Sometimes we are being caught off guard with questions that we wished were never asked of us. Most of these issues concern our way of parenting. It would get annoying most of the time, especially if the people who are throwing those questions sounded like they are judging our parenting styles or worse trying to compare it with theirs. They are mainly suggesting their standards of raising the children and attempting to show us that it is supposed to be like this and that. Those kinds of situations no matter how mature are we to understand were inevitably stepping on our pride.
How come the child doesn’t know about or how to…
The above question could be asked in a different manner, rather than seeming like judging the child’s inability (physical or mental) it could be better delivered with concern. In response, we should ask ourselves the same and try to identify where does the person who have asked is coming. Does that person have the basis to notice such behavior, etc. or does he or she just wants to point out something on my face? However, regardless of what other people’s purposes are in raising that kind of question we should respond appropriately and in a rightful manner.
Haven’t that child being taught about or how to…
It may sound like the same as the first, but this one comes with an insult. If the first question focuses on our children’s inability, notice that this particular question directs to us. In response, it should be in the same manner as the first, remember that we cannot overcome pride with a higher pride. We just basically give them what they want, always be reminded that if we lose our temper or react violently over these approaches we are already giving them the answer to their questions.
Why those children are being allowed to…
Yes, this is a form of parenting criticism that is, as we know is not OKAY. However, same the same responses will do and probably if in a sense, we figured that they mean it differently (not as what we thought) we can just casually shrug it off or let it pass.
The question about our presence and time with our children.
People would instantly conclude that our absence is the primary cause of the mistakes that our children do commit. Further, it would be easy for them to say that our kids lacks guidance and are not properly disciplined. Before trying to prove them wrong we have to look at the circumstances, do we have enough time to guide our children accordingly? If so, then there’s nothing we should be worried about because if there are people who should know our kids well, it’s us.
We cannot just simply ignore other people’s comments in the same way that we should not take them all personally. Weight things and reflect, at the end of the day, it’s our children’s behavior that would determine whether we have done our part, and responsibilities as parents or the other people might be correct. But of course, we should not let it reach that point, take immediate action on the first sign that may lead our children to observe improper behavior.