
― Lionel Shriver, We Need to Talk About Kevin

“To all you parents out there, don’t make your little girls, or little boys, so thirsty for love that they will want to drink water that will poison them.”
― Lisa Bedrick, For Christian Women

“Allow yourself to think that the possibility of failure is a necessary part of parenting well…. Avoiding the possibility of failure means avoiding the possibility of being an extraordinary parent-and avoiding what you want for your child.”
― Lisa Coyne, The Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years

“Even though you can’t control outcomes for your child, you can parent unconditionally with all your heart.”
― Lisa Coyne, The Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years

“Her mother was Jewish, but her father had insisted that she and Anne be raised Catholic. So she went to mass every Sunday as a child, received communion, went to confession, and was confirmed, but because her mother never participated in any of this, Alice began questioning the validity of these beliefs at a young age. And without a satisfying answer from either her father or the Catholic Church, she never developed a true faith.”
― Lisa Genova, Still Alice

“As parents we carry the blueprints, the dreams of what our family could be. The plans change, the whole thing goes way over budget, there are unexpected additions, and the work never ends. Still, through the messiness of construction we see each other with such depth and hope. Our five year-old boy is still so clearly the baby he once was and sometimes—can you see it?—the young man he will one day be. We draw energy and inspiration from our dreams; our simple, common motivations. –SIMPLICITY PARENTING”
― Lisa Ross

“In raising my children, I have lost my mind but found my soul.”
― Lisa T. Shepherd

“In raising my children, I have lost my mind but found my soul.”
― Lisa T. Shepherd

“Uselessness, she thought, was the permanent condition of parenthood.”
― Lisa Unger, Fragile

“Your children are the greatest gift God will give to you, and their souls the heaviest responsibility He will place in your hands. Take time with them, teach them to have faith in God. Be a person in whom they can have faith. When you are old, nothing else you’ve done will have mattered as much.”
― Lisa Wingate

“My heart filled with Nick’s smile, with the look of sheer adoration he gave me as he lugged the bucket. In the space of an instant, I felt it again—the crumbling of an old part of me, the growth of something new. The changing of my heart into a mother’s heart. It happened at the strangest times, in the most unexpected ways. Nick looked at me, and the love I felt for him was almost painful in its intensity. I’d never known I had it in me, the capacity to love this way. … But when Nick looked at me, my mind tumbled through nights and mornings, seasons and years in the future. … I saw a future like none I’d ever imagined. I wanted it, every minute of it.”
― Lisa Wingate, Firefly Island

“Generally, crises were Mom’s domain. Dad’s job was to listen, nod, act curmudgeonly, and offer to pay for things.”
― Lisa Wingate, Firefly Island

“Autism is just the surface. What is inside each of us is what matters, autistic or not.”
― Liz Becker

“A small step forward . . .every . . single . . .day. The sun is coming up and I am wondering, ‘What wondrous thing shall I witness today?”
― Liz Becker, Autism and the World According to Matt: A collection of 50 inspirational short stories on raising a moderate / severe mostly non-verbal autistic child from diagnosis to independence

“If the world is so cruel you are frightened of it, I will hold you, and protect you, and teach it to love you as I already love you.”
― Lois Leveen, Juliet’s Nurse

“Children might or might not be a blessing, but to create them and then fail them was surely damnation.”
― Lois McMaster Bujold, Barrayar

“You must be committed to your children first. Otherwise, they will receive the leftovers.”
― Lorilyn Roberts, Children of Dreams

“…the love, respect, and confidence of my children was the sweetest reward I could receive for my efforts to be the woman I would have them copy.”
― Louisa May Alcott, Little Women

“Your father, Jo. He never loses patience,–never doubts or complains,–but always hopes, and works and waits so cheerfully, that one is ashamed to do otherwise before him. He helped and comforted me, and showed me that I must try to practise all the virtues I would have my little girls possess, for I was their example. It was easier for your sakes than for my own; a startled or surprised look from one of you, when I spoke sharply, rebuked me more than any words could have done; and the love, respect, and confidence of my children was the sweetest reward I could receive for my efforts to be the woman I would have them copy.”
― Louisa May Alcott, Little Women or Meg, Jo, Beth and Amy

“Your typical Six-year-old is a paradoxical little person, and bipolarity is the name of his game.”
― Louise Bates Ames

“Women without children are also the best of mothers, often, with the patience, interest, and saving grace that the constant relationship with children cannot always sustain. I come to crave our talk and our daughters gain precious aunts. Women who are not mothering their own children have the clarity and focus to see deeply into the character of children webbed by family. A child is fortunate who feels witnessed as a Peron, outside relationships with parents by another adult.”
― Louise Erdrich, The Blue Jay’s Dance: A Birth Year

“We all know that parents do not make children but that children make parents…Authentic parenting is one long sacrificial act…parenting reveals the way that sacrifice at once diminishes our life as we knew it…while at the same time revealing to us larger and infinitely more fascinating forms of life…Parents know experientially that the very process which makes them suffer also makes them grow.”
― Luke Timothy Johnson, The Living Gospel

“Most important jobs of a parent: unconditional love, comfort and protection, and a solid platform and values for future success”
― M. James Airey

“Kids never want a perfect mother; they need a little love, even if that comes from a worst mother.”
― M.F. Moonzajer, LOVE, HATRED AND MADNESS

“No child ever became ‘good’ by being told that she or he was bad or by beating her/him.”
― Maddy Malhotra, How to Build Self-Esteem and Be Confident: Overcome Fears, Break Habits, Be Successful and Happy

“We can surely no longer pretend that our children are growing up into a peaceful, secure, and civilized world. We’ve come to the point where it’s irresponsible to try to protect them from the irrational world they will have to live in when they grow up. The children themselves haven’t yet isolated themselves by selfishness and indifference; they do not fall easily into the error of despair; they are considerably braver than most grownups. Our responsibility to them is not to pretend that if we don’t look, evil will go away, but to give them weapons against it.”
― Madeleine L’Engle, A Circle of Quiet

“The best way to guide children without coercion is to be ourselves.”
― Madeleine L’Engle, A Circle of Quiet

“Our children cannot be assumed to follow in our footsteps, assuage our losses, or compensate for our inadequacies.”
― Madeline Levine, The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids

“This is why we can’t have nice things…”
― Madge Madigan, When Life Gives You Lemons… At Least You Won’t Get Scurvy!

“He sounded absolutely miserable. “Are you ever going to speak to me?”
― Maggie Stiefvater, Forever

“She has to have four arms, four legs, four eyes, two hearts, and double the love. There is nothing “single” about a single mom.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“Single moms: You are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“Our past doesn’t define us. It prepares us.”
― Maralee McKee, Manners That Matter for Moms

“I will hold myself to a standard of grace which is Christ’s gift, not perfection which is Satan’s trap.”
― Maralee McKee, Manners That Matter for Moms

“People who have babies tell me I will know a love that is beyond anything I can imagine, and a joy that is indescribable. Love and joy? That sounds horrifying. I have no way of knowing whether I can handle either of those. I’m much better with need and fear. They are what ground me.”
― Marc Maron, Attempting Normal

“Everything I had to give went to my children, and though I loved them and my husband utterly, the drudgery of the day-to-day made it seem as if not love but coffee, my Toyota and sheer logistics were what propelled me through life.”
― Marcia DeSanctis

“On top of the abuse and neglect, denial heaps more hurt upon the child by requiring the child to alienate herself from reality and her own experience. In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted; it’s the talking about them that is forbidden.”
― Marcia Sirota

“What a difference it makes to come home to a child!”
― Margaret Fuller

“Perhaps, she had dreamed, she would teach some future King, shaping his child mind for a new and better world.”
― Margaret Landon, Anna and the King of Siam

“Society reaps what it sows in the way it nurtures its children, because stress sculpts the brain to exhibit several antisocial behaviors. Stress can set off a ripple of hormonal changes that permanently wire a child’s brain to cope with a malevolent world. Through this chain of events, violence and abuse pass from generation to generation as well as from one society to the next. Many world leaders who have been disciplined through anger and cruelty go in to treat their own people abominably, or to bully other nations. As long as we continue to discipline children like this, we will continue to have terrible wars on both the family and the world stage. One very powerful study illustrates the point. Researchers tracked down Germans who, in World War II, risked their own lives by hiding a Jewish person in their house. When interviewed, the researchers found one common feature of all these people. They had all been socialized in ways that respected their personal dignity.”
― Margot Sunderland, The Science of Parenting

“There is no single effort more radical in its potential for saving the world than a transformation of the way we raise our children.”
― Marianne Williamson

“There’s no single effort more radical in it’s potential for saving the world than a transformation of the way we raise our children.”
― Marianne Williamson

“A yummy mummy is a dedicated and loving mom who embodies a healthy lifestyle while retaining a sense of the person she was before having kids.”
― Marina Delio, The Yummy Mummy Kitchen: 100 Wholesome Recipes and Yummy Tips to Keep Your Family Healthy, Happy, and Glamorous

“No one is ever quite ready; everyone is always caught off guard. Parenthood chooses you. And you open your eyes, look at what you’ve got, say “Oh, my gosh,” and recognize that of all the balls there ever were, this is the one you should not drop. It’s not a question of choice.”
― Marisa de los Santos, Love Walked In

“When Doris had died so long ago, it was weeks before Mary could think clearly and remember what she was supposed to do the next minute and then the minute after that. Even though Doris had shown Mary how to get rid of the chiggers that burrowed under the skin or how to add potatoes to bread to make it heavy so it would fill a stomach faster, she had never explained how she had survived the death of a husband and the loss of a child. Parents never told their real secrets. They never let you know how they lived in the spaces between working and cooking and running after children and counting dollars.”
― Marisa Silver, Mary Coin

“I know it is hard for you young mothers to believe that almost before you can turn around the children will be gone and you will be alone with your husband. You had better be sure you are developing the kind of love and friendship that will be delightful and enduring. Let the children learn from your attitude that he is important. Encourage him. Be kind. It is a rough world, and he, like everyone else, is fighting to survive. Be cheerful. Don’t be a whiner.”
― Marjorie Pay Hinckley, Small and Simple Things

“For every guy who loves being a dad, there’s another who realizes too late that he’s created something his wife loves more than him.”
― Mark R. Brand, Long Live Us

“You can’t make your kids do anything. All you can do is make them wish they had. And then, they will make you wish you hadn’t made them wish they had.”
― Marshall B. Rosenberg

“If you raise a daughter to be both independent and an excellent marksman, you have to accept the fact that your control over her actions is at an end.”
― Martha Wells, The Gate of Gods

“Forgive your child and yourself nightly. You didn’t ask to live with the effects of ADHD any more than did your child.”
― Martin L. Kutscher, ADHD – Living Without Brakes

“This is not a contest with your child. The winner is not the one with more points. The winner is the one whose child still loves them when they graduate from high school.”
― Martin L. Kutscher, ADHD – Living Without Brakes

“In the midst of the affliction He counsels, strengthens confirms, nourishes, and favors us…. Moreover, when we have repented, He instantly remits the sins as well as the punishments. In the same manner parents ought to handle their children.”
― Martin Luther

“Although it is very easy to marry a wife, it is very difficult to support her along with the children and the household. Accordingly, no one notices this faith of Jacob. Indeed, many hate fertility in a wife for the sole reason that the offspring must be supported and brought up. For this is what they commonly say: ‘Why should I marry a wife when I am a pauper and a beggar? I would rather bear the burden of poverty alone and not load myself with misery and want.’ But this blame is unjustly fastened on marriage and fruitfulness. Indeed, you are indicting your unbelief by distrusting God’s goodness, and you are bringing greater misery upon yourself by disparaging God’s blessing. For if you had trust in God’s grace and promises, you would undoubtedly be supported. But because you do not hope in the Lord, you will never prosper.”
― Martin Luther, The Sermons of Martin Luther: 7 Volumes

“I was delighted to see him growing more cautious and skeptical about what he heard, especially when he heard it from someone in apparent authority. I think that is fundamental to a good education. And if it comes back to bite me from time to time, that’s a price worth paying.”
― Martine Millman, Homeschooling: A Family’s Journey

“Beware of what you teach your children in the womb.”
― Marty Rubin

“Avoiding awareness of our own reality is often an attempt to deny thoughts, desires, or intentions that we feel will threaten or contradict the needs of those with whom we feel strong attachment. We instinctively hide feelings and thoughts we assume would be threatening to other people, and might cause them to leave us. . . People who learned early in life to adapt to parental needs to an extent that we were unable to focus on our own developmental tasks and needs will often continue to play out this working mode” of conditional attachment. “You will attach to me as long as I meet your needs.”
― Mary Crocker Cook, Afraid to Let Go. for Parents of Adult Addicts and Alcoholics

“You can’t “let go”. You can’t “detach with love”. You can’t let them “hit bottom”. You can’t seem to implement the strategies you have learned when you are faced with your adult child’s chaos and anxiety. When you try to do this, it makes you physically and emotionally ill, and the anxiety and fear becomes unbearable.”
― Mary Crocker Cook, Afraid to Let Go. for Parents of Adult Addicts and Alcoholics

“You are mine for a moment, but you are His, forever His.”
― Matt Hammitt, I Couldn’t Love You More

“Come in early, so there’ll be time to popcorn,’ Mrs. Ray said. If she mentioned popping corn, they always came in early. So she usually mentioned it.”
― Maud Hart Lovelace, Betsy and Tacy Go Downtown

“It’s a fathers job to spoil his daughters shamelessly, it’s their husbands job to tame them. Prince Zehava-The Dragon Prince”
― Melanie Rawn

“I’m so cool that the kids come to my bedroom and go, ‘Mom! Turn the music down!”
― Melissa Etheridge

“When a child reaches puberty, parents become so curious about their sex lives and whereabouts, put them behind bars to their own detriment. When such a child breaks free, don’t be surprised to see him/her in porn movies.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson

“A father is a man who fails every day.”
― Michael Chabon

“There are no moments more painful for a parent than those in which you contemplate your child’s perfect innocence of some imminent pain, misfortune, or sorrow. That innocence (like every kind of innocence children have) is rooted in their trust of you, one that you will shortly be obliged to betray; whether it is fair or not, whether you can help it or not, you are always the ultimate guarantor or destroyer of that innocence.”
― Michael Chabon, Manhood for Amateurs

“[My dad] didn’t do much apart from the traditional winning of bread. He didn’t take me to get my hair cut or my teeth cleaned; he didn’t make the appointments. He didn’t shop for my clothes. He didn’t make my breakfast, lunch, or dinner. My mom did all of those things, and nobody ever told her when she did them that it made her a good mother.”
― Michael Chabon, Manhood for Amateurs

“You are the reason why he exists on this earth. You don’t have the right to abandon him just because he’s inconvenient or has trouble in school.”
― Michael Crichton, Next

“When I got to the States and started going to an American high school, which I did for an extremely short time, I thought everyone around me was insane, the way they talked about their parents. I thought the parents were insane too, the way they handled their kids, like every request they made was a bargain they weren’t sure would be kept. That little whiny tone at the end of every statement: “Be home by ten, okay?”
― Michael Gruber, The Good Son

“Some of the best friends you’ll ever meet in your life, you’ll meet though your children–mothers and fathers of their friends, parents from school. You’ll see. That’s the way it was for Bill and me. It’s one of the many gifts of parenting.”
― Michael J. Fox, Always Looking Up: The Adventures of an Incurable Optimist

“When I think of Tomodachi, I think of your mother. Your mother, she too lose her baby. She lose you. That very sad thing for her. Maybe she come looking, and she not find you. You not there when she come. She think you dead forever. But she see you in her mind. Now as I speak maybe she see you in her mind. You always there. I know. I have son too. I have Michiya. He always in my head. Like Kimi. They dead for sure, but they in my head. They in my head forever.”
― Michael Morpurgo

“Parents who always whisper the word “sex” unintentionally tell their kids, “I don’t want to talk about this. Get your answers elsewhere.”
― Michael Rittenhouse, Sex: What Your Parents Didn’t Tell You

“Our children need to see that faith matters, that it’s relevant to our daily situations, that it’s real.”
― Michelle Anthony

“Our goal as parents should be to endeavor to pass down our faith to the next generation in such a way that they will be able to pass down their faith to the following generation in our absence.”
― Michelle Anthony, Spiritual Parenting: An Awakening for Today’s Families

“Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking.”
― Michelle Anthony, Spiritual Parenting: An Awakening for Today’s Families

“When we start to realize how amazing God’s story is, a question naturally arises: “Who am I that I should get to be a part of the greatest story ever told?”
― Michelle Anthony, Spiritual Parenting: An Awakening for Today’s Families

“Out of all the things I do, I think being a mom is the most important and satisfying.”
― Michelle M. Pillow

“Responsible parenting is NOT a crime. Responsible parenting is most valuable tool of our society.”
― Mick Karabegovic

“For most of the things children do, parents are responsible. A good seed, noble thoughts and upbringing deeds can determine the character and personality feeds of our children. The amount of money we spend on them is not funny, to please them that’s ain’t the way honey! Give them your time to make their life sublime. Children are soft clay, mould them the appropriate way. Let your children’s life not be compromised, let them blossom in fertile fields to Get Mickeymized.”
― Mickey Mehta

“What we are most passionate about becomes our legacy.”
― Mike Crump

“Jumping, waving arms, cheering, laughing, head-butting him in the groin, an unfortunate ritual in the Tanner home, very much unappreciated by Jim, but tolerated for the sake of the children, Grace, Bobby and Steven joined Jason next to their father.”
― Mike Jackson, Door Knob to Broken Leg

“Pendidikan pada diri seorang anak sesungguhnya dimulai jauh sebelum anak tersebut memiliki tubuh dan kesadaran manusiawinya”
― Miranda Risang Ayu, Cahaya Rumah Kita: Renungan Batin Seorang Ibu Muda Tentang Anak, Wanita, Dan Keluarga

“Peran seorang ibu juga adalah perang dengan dirinya sendiri agar selalu menyediakan ekstra pengertian bagi anaknya”
― Miranda Risang Ayu, Cahaya Rumah Kita: Renungan Batin Seorang Ibu Muda Tentang Anak, Wanita, Dan Keluarga

“Sometimes, kids want you to hurt the way they hurt.”
― Mitch Albom

“You don’t need to be primary caregiver of your children to be of primary influence in their lives. What you do for them behind the scenes in your own unique way is what makes the true difference in the long run.”
― Miya Yamanouchi

“Exactly what are you wanting to teach your children? -How to love and care for themselves, or how to neglect and abandon themselves? Self-sacrifice is NOT setting a good example.”
― Miya Yamanouchi, Embrace Your Sexual Self: A Practical Guide for Women

“Too many times I’d left him reaching for me, from a babysitter’s arms. “Am I still a mother?” I asked myself… What parts of the day could I cut out and still give him enough? Paul never asked himself that. He thought he was a great dad.”
― Mona Simpson, My Hollywood

“I had a friend whose family had dinner together every day. The mother would tuck you in at night and make breakfast in the morning. It just seemed so amazing to me.”
― Moon Unit Zappa

“It’s time to undo Rahim.”
― Nadia Hashimi, The Pearl that Broke Its Shell

“Children are God’s way of saving us. They give us a second chance at getting it right.”
― Nancy Arroyo Ruffin, Letters to My Daughter: A Collection of Short Stories and Poems about Love, Pride, and Identity

“Ask any child who failed to live up to his parents’ idea of success, and you’ll likely hear that they never felt good enough, or that their parents had expectations that they could not live up to.”
― Nancy Rose, Raise the Child You’ve Got—Not the One You Want

“Make no mistake, every child has his own light, no matter how difficult or defiant or unlikeable he or she might seem.”
― Nancy Rose, Raise the Child You’ve Got—Not the One You Want

“We could adopt. there are lots of kids out there who could grow up to hate us as much as any kid we could make”
― Natalie Corbett Sampson, Game Plan

“For Parents: Never blame or scold a child for their first mistake after all family is the first school from where a child learns.”
― Neeraj Bhanot

“You rock a sobbing child without wondering if today’s world is passing you by, because you know you hold tomorrow in your arms.”
― Neil A. Maxwell

“Of course, everyone’s parents are embarrassing. It goes with the territory. The nature of parents is to embarrass merely by existing, just as it is the nature of children of a certain age to cringe with embarrassment, shame, and mortification should their parents so much as speak to them on the street. ”
― Neil Gaiman, Anansi Boys

“If you, as a parent, raise your children well, they won’t need you anymore. If you did it properly, they go away.”
― Neil Gaiman, The Graveyard Book

“You are almost never cool to your children.”
― Neil Gaiman, The Graveyard Book

“80There is no greater influence in the lives of your children than the words you speak over them. The blessing of the father is incredibly potent and powerful. Your words give your children potential. As their father, you are prophesying their future!”
― Neil Kennedy

“Don’t let truth and grace forsake one another. If you raise your child with only truth (or your laws), they will never live up to your rules or expectations. No one can fulfill all of the law. On the other hand , if you only give grace to your children, they will run wild without restraint.”
― Neil Kennedy, Speaking The Father’s Blessing: 52 Blessings and 365 Promises To Speak Over Your Children

“Never discipline whom you’ve not discipled.”
― Neil Kennedy, Speaking The Father’s Blessing: 52 Blessings and 365 Promises To Speak Over Your Children

“Over time, parents have barnacled the most routine activities in infancy with their own preoccupations. It’s sometimes hard to see the baby for all the barnacles.”
― Nicholas Day, Baby Meets World: Suck, Smile, Touch, Toddle

“It’s impossible to protect your kids against disappointment in life.”
― Nicholas Sparks, Message in a Bottle

“What it’s like to be a parent: It’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do but in exchange it teaches you the meaning of unconditional love.”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Wedding

“Having kids means taking care of them, raising them, loving and supporting them, and none of those things have anything to do with who makes them one night in the bedroom or the experience of being pregnant”
― Nicholas Sparks, True Believer

“Hey, great idea: if you have kids, give your partner reading vouchers next Christmas. Each voucher entitles the bearer to two hours’ reading time *while the kids are awake*. It might look like a cheapskate present, but parents will appreciate that it costs more in real terms than a Lamborghini.”
― Nick Hornby, The Polysyllabic Spree

“Meditation is doing what you are doing – whether you are doing formal meditation or child care.”
― Norman Fischer, Training in Compassion: Zen Teachings on the Practice of Lojong

“Blame or credit, does not belong to the child alone. Parents, those who raised the child, must be given equal credit, or blame. That does not change, when the child is one, twenty or ninety years old.”
― Omar Kiam, Coming to Astoria: An Immigrant’s Tale

“The best way to make children good is to make them happy.”
― Oscar Wilde

“If you are a parent, open doors to unknown directions to the child so he can explore. Don’t make him afraid of the unknown, give him support. ”
― Osho

“If you do not have a close friendship with your children, I will.–Child Molester warning all parents from the book Type 1 Sociopath”
― P.A. Speers, Type 1 Sociopath – When Difficult People Are More Than Just Difficult People

“If you do not have a close friendship with your children, I will.” Child Molester warning all parents from the book Type 1 Sociopath”
― P.A. Speers, Type 1 Sociopath – When Difficult People Are More Than Just Difficult People

“Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them.”
― P.J. O’Rourke

“The French believe that kids feel confident when they’re able to do things for themselves, and do those things well. After children have learned to talk, adults don’t praise them for saying just anything. They praise them for saying interesting things, and for speaking well.”
― Pamela Druckerman, Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting

“[French] Parents see it as their job to bring the child around to appreciating this [food]. They believe that just as they must teach a child how to sleep, how to wait, and how to say bonjour, they must teach her how to eat.”
― Pamela Druckerman, Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting

“As his children, we were treated as some species of migrant workers who happened to be passing through. My father was the only person I ever knew who looked upon childhood as a dishonorable vocation one grew out of as quickly as possible.”
― Pat Conroy, The Prince of Tides

“In every southerner, beneath the veneer of clichés lies a much deeper mother lode of cliché. But even cliché is overlaid with enormous power when a child is involved.”
― Pat Conroy, The Prince of Tides

“Parents in the early half of the twentieth century were primarily concerned with the development of character in their children. They wanted to be certain that their children were ready to cope with adversity, for it was surely coming to them one day whether in personal or national life. The development of character involves self-discipline and often sacrifice of one’s own desires for the good of self and others. Montessori education, developed in this historical period, reflects this emphasis on the formation of the child’s character. However, parents today are more likely to say their primary wish for their children is that they be happy. In pursuit of this goal they indulge their children, often unconsciously, to a degree that is startling to previous generations. All parents need to remember that true happiness comes through having character and discipline, and living a life of meaningful contribution — not by having and doing whatever you wish.”
― Paula Polk Lillard, Montessori from the Start: The Child at Home, from Birth to Age Three

“If your parents are getting older, you must treat them as your own child”
― Pawan Prakash Tirkey

“Don’t leave your elders as Fallen Leaves.”
― Pawan Prakash Tirkey

“Everyone over 50 in America feels like a refugee. In the Old America there were a lot of bad parents. There always are, because parenting is hard. Inadequate parents could say, ‘Go outside and play in the culture,’ and the culture — relatively innocent, and boring — could be more or less trusted to bring the kids up. Grownups now know that you can’t send the kids out to play in the culture, because the culture will leave them distorted and disturbed.”
― Peggy Noonan

“Don’t stand unmoving outside the door of a crying baby whose only desire is to touch you. Go to your baby. Go to your baby a million times. Demonstrate that people can be trusted, that the environment can be trusted, that we live in a benign universe.”
― Peggy O’Mara

“You can say the same thing nicely.”
― PeggySue Wells

“The value of marriage is not that adults produce children, but that children produce adults.”
― Peter De Vries

“Parenthood…It’s about guiding the next generation, and forgiving the last.”
― Peter Krause

“Your son is heir to an enormous fortune and name. Someone would be bound to bid for you him and take him as his ward.”
― Philippa Gregory, The Red Queen

“A virtue is a habit that includes all of these things: actions (you take care of your child even when you don’t feel like it), emotions (you are often overtaken by feelings of tenderness and delight), perceptions (you understand your little children better than they understand themselves), choices (you choose to get out of bed and go to the children’s room even when you’d much rather not), and thoughts (you think differently, more thoroughly and carefully, about your children than about anyone else in the world). The habit of love includes all these things, but not necessarily all at the same time.”
― Phillip Cary, Good News for Anxious Christians: Ten Practical Things You Don’t Have to Do

“We spend the first 12 months of our children’s lives teaching them to walk and talk and the next 12 months teaching them to sit down and shut up.”
― Phyllis Diller

“I want my children to have all the things I couldn’t afford. Then I want to move in with them.”
― Phyllis Diller

“Always be nice to your children because they are the ones who will choose your rest home.”
― Phyllis Diller

“Most children threaten at times to run away from home. This is the only thing that keeps some parents going.”
― Phyllis Diller

“No man should bring children into the world who is unwilling to persevere to the end in their nature and education.”
― Plato

“The love, loyalty, and dedication of Mary and Joseph are an example for all Christian couples, who are neither the friends nor masters of their children’s lives, but the guardians of this incomparable gift from God.”
― Pope Benedict XVI

“The health of your future kids does not start with their birth—it starts with you, right now, well before you plan to impregnate your wife.”
― Pratik Patil, Pregnancy and Men

“The greatest investment you can do in your life is in gaining time.”
― Pratik Patil, Pregnancy and Men

“The world is in a mad dash of personal peace and affluence. Sadly, too often the evangelical church is not much different. Of course, we want our children to become Christians. But that is just an addition to the all-consuming goal, that they would attain their own personal peace and affluence.”
― R.C. Sproul Jr., Bound for Glory: God’s Promise for Your Family

“Sebutir benih yang bertunas di bawah kaki pohon induknya tetap berada di situ sampai ia dipindahkan..Setiap manusia, kalau sudah tiba saatnya, harus pergi dan mewujudkan potensi masing-masing dengan caranya sendiri. [Ramayana-Mahabharata, hal. 28]”
― R.K. Narayan

“Parenting is a giant responsibility forever, so we need to learn how to drop the guilt and go easy on ourselves when we mess up.”
― Rachael Bermingham

“Stop using him, and start protecting him. I know he thinks he doesn’t need it, but sometimes he does. Sometimes we all do.”
― Rachel Caine, Ghost Town

“Once upon a time, all children were homeschooled. They were not sent away from home each day to a place just for children but lived, learned, worked, and played in the real world, alongside adults and other children of all ages.”
― Rachel Gathercole, The Well-Adjusted Child: The Social Benefits of Homeschooling

“On a certain level, homeschooling is all about socialization. Whatever the teaching methods used in school or homeschool, it is ultimately the social environment itself that distinguishes homeschooling from conventional school. This social environment includes the nature and quantity of peer interaction; parental proximity; solitude; relationships with adults, siblings, older children, younger children, and the larger community; the ways in which the children are disciplined and by whom; and even the student-teacher ratio and the overall environment where the children spend their time.”
― Rachel Gathercole, The Well-Adjusted Child: The Social Benefits of Homeschooling

“We tend to take whatever’s worked in our particular set of circumstances (big family, small family, AP, Ezzo, home school, public school) and project that upon everyone else in the world as the ideal.”
― Rachel Held Evans, A Year of Biblical Womanhood

“The word on the street was that I had two options when it came to caring for my future baby: I could either eat, sleep, drink, bathe, walk, and work with my baby permanently affixed to my body until the two of us meld into one, or I could leave my baby out naked on a cold millstone to cry, refusing to hold or feed her until the schedule allowed. Apparently, there was no in between.”
― Rachel Held Evans, A Year of Biblical Womanhood

“To quote the exceptional teacher Marva Collins, “I will is more important than IQ.” It is wonderful to have a terrific mind, but it’s been my experience that having outstanding intelligence is a very small part of the total package that leads to success and happiness. Discipline, hard work, perserverance, and generosity of spirit are, in the final analysis, far more important.”
― Rafe Esquith, There Are No Shortcuts

“A successful father is not more successful than his children.”
― Raheel Farooq

“Kids took a fathomless amount of time and energy…And they took it first. They had right of first refusal on everything you had to offer. p220”
― Rainbow Rowell, Landline

“Journal writing is a wonderful pathway to self-awareness.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“What we sometimes see as annoying, incessant questions from a child may be a plea for recognition. Maybe they do not need an answer as much as attention.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“We usually need to have pain, trial or challenge to be motivated to learn or change. Learning in the midst of ease and prosperity comes from the pure inner soul’s inspired desire for improvement.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“As we mature and develop awareness to match our potential, our ability to enjoy full health is realized. As we enjoy this fruit, we sow the seeds of greatness in our children.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“Among the most sacred gifts you can give your child is the gift of health. This gift is best given by example.” Dr. Rand Olson”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“Health is the ability to be fully and consciously aware of all that contributes to your life experience and to effectively exist in that environment. It then means you see yourself as you really are.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“Health is not a physical accomplishment but the manifestation of our awareness of who we are and integrity in living out of that knowledge.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“More of anything only makes us more of what we already are. If we are happy, it can bring more happiness. If we are depressed, it will make us more depressed.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“If we focus our efforts on doing, we will always fall short of our real potential. We can do all the right things, but if we do not do them for the right reasons, they will never have the power to change our internal view of life.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“Your children will stop paying attention to you when they have reached your age of emotional maturity. If your child is starting to tune you out, you need to go through a growth spurt of emotional and spiritual maturity. You can never chase a child to a higher awareness; you can only lead them.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“Expect to change yourself in order to change your life experience.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“We seem to need the motivation of pain or discomfort to drive us from our current manner of thinking and being to a higher level of reality.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“We seem to take notice of our body only when health is lacking. With that lack of recognition comes a lack of motivation and incentive to stretch.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“We rarely improve our habits and traits while floating on the placid pool of ease and comfort.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“To enjoy true, vibrant health, increased awareness, effort, and focus are required.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“Medication, surgery, and medical tests are all focused on disease, not on health. Prevention is the act of moving away from the disease. Proactivity in health is seeking a high level of wellness and acting in a way that will create that reality in your life.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“Journal writing is a wonderful pathway to self-awareness.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“What we sometimes see as annoying, incessant questions from a child may be a plea for recognition. Maybe they do not need an answer as much as attention.”
― Rand Olson, Children of Promise: The Ultimate Guide to Raising Healthy Kids

“Father to teenage son: “My relationship with you is more important than anything I’ve got to say to you.”
― Randy Alcorn, Courageous

“If we can keep ourselves from interfering with the natural laws of life, mistakes can be our child’s finest teachers.”
― Randy Alcorn, Money, Possessions and Eternity

“Anybody out there who is a parent, if your kids want to paint their bedrooms,as a favor to me, let them do it. It’ll be OK.”
― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

“There’s a lot of talk these days about giving children self-esteem. It’s not something you can give; it’s something they have to build.”
― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

“Having children is like living in a frat house – nobody sleeps, everything’s broken, and there’s a lot of throwing up.”
― Ray Romano

“A parent’s words maybe a little harsh and painful, but it will be their annoying redundant words of love and care that will mold us into a better person.”
― Rea Erika Paraz Ebate

“When you’ve had one call after another and your little one is tugging on your shirt, remember what really matters. When the milk is splattered all over the floor and those little eyes are looking at you for your reaction, remember what really matters. It takes 5 minutes to clean up spilled milk; it takes much longer to clean up a broken spirit.”
― Rebecca Eanes, The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting

“So often, children are punished for being human. Children are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes, yet we adults have them all the time! We think if we don’t nip it in the bud, it will escalate and we will lose control. Let go of that unfounded fear and give your child permission to be human. We all have days like that. None of us are perfect, and we must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection than we can attain ourselves. All of the punishments you could throw at them will not stamp out their humanity, for to err is human, and we all do it sometimes.”
― Rebecca Eanes, The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting

“In between every action and reaction, there is a space. Usually the space is extremely small because we react so quickly, but take notice of that space and expand it. Be aware in that space that you have a choice to make. You can choose how to respond, and choose wisely, because the next step you take will teach your child how to handle anger and could either strengthen or damage your relationship.”
― Rebecca Eanes, The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting

“Children, who have so much to learn in so short a time, had involved the tendency to trust adults to instruct them in the collective knowledge of our species, and this trust confers survival value. But it also makes children vulnerable to being tricked and adults who exploit this vulnerability should be deeply ashamed.”
― Rebecca Goldstein, Plato at the Googleplex: Why Philosophy Won’t Go Away

“As Plato: What is play and delightful one kind of child is coercion and torture for another, and will not take no matter how much coercion is applied.”
― Rebecca Goldstein, Plato at the Googleplex: Why Philosophy Won’t Go Away

“From the time they hit middle school, they start moving away from home. They are not doing anything wrong; it’s just the way they are made. They are becoming independent, and they begin redefining themselves through the eyes other people who are not in their immediate family. The older they get, the more important it is to have other voices in their lies saying the same things but in a different way. ”
― Reggie Joiner, The Think Orange: Imagine the Impact When Church and Family Collide…

“Resolution, like responsibility, is a product of ownership, and kids can’t resolve a conflict until they figure out how they contributed to it.”
― Richard Eyre, The Entitlement Trap: How to Rescue Your Child with a New Family System of Choosing, Earning, and Ownership

“An environment-based education movement–at all levels of education–will help students realize that school isn’t supposed to be a polite form of incarceration, but a portal to the wider world.”
― Richard Louv, Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder

“The woods were my Ritalin. Nature calmed me, focused me, and yet excited my senses.”
― Richard Louv, Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder

“We have such a brief opportunity to pass on to our children our love for this Earth, and to tell our stories. These are the moments when the world is made whole. In my children’s memories, the adventures we’ve had together in nature will always exist.”
― Richard Louv, Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder

“Dance. Dance for the joy and breath of childhood. Dance for all children, including that child who is still somewhere entombed beneath the responsibility and skepticism of adulthood. Embrace the moment before it escapes from our grasp. For the only promise of childhood, of any childhood, is that it will someday end. And in the end, we must ask ourselves what we have given our children to take its place. And is it enough?”
― Richard Paul Evans, The Christmas Box Miracle: My Spiritual Journey of Destiny, Healing and Hope

“Rocco was gripped with the panic he often experienced around her, around himself. He seemed to be both here now and simultaneously five years in the future looking back at this moment, at the loss of this moment. He was always sliding past the newness of being with her, throwing himself at her like a cranked-up insincere clown for an exhausting fifteen minutes a day or getting cozy with booze in order to achieve the proper mood, and from the time she was born he had felt he was on his deathbed, remembering with regret how skittish and slippery his time with her had been. Had been, as if she were a hard thirty-seven and divorced instead of a two-year old baby, as if he were eighty-six and senile instead of forty-three and slightly overweight.”
― Richard Price, Clockers

“It’s not an easy time for any parent, this moment when the realization dawns that you’ve given birth to something that will never see things the way you do, despite the fact that it is your living legacy, that it bears your name.”
― Richard Russo, Straight Man

“The greatest lessons I learned from my father didn’t come from lectures or discipline or even time spent together. What has stuck with me is his example. From watching, I chose whether to be or not to be like him.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Smile Anyway: Quotes, Verse, & Grumblings for Every Day of the Year

“Our greatest duty to our children is to love them first. Secondly, it is to teach them. Not to frighten, force, or intimidate our children into submission, but to effectively teach them so that they have the knowledge and tools to govern themselves.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Smile Anyway: Quotes, Verse, & Grumblings for Every Day of the Year

“Sadie,” he said forlornly, “when you become a parent, you may understand this. One of my hardest jobs as a father, one of my greatest duties, was to realize that my own dreams, my own goals and wishes, are secondary to my children’s.”
― Rick Riordan, The Red Pyramid

“The best gift you can give to your kids is a happy marriage.”
― Ricky Shetty

“A stodgy parent is no fun at all. What a child wants and deserves is a parent who is SPARKY”
― Roald Dahl, Danny the Champion of the World

“Being a mother is an attitude, not a biological relation.”
― Robert A. Heinlein, Have Space Suit—Will Travel

“We are born, we grow up, we live our lives as best we can. If we are thoughtful we are good parents and good partners. If we are wise we strive for integrity and intimacy. If we are fortunate we discover love and joy. If we are able, we make the world a little better than we found it. That is all there is for any of us.”
― Robert B. Reich

“You love your child for who the child is, not as an extension of your identity or as an example of your good parenting or even as a companion.”
― Robert Fritz, Path of Least Resistance: Learning to Become the Creative Force in Your Own Life

“You love your child for who the child is, not as an extension of your identity or as an example of your good parenting or even as a companion.”
― Robert Fritz, Path of Least Resistance: Learning to Become the Creative Force in Your Own Life

“I do not believe in the government of the lash, if any one of you ever expects to whip your children again, I want you to have a photograph taken of yourself when you are in the act, with your face red with vulgar anger, and the face of the little child, with eyes swimming in tears and the little chin dimpled with fear, like a piece of water struck by a sudden cold wind. Have the picture taken. If that little child should die, I cannot think of a sweeter way to spend an autumn afternoon than to go out to the cemetery, when the maples are clad in tender gold, and little scarlet runners are coming, like poems of regret, from the sad heart of the earth—and sit down upon the grave and look at that photograph, and think of the flesh now dust that you beat. I tell you it is wrong; it is no way to raise children! Make your home happy. Be honest with them. Divide fairly with them in everything.”
― Robert G. Ingersoll, The Liberty of Man, Woman and Child

“But I think parents aren’t teachers anymore. Parents — or a whole lot of us, at least — lead by mouth instead of by example. It seems to me that if a child’s hero is their mother or father — or even better, both of them in tandem — then the rough road of learning and experience is going to be smoothed some. And every little bit of smoothing helps, in this rough old world that wants children to be miniature adults, devoid of charm and magic and the beauty of innocence.”
― Robert McCammon

“When you get born your father and mother lost something out of themselves, and they are going to bust a ham trying to get it back, and you are it. They know they can’t get it all back but they will get as big a chunk out of you as they can.”
― Robert Penn Warren, All the King’s Men

“The offspring cannot rely on its parents for disinterested guidance. One expects the offspring to be preprogrammed to resist some parental manipulation while being open to other forms. When the parent imposes an arbitrary system of reinforcement (punishment and reward) in order to manipulate the offspring to act against its own best interests, selection will favor offspring that resist such schedules of reinforcement.”
― Robert Trivers, Social Evolution

“How often does a man know, without question, that he has done well? I do not think it happens often in anyone’s life, and it becomes even rarer once one has a child.”
― Robin Hobb, Fool’s Assassin

“What a kid I got, I told him about the birds and the bees and he told me about the butcher and my wife.”
― Rodney Dangerfield

“Listening to our kids with an open heart & mind is the strongest way to build a relationship with them – especially when they’re wrong.”
― Roma Khetarpal

“We can easily teach our kids hot to be kind, compassionate and respectful when we are kind, compassionate and respectful to them.”
― Roma Khetarpal, The “Perfect” Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids

“If you’re using most of your energy to do stuff for your kids, then you’ll have that much less energy to just be there for them.”
― Roma Khetarpal, The “Perfect” Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids

“Kids will remember less what we did for them and more how we spoke and reacted to them.”
― Roma Khetarpal, The “Perfect” Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids

“The soul mate we marry can become an “ex,” but the soul mates we have in our children will be ours forever, until the end of our life.”
― Roma Khetarpal, The “Perfect” Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids

“We honor our kids most when, while we guide or discipline them, we give them this gift of unconditional love by accepting them and respecting them for who they are, first and foremost.”
― Roma Khetarpal, The “Perfect” Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids

We are our own children’s “perfect” parents, and within us lie all the simple, yet profound qualities of inner perfection.”
― Roma Khetarpal, The “Perfect” Parent: 5 Tools for Using Your Inner Perfection to Connect with Your Kids

“I figure when my husband comes home from work, if the kids are still alive, then I’ve done my job.”
― Roseanne Barr

“The children who need love the most will always ask for it in the most unloving ways”
― Russel Barkley

“Don’t try to make children grow up to be like you, or they may do it.”
― Russell Baker

“The root of impatience in discipline is really the same as that of overindulgence. In both instances, parents want to make up for lost time, to speed up a process that takes time.”
― Russell Moore, Adopted for Life: The Priority of Adoption for Christian Families and Churches

“A Christian understanding of the world sees a child’s character not as genetically determined but as shaped to a significant degree by parental discipleship and discipline.”
― Russell Moore, Adopted for Life: The Priority of Adoption for Christian Families and Churches

“The reason any person yaks excessively is because his communication is not being adequately acknowledged. He just keeps trying to be heard.”
― Ruth Minshull, Miracles for Breakfast: A Startling New Approach to Raising Children

“What is success, after all, but doing what you really want to do?”
― Ruth Minshull, Miracles for Breakfast: A Startling New Approach to Raising Children

“Keeping secrets from your father will only lead to trouble.”
― S.R. Ford, Mimgardr

“A challenging career suddenly seemed more productive to me because I could measure the results of my work. These precious little ones had endless needs. They were busy little sinful creatures who demanded all of my body, time, life, emotions, and attention! As much as I loved my children, I often felt like a failure. Surely someone else could do a better job with these precious ones than I. And what exactly was I supposed to be accomplishing anyway? Was I wasting my time? What had this husband, who professed to love me, done to me?”
― Sally Clarkson, The Mission of Motherhood: Touching Your Child’s Heart for Eternity

“Since taking are of one small baby is the hardest job on earth, I am constantly late, as I am today.”
― Sally Koslow, The Widow Waltz

“Love, my child, is a thing that every mother learns; it is not born with a baby, but made; and for eleven years, I have learned to love you as my son.”
― Salman Rushdie, Midnight’s Children

“I wasn’t anything special as a father. But I loved them and they knew it.”
― Sammy Davis Jr.

“I also saw that theologically speaking the whole idea of a smacking is not congruent with the teaching revealed in the gospel of Jesus Christ. God sent His Son into the world to save the world so they would not have to suffer for their own sins, but parents today punish their children and make them undergo the horrors of punishment for even the most minor of infractions. The idea of mercy is seemingly not applied at all. When parents’ sin, they ask God to forgive them, repent and know they are forgiven. When children sin, they are judged, tried, condemned and punished.”
― Samuel Martin, Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me: Christians and the Spanking Controversy

“We try to bring up our children so that they are protected from the world’s evils, only to find we’ve raised a pack of innocents who seem to be about to stumble into them at every turn just from sheer stupidity!”
― Samuel R. Delany, Tales of Nevèrÿon

“Yes it’s true, you wake the child inside of you up because you’re a Mom!”
― Sandra Chami Kassis

“I’m beginning to perceive motherhood as a long, slow letting go, of which birth is just the first step.”
― Sandra Steingraber, Having Faith

“Imperfect parenting does not cause addiction. If that were so, everyone would be one.”
― Sandy Swenson, The Joey Song: A Mother’s Story of Her Son’s Addiction

“I don’t understand why some kids get a good school and mother and father and some don’t. But Rita say forget the WHY ME shit and get on to what’s next.”
― Sapphire

“I hated the flashcards and I hated the multiplication tables, but I did enjoy the fact that my dad took time out of his schedule to help me in the areas in which I needed it.”
― Sara Dormon, So You Want to Adopt…Now What?: A Practical Guide for Navigating the Adoption Process

“I had uncovered a widely held but overlooked attachment: our attachment to the view that every problem must have a solution. We delude ourselves that we can think our way out of a problem or we see it as a matter of finding the right person to advise us. We become beggars for our problems, asking numerous people for an opinion. So often, we refuse to relax until a problem is fixed, only to discover our inability to relax was most of the problem.”
― Sarah Napthali, Buddhism for Mothers of Young Children: Becoming a Mindful Parent

“The biggest test for parents is not how they parent, but how the respond to disorder and unpredictability.”
― Sarah Newton

“All those adorable towheaded kids in the promotional film are going to turn thirteen. Once a family member hits puberty, odds are that everybody is not going to have the same ideals. Unless everybody gets together and agrees that the new ideals involve turning the front yard into a skate ramp and officially changing Dad’s name to Fuckhead.”
― Sarah Vowell, Take the Cannoli

“Be sure to lie to your kids about the benevolent, all-seeing Santa Claus. It will prepare them for an adulthood of believing in God.”
― Scott Dikkers, You Are Worthless: Depressing Nuggets of Wisdom Sure to Ruin Your Day

“Fifteen-year-old girls produce children with sixteen-year-old boys in the backseat of cars and in the stairwells of apartment buildings. Why can’t two loving adults who have contemplated parenthood and are prepared to offer love, patience, and devotion come up with enough chromosomal matter to stick together and create a child?”
― Scott Simon, Baby, We Were Meant for Each Other: In Praise of Adoption

“He welcomes the chance to do fatherly things with the little girl, and those ten morning minutes with dear little four-year-old Ruby, with her deep soulful eyes, and the wondrous things she sees with them, and her deep soulful voice, and the precious though not entirely memorable things she says with it, and the smell of baby shampoo and breakfast cereal filling the car, that little shimmering capsule of time is like listening to cello music in the morning, or watching birds in a flutter of industry building a nest, it simply reminds you that even if God is dead, or never existed in the first place, there is, nevertheless, something tender at the center of creation, some meaning, some purpose and poetry.”
― Scott Spencer, A Ship Made Of Paper

“If something happened to Gillian, I’d rip the world down to save her, even if she spat in my face when I did. That’s what parenthood means.”
― Seanan McGuire, One Salt Sea

“It was an earthquake, tearing at the sons of America, trying to swallow them up. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful sons, that women had reared, had kissed and screamed at, and that fathers had stared intently in their cots, to see themselves in the wondrous mirrors of their babies.”
― Sebastian Barry

“When a person is punished for their honesty they begin to learn to lie.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The battle you are going through is not fueled by the words or actions of others; it is fueled by the mind that gives it importance.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“So many people think that they are not gifted because they don’t have an obvious talent that people can recognize because it doesn’t fall under the creative arts category—writing, dancing, music, acting, art or singing. Sadly, they let their real talents go undeveloped, while they chase after fame. I am grateful for the people with obscure unremarked talents because they make our lives easier—inventors, organizers, planners, peacemakers, communicators, activists, scientists, and so forth. However, there is one gift that trumps all other talents—being an excellent parent. If you can successfully raise a child in this day in age to have integrity then you have left a legacy that future generations will benefit from.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Your love life is insignificant when it comes to raising your children to be respectable human beings. The moment you see them suffer or lower their standards because of your selfishness, is the day you should realize that nothing matters more than them. You are not just the queen or king of your fairy tale. The real story of your life is the gift of time God gave you with them.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The greatest heroes in life are those that never give up on someone. They stick it out and make it work. They sacrifice things in their life, in order to help others grow. They give up what they want because someone needs it more. They work hard and overcome adversity. They fail for a moment, but get back up on their feet to show others they don’t have to stay down. They show their loved ones that love is not “proved” by conformity. They teach others that having a voice is a sign of courage, and they will not stay silent to make people feel comfortable. They are fearless and will do whatever it takes to bring about the greatness in the ones they love because doing so brings them peace. Their name is—MOM.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Why do women waste their time trying to convince their insecure family members and girlfriends that they are beautiful? Self-esteem is not a beauty cream that you can rub all over them and see instant results. Instead, convince them they are not stupid. Every intelligent woman knows outward beauty is a nip, tuck, chemical peel or diet away. If you don’t like it, fix it.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“It is not what you leave to your children that matters, but what you leave in them.”
― Shannon L. Alder, 300 Questions to Ask Your Parents Before It’s Too Late

“All parents set out with expectations, hopes and dreams for their child. When a child is diagnosed with a health problem, these aspirations are altered. While one parent is hoping to see their child graduate from university, another is praying that they can live pain free”
― Sharon Dempsey, Extreme Parenting: Parenting Your Child with a Chronic Illness

“The most insidious of the premature responsibilities that may be foisted onto some children is the expectation that the child is somehow supposed to take care of his parents, rather than the other way around. Parents who were themselves raised with too little attention given to their own early feelings, if they have not worked out the resulting emotional problems in subsequent years, often look forward to having children of their own so that the children will make them happy. (81)”
― Sheldon B. Kopp, If You Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him: The Pilgrimage Of Psychotherapy Patients

“I believe one of the most sacrificial acts of love adoptive parents can do is to give up their preconceptions and agendas about what their child’s views “should” be and be open to hear the conflicting emotions and thoughts their child often experiences.”
― Sherrie Eldridge, Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew

“When woman work outside the home and share breadwinning duties, couples are more likely to stay together. In fact, the risk of divorce reduces by about half when a wife earns half the income and a husband does half the housework.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

“Why did they have kids then? Why did they have children if they didn’t want to love and nurture them? Weren’t you supposed to cherish every moment you got with your kids? The wives sounded like the only reason to have children was to fulfill some ridiculous social contract that apparently was co- signed when we signed away our single status. If all you wanted to do was to get on with your life, while the hired help took care of bringing up your child, why have one? There was a simpler option. Just don’t have them. There were enough unwanted children in the world already.”
― Shweta Ganesh Kumar, A Newlywed’s Adventures in Married Land

“Parents who discipline their child by discussing the consequences of their actions produce children who have better moral development , compared to children whose parents use authoritarian methods and punishment.”
― Simon Baron-Cohen, Zero Degrees of Empathy: A New Theory of Human Cruelty

“Imagine a man who doesn’t believe in anything, hope for anything, doesn’t love anyone. This is a description of a dead or paralyzed soul. This happens from great grief, or from an unhappy upbringing when parents make from their children’s souls paralytics.”
― Simon Soloveychik

“Babbit was an average father. He was affectionate, bullying, opinionated, ignorant, and rather wistful. Like most parents he enjoyed the game of waiting till the victim was clearly wrong, then virtuously pouncing.”
― Sinclair Lewis

“I’ve always believed phone calls from kids must be allowed if mothers are to feel welcome in the workplace, as anyone who has worked in my chambers can attest.”
― Sonia Sotomayor, My Beloved World

“A dam doesn’t try to reason with the water. Its main purpose is to hold it still for a while. When I lecture my kids I’m doing much the same thing. I’m not trying to necessarily reason with them, just hold them still for a short while.”
― Spuds Crawford

“As a young father it’s important to remember that, when you’re at the beach, there’s a BIG difference between telling your five year old son to just go pee in the ocean and telling him to get in the water at least waist deep and then pee in the ocean.”
― Spuds Crawford

“Science and discovery, especially in the field of non-abnormal pediatric mysteries, is built on the work of those who have been sneezed on before us. Causation and rationale may someday be reached, but until then it is the heartwarming and parental nature of the journey that drives us on; well, that and a fresh box of Kleenex.”
― Spuds Crawford

“When we pour out our miseries, He hears a melody of us needing and desiring what only He can give.”
― Stacey Thacker, Hope For The Weary Mom

“If the sound of happy children is grating on your ears, I don’t think it’s the children who need to be adjusted.”
― Stefan Molyneux

“If you want kids, choose your girlfriend like your future child has the deciding vote.”
― Stefan Molyneux

“We raise predators by treating children as prey.”
― Stefan Molyneux

“The degree to which the psychiatric community is complicit with abusive parents in drugging non-compliant children is a war crime across the generations, and there will be a Nuremberg at some point in the future”
― Stefan Molyneux

“Applying parents values back to them allot of the time is like trying to pay back a guy who is a counterfeiter with his own counterfeit bills. “No, you’re supposed to think this is real money. I know it’s not. I’m only pretending this is real money to get away with something. I don’t actually want to receive it because I know it’s fake money.”
― Stefan Molyneux

“It’s so easy and convenient to buy our children gifts, but I encourage and challenge you to give them gifts that TRULY matter! The gift of unconditional love. The gift of encouragement. The gift of support. The gift of friendship. The gift of communication, understanding, and patience. The gift of guidance and support. The gift of quality time. And the gift of loving them for who THEY are. Material things are nice, but NOTHING compares to genuine love! Parenting should be taking seriously.”
― Stephanie Lahart

“I think that if I ever have kids, and they are upset, I won’t tell them that people are starving in China or anything like that because it won’t change the fact that they are upset.”
― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

“A father has to be a provider, a teacher, a role model, but most importantly, a distant authority figure who can never be pleased. Otherwise, how will children ever understand the concept of God?”
― Stephen Colbert, I Am America

“You can’t spell “parentry” without “try.” Of course, you’ll make a few mistakes. The important thing is that the mistakes you make with your kids are the same ones your parents made with you. At least you know how those turn out.”
― Stephen Colbert, I Am America

“I gave you life. You’re wasting it.”
― Stephenie Meyer

“Of course our most important role as a parent is to have our children know that they are loved and worthy. Even more importantly, it’s to help them discover, and fan the flames of whatever it is that they are enthusiastic about!”
― Steve Karagiannis

“But a mountain of recent evidence suggests that teacher skill has less influence on a student’s performance than a completely different set of factors: namely, how much kids have learned from their parents, how hard they work at home, and whether the parents have instilled an appetite for education.”
― Steven D. Levitt, Think Like a Freak

“Pray that your children will develop a heart that seeks after God.”
― Stormie Omartian, The Power of a Praying Parent

“Children who have faith have distinctly different characteristics from those who don’t. In fact, one of the main manifestations of a person with strong faith is the ability to give—not just in terms of money or possessions, but also time, love, and encouragement.”
― Stormie Omartian, The Power of a Praying Parent

“If we, as mothers, are not careful we can begin to find our identity in our children and their behavior”
― Sue Detweiler, 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with Gods Best

blockquote>“Ask your child for information in a gentle, nonjudgmental way, with specific, clear questions. Instead of “How was your day?” try “What did you do in math class today?” Instead of “Do you like your teacher?” ask “What do you like about your teacher?” Or “What do you not like so much?” Let her take her time to answer. Try to avoid asking, in the overly bright voice of parents everywhere, “Did you have fun in school today?!” She’ll sense how important it is that the answer be yes.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

“The recent spate of magazines for “parents” (i.e., mothers) bombard the anxiety-induced mothers of America with reassurances that they can (after a $100,000 raise and a personality transplant) produce bright, motivated, focused, fun-loving, sensitive, cooperative, confident, contented kids just like the clean, obedient ones on the cover. ”
― Susan Douglas, The Mommy Myth: The Idealization of Motherhood and How It Has Undermined All Women

“Intensive mothering is the ultimate female Olympics: We are all in powerful competition with each other, in constant danger of being trumped by the mom down the street, or in the magazine we’re reading. The competition isn’t just over who’s a good mother–it’s over who’s the best. We compete with each other; we compete with ourselves. The best mothers always put their kids’ needs before their own, period. The best mothers are the main caregivers. For the best mothers, their kids are the center of the universe. The best mothers always smile. They always understand. They are never tired. They never lose their temper. They never say, “Go to the neighbor’s house and play while Mommy has a beer.” Their love for their children is boundless, unflagging, flawless, total. Mothers today cannot just respond to their kids’ needs, they must predict them–and with the telepathic accuracy of Houdini. They must memorize verbatim the books of all the child-care experts and know which approaches are developmentally appropriate at different ages. They are supposed to treat their two-year-olds with “respect.” If mothers screw up and fail to do this on any given day, they should apologize to their kids, because any misstep leads to permanent psychological and/or physical damage. Anyone who questions whether this is the best and the necessary way to raise kids is an insensitive, ignorant brute. This is just common sense, right?”
― Susan J. Douglas

“There can be no fooling ourselves into thinking this is something other than what it is—the willful ejection of Molly from our nest. It’s too late for second thoughts, anyway. She has to be moved into her dorm in time for freshman orientation. It’s been marked on the kitchen calendar for weeks—the expiration date on her childhood.”
― Susan Wiggs, The Goodbye Quilt

“The Creator favors the man who LOVES over the man who HATES. If you teach hatred to your children, one day your child will have that hatred reflected back onto them and onto YOU.”
― Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem

“Give the child a taste of meditation by creating a climate and atmosphere of love, acceptance and silence.”
― Swami Dhyan Giten

“The most precious gift that you can give to the child is unconditional love and acceptance, which allows the child to discover his own inner being, his authentic self, his freedom to be himself.”
― Swami Dhyan Giten

“The mother is the child’s first relationship, his whole world, his existence. If there is love in the relationship between the child and the mother, the child learns to trust himself, to trust others and to trust life. If there is no love in the relationship between the mother and the child, the child learns to distrust himself, to distrust others and to distrust life.”
― Swami Dhyan Giten

“And the end of this paradox is that only when the child is thus free can he have the proper attachment to his parents; only when we allow his independence can he then freely offer us love and respect, without conflict and without resentment. It is the hardest lesson to learn that the goal of parenthood is not to reign forever but to abdicate gracefully at the right time.”
― Sydney J. Harris, Best of Sydney Harris

“Genuine love for a child, it seems to me, must include a desire for his maturity and ultimately his independence. Watching a personality unfold is perhaps the deepest pleasure of parenthood; wishing, or trying, to retard this growth is one of the deepest sins.”
― Sydney J. Harris, Best of Sydney Harris

“And most of the failures in parent-child relationships, from my observation, begin when the child begins to acquire a mind and a will of its own, to make independent decisions and to question the omnipotence or the wisdom of the parent.”
― Sydney J. Harris, The Best of Sydney J. Harris

“Maggie had learned a long time ago that each day with a child was filled with two kinds of battles: those that won the war, and those that did not.”
― Sydney Strand, Bad Mom Rents a Man: Mother’s Day

“Leadership is giving out far more than one expects in direct return. The rewards are intangible, yet priceless.”
― T Jay Taylor

“Scorned and torn, former love mates aim and shoot childish devastating daggers that penetrate beyond target to pierce the heart of their offspring.”
― T.F. Hodge, From Within I Rise: Spiritual Triumph Over Death and Conscious Encounters with “The Divine Presence”

“By exchanging quality time for ‘turn-up’ times, what many of today’s wayward youngsters have become – men and women of the village have failed them.”
― T.F. Hodge, From Within I Rise: Spiritual Triumph Over Death and Conscious Encounters with “The Divine Presence”

“It’s not enough, and so limiting, to teach the simplistic value of a designer’s material wear. Give children the gift of values that will last far beyond [a] fad’s temporal popularity.”
― T.F. Hodge, From Within I Rise: Spiritual Triumph Over Death and Conscious Encounters with “The Divine Presence”

“Successful teaching is not head-to-head; it is heart-to-heart.”
― Tamara L. Chilver

“Raising a child is a time of RAPID CHANGE! From the ages of 0 to 19, a PARENT can age over 30 years!”
― Tanya Masse

“PARENTHOOD is journey of being driven to the BRINK of INSANITY and BACK…Like a YO YO!!”
― Tanya Masse, Stripping Away the Insanity of Life & Parenthood!

“As a parent, you have authority because God calls you to be an authority in your child’s life. You have the authority to act on behalf of God. As a father or mother, you do not exercise rule over your jurisdiction, but over God’s. You act at his command. You discharge a duty that he has given. You may not try to shape the lives of your children as pleases you, but as pleases him. All you do in your task as parents must be done from this point of view. You must undertake all your instruction, your care and nurture, your correction and discipline, because God has called you to. … If you are God’s agent in this task of providing essential training and instruction of the Lord, then you, too, are a person under authority. You and your child are in the same boat. You are both under God’s authority. You have different roles, but the same Master.”
― Tedd Tripp

“… Genesis 18 calls fathers to direct their children to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just. Being a parent means working in God’s behalf to provide direction for your children. Directors are in charge. It involves knowing and helping them to understand God’s standard for children’s behavior. It means teaching them that they are sinners by nature. It includes pointing them to the mercy and grace of God shown in Christ’s life and death for sinners.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child’s Heart

“Many parents lack a biblical view of discipline. They tend to think of discipline as revenge – getting even with the children for what they did. Hebrews 12 makes it clear that discipline is not punitive, but corrective. Hebrews 12 calls discipline a word of encouragement that addresses sons. It says discipline is a sign of God’s identification with us as our Father. God disciplines us for our good that we might share in his holiness. It says that while discipline is not pleasant, but painful, it yields a harvest of righteousness and peace. Rather than being something to balance love, it is the deepest expression of love.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child’s Heart

“Would a minute have mattered? No, probably not, although his young son appeared to have a very accurate internal clock. Possibly even 2 minutes would be okay. Three minutes, even. You could go to five minutes, perhaps. But that was just it. If you could go for five minutes, then you’d go to ten, then half an hour, a couple of hours…and not see your son all evening. So that was that. Six o’clock, prompt. Every day. Read to young Sam. No excuses. He’d promised himself that. No excuses. No excuses at all. Once you had a good excuse, you opened the door to bad excuses.”
― Terry Pratchett, Thud!

“Ha! Kids! You have no idea what you put your parents through, either. Wait till you have your own, you’ll see. That’s when you’ll know what it really feels like.” .. “What what feels like?”…”Love,” said Angela.”
― Tess Gerritsen

“Sorting out what’s good and bad is the province of ethics. It is also what keeps priests, pundits, and parents busy. Unfortunately, what keeps children and philosophers busy is asking the priests, pundits and parents, “Why?”
― Thomas Cathcart, Plato and a Platypus Walk Into a Bar: Understanding Philosophy Through Jokes

“Readers who have owned animals will appreciate how difficult it would be to train a dog to play exclusively in his own yard, to fetch his sweater whenever he sees it is raining outside, or to be generous in sharing his dog biscuits with other dogs. Yet these same people would not even question the feasibility of trying to use reward and punishment to teach their children the same behaviors.”
― Thomas Gordon, Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children

“To you who are parents, I say, show love to your children. You know you love them, but make certain they know it as well. They are so precious. Let them know. Call upon our Heavenly Father for help as you care for their needs each day and as you deal with the challenges which inevitably come with parenthood. You need more than your own wisdom in rearing them.”
― Thomas S. Monson

“In the United States today, there is a pervasive tendency to treat children as adults, and adults as children. The options of children are thus steadily expanded, while those of adults are progressively constricted. The result is unruly children and childish adults. ”
― Thomas Stephen Szasz

“Let those parents that desire Holy Children learn to make them possessors of Heaven and Earth betimes; to remove silly objects from before them, to magnify nothing but what is great indeed, and to talk of God to them, and of His works and ways. before they can either speak or go.”
― Thomas Traherne, Centuries Of Meditations

“We’re not mad,” he began, meaning he was. He was always a plural when mad, as though grammatically throwing his lot in with her mother gave him the power of her authority.”
― Thomm Quackenbush, Artificial Gods

“They had perfected their team nagging to a level where they no longer had to confer and felt they would be wasting their talents if they only admonished their own children.”
― Thomm Quackenbush, Danse Macabre (Night’s Dream, #2)

“Read! When your baby is finally down for the night, pick up a juicy book like Eat, Pray, Love or Pride and Prejudice or my personal favorite, Understanding Sleep Disorders: Narcolepsy and Apnea; A Clinical Study. Taking some time to read each night really taught me how to feign narcolepsy when my husband asked me what my “plan” was for taking down the Christmas tree.”
― Tina Fey, Bossypants

“I have one top-notch baby with whom I am in love. It’s a head-over-heels “first love” kind of thing, because I pay for everything and all we do is hold hands.”
― Tina Fey, Bossypants

“You can’t judge your parenting by the choices of your kids.”
― Todd Stocker

“Parenting is a sacred responsibility with the sobering reality, of raising scholars or scars.”
― Tom Althouse, The Frowny Face Cow

“Therefore, the idle parent who wants to stop the whining needs to stop whining himself, and one way is to resist the call to work ever longer and harder hours. Throw your BlackBerry into the river. Unslave yourself. Hard work will not lead to health and happiness. Just ask yourself: would you rather spend your child’s first few years playing with them or working for the mega-corp in order to make them profits and you money to buy rubbish you don’t need in order to dull the pain of overwork?”
― Tom Hodgkinson, The Idle Parent: Why Laid-Back Parents Raise Happier and Healthier Kids

“Instead of celebrating what makes each child unique, most parents push their children to “fit in” so that they don’t “stick out.” This unwittingly stomps out individuality and encourages conformity, despite these parents’ good intentions”
― Tom Rath, How Full Is Your Bucket?

“Now and again, one could detect in a childless woman of a certain age the various characteristics of all the children she had never issued. Her body was haunted by the ghost of souls who hadn’t lived yet. Premature ghosts. Half-ghosts. X’s without Y’s. Y’s without X’s. They applied at her womb and were denied, but, meant for her and no one else, they wouldn’t go away. Like tiny ectoplasmic gophers, they hunkered in her tear ducts. They shone through her sighs. Often to her chagrin, they would soften the voice she used in the marketplace. When she spilled wine, it was their playful antics that jostled the glass. They called out her name in the bath or when she passed real children in the street. The spirit babies were everywhere her companions, and everywhere they left her lonesome – yet they no more bore her resentment than a seed resents uneaten fruit. Like pet gnats, like phosphorescence, like sighs on a string, they would follow her into eternity.”
― Tom Robbins, Fierce Invalids Home from Hot Climates

“Being a parent is like being a catcher. You gotta handle whatever is thrown your way.”
― Tom Swyers

“On occasions the person may appear ill-mannered; for example, one young man with Asperger’s Syndrome wanted to attract his mother’s attention while she was talking to a group of her friends, and loudly said, ‘Hey, you!’, apparently unaware of the more appropriate means of addressing his mother in public. The child, being impulsive and not aware of the consequences, says the first thing that comes into their mind. Strangers may consider the child to be rude, inconsiderate or spoilt, giving the parents a withering look and assuming the unusual social behavior is a result of parental incompetence. They may comment, ‘Well, if I had him for two weeks he would be a different child.’ The parents’ reaction may be that they would gladly let them have the child, as they need a rest, and to prove a point.”
― Tony Attwood

“The single greatest reason why we are losing a generation is because the home is no longer the place of the transference of the faith. We live in a day of ‘outsourcing’…Today, we have a generation of people that outsource their kids.”
― Tony Evans

“Stories arrest us. Parents use stories to capture the attention of active children. Preachers use stories to capture the attention of sleepy adults.”
― Tony Reinke, Lit!: A Christian Guide to Reading Books

“Love with your whole heart, and never be sorry you did.–tdf”
― Tonya D. Floyd, The Signature Movement

“I know what it feels like to miss everything about him–the way he smells, the way his mouth curls up when he laughs, his voice.”
― Travis Neighbor Ward, Come Find Me

“There were nine casualties during the battle of Kirkuk. My husband was among them.”
― Travis Neighbor Ward, Come Find Me

“For parents, the days are long but the years are short.”
― Travis Thrasher, A Robertson Family Christmas

“In that day, we didn’t have no remote controls and vacuum cleaners. If you wanted all that stuff you had children!”
― Tyler Perry

“I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren’t trying to teach us. We are formed by little scraps of wisdom.”
― Umberto Eco, Foucault’s Pendulum

“That’s the nature of being a parent, Sabine has discovered. You’ll love your children far more than you ever loved your parents, and — in the recognition that your own children cannot fathom the depth of your love — you come to understand the tragic, unrequited love of your own parents.”
― Ursula Hegi

“Just remember something, okay? And this is neither here nor there but it’s something I really want you to know. Not that I think you have much trouble with this, but let’s be clear: you don’t owe your parents anything if they don’t respect you. That’s bullshit, to be taught that just because they created you and made sure you didn’t roll over in your crib and die, you owe them anything. So what I’m saying is use him. Use him if you can, if he lets you. But then don’t think you ever have to look back if he doesn’t respect you.”
― Vee Hoffman

“It seems to me that if God felt it best to delay marriage into the latter part of your twenties, He would also see fit to delay the hormonal urge to want to have sex. Or perhaps it was never His intent to delay marriage in an effort to “become more independent,” “enjoy singlehood,” and “build our careers.”
― Vicki Courtney, Five Conversations You Must Have with Your Daughter

“We do children an enormous disservice when we assume that they cannot appreciate anything beyond drive through fare and nutritionally marginal, kid-targeted convenience foods. Our children are capable of consuming something that grew in a garden or on a tree and never saw a deep fryer. They are capable of making it through diner at a sit-down restaurant with tablecloths and no climbing equipment. Children deserve quality nourishment.”
― Victoria Moran, Lit From Within: Tending Your Soul For Lifelong Beauty

“So much is asked of parents, and so little is given.”
― Virginia Satir

“All problems, though appearing outside of you, must be resolved within YOU.”
― Vivian Amis, The Essentials of Life

“We all need a cheering committee and parents are a child’s most important fans!”
― Vivian Kirkfield

“The key is to understand that our children don’t belong to us—they belong to God. Our goal as parents must not be limited by our own vision. I am a finite, sinful, selfish man. Why would I want to plan out my children’s future when I can entrust them to the infinite, omnipotent, immutable, sovereign Lord of the universe? I don’t want to tell God what to do with my children—I want Him to tell me!”
― Voddie T. Baucham Jr., Family Driven Faith: Doing What It Takes to Raise Sons and Daughters Who Walk with God

“The greatest source of security our children have in this world is a God-honoring, Christ-centered marriage between their parents.”
― Voddie T. Baucham Jr., Family Shepherds: Calling and Equipping Men to Lead Their Homes

“Discipline our children is not about teaching them to behave in a way that won’t embarrass us. We’re working toward something much more important than that. We’re actually raising our children with a view toward leading them to trust and to follow Christ.”
― Voddie T. Baucham Jr., Family Shepherds: Calling and Equipping Men to Lead Their Homes

“Children are people, and they should have to reach to learn about things, to understand things, just as adults have to reach if they want to grow in mental stature. Life is composed of lights and shadows, and we would be untruthful, insincere, and saccharine if we tried to pretend there were no shadows. Most things are good, and they are the strongest things; but there are evil things too, and you are not doing a child a favor by trying to shield him from reality. The important thing is to teach a child that good can always triumph over evil.”
― Walt Disney Company

“The sages advise us to study Torah lishma-“for its own sake” rather than to impress others with our scholarship. A paradox of parenting is that if we love our children for their own sake rather than for their achievements, it’s more likely that they will reach their true potential.”
― Wendy Mogel, The Blessing of a Skinned Knee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children

“Nurturing a child’s sense of personal worth and therefore hope and dreams for a wonderful future is perhaps the most important responsibility of every grownup in a child’s life.”
― Wess Stafford

“Praise your children openly, reprove them secretly.”
― William Cecil

“Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children; and here was one who was worshipping a stone!”
― William Makepeace Thackeray

“The world (including Drapervilleh is not a nice place, and the innocent and the young have to take their chances. They cannot be watched over, twenty-four hours of the day. At what moment, from what hiding-place, the idea of evil will strike, there is no telling. And when it does, the result is not always disastrous. Children have their own incalculable strength and weakness, and this, for all their seeming helplessness, will determine the pattern of their lives. Even when you suspect why they fall downstairs, you cannot be sure. You have no way of knowing whether their fright is permanent or can be healed by putting butter on the large lump that comes out on their foreheads after a fall.”
― William Maxwell, Time Will Darken It

“Oftentimes I felt ridiculous giving my seal of approval to what was in reality such a natural thing to do, sort of like reinventing the wheel and extolling its virtues. Had parents’ intuition sunk so low that some strange man had to tell modern women that it was okay to sleep with their babies?”
― William Sears, Sids: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding and Preventing Sudden Infant Death Syndrome

“Let me say for now that we knew once the Creation was broken, true fathering would be much more lacking than mothering. Don’t misunderstand me, both are needed- but an emphasis on fathering is necessary because of the enormity of its absence”
― Wm. Paul Young, The Shack

“But to be a parent is to live in the past-present-future all at once. It is to hug your children and be intensely aware of how much smaller they felt last year … even as you wonder how much bigger they will feel the next. It is to be a time-shifter, to marvel at the budding of their intellect, their verbal dexterity, their sense of humor … at the same time rewinding and fast-forwarding … to when they were younger, to when they’ll be older. It is to experience longing for the here and now, which I know sounds flaky – sort of like complaining about being homesick when you’re already home – but can happen, trust me, when you live in multiple time zones all at once.”
― Youngme Moon, Different: Escaping the Competitive Herd

“My children taught me the true meaning of unconditional love.”
― Yvonne Pierre, The Day My Soul Cried: A Memoir

“Often people ask, “How can you say you’re blessed to have a son with Down syndrome?” My outlook on life has forever changed. I see my own challenges differently. He’s always showing me that life is so much bigger than self.”
― Yvonne Pierre, The Day My Soul Cried: A Memoir

“Sacrifice was nine tenths of parenting.”
― Zadie Smith, White Teeth

“Always remember, wherever you are, whether near or far, you had a mother who really, really loved you. The original mother. Once you’ve found your true inner guru you can never again be divided. Perfect union with the divine, through the grace of your real teacher, transcends time, space, death and all worldly limitations. Your real teacher is the original mother – regardless in which manifest or non-manifest form, or gender, she appears. The one who nurtures you and the one who also, out of wisdom and compassion, corrects you if you are misguided.”
― Zeena Schreck

“Only those few who are able to surpass their fear of death completely can fully experience the highest forms of life; not the mundane life of the mortal, but the godly life of the resurrected.”
― Zeena Schreck